now wen I came to know tht he zz hving this feari decided to stop talking with everyone but my boy is telling me tht he lost his pure love on me.. he is telling me tht he loves me but not like before I begged him very badly… for 8 days I cried and begged him….. v both are very close…. v are mutually into evrythg even sex…. now he zz telling tht he is tired of fear and he can’t be like before frdzz what should I do?

My boyfriend broke up with me in June and we got back together in July. One day we went out for lunch and for some reason I got mad at him and said some mean things. And he broke up with me again. He said he wants his space and he is in frustration because he is not getting his degree. So we decided to take a break for 6 months. I help him with the paper things for his college so we at least see each other once a week. I know he loves me but I really don’t need a break. Please advice me how do I get him back? I feel like we are soulmates and just can’t think of being with other man. We are really strong emotionally and physically attracte but something went wrong in our relationship that we can’t figure it out. Please advise me how to get him back

i had a boyfriend we were serious now its been more than a week i did no contact or begging or crying since hes been gone he have a new girlfriend they been together for a year it broke my heart hes with another girl i really miss him like crazy i cant stop thinking about him can i get him back or its too late??

No men ever attract to women who is overly rigid and tough. If you tries to take advantage of your men  then you only pushing him away from you. This kills all the attraction from the relationship and sooner your boyfriend will start finding someone else who he can protect.

My ex broke up with me in Febuary this year while I was at overseas. We were together for 8 months. I was planned to work at overseas for 6 months from January. we didn’t talk much during that period of time because I know he work really hard and long hours( at least 8 hours a day sometimes 12 hours),I texted him every 2 days or 3 days and he barely replied. He broke up with me said because of a lack of common interest and culture crash. we were in a really long distance relationship.

If you didn’t break up, you would never meet that next guy that will come along. Yes – he will come along – but only if you think positively. Open up yourself to new opportunities by looking at things from the right angle. Your heart is broken because you let it be broken. You can’t get over your ex – not because of him, but because of yourself – you do not let yourself get over him. Allow yourself to move on. It’s easier than you think.

I’m a very optimistic and I reply to your message with hope that time does help because things change. What you thought was real changes.. I was so mad when I found this out because it’s so cynical and it really ruined my perception of everything but it has helped force me to move on. My ex was in a relationship with one of his former girlfriends 2 weeks after we broke up. At first I was sure it was textbook rebound because she was so available to him. Then, after a few days, I realized she wasn’t his consolation prize, she was his preference. It tore me apart. I questioned everything. Now I believed he loved me very much when he did and all of our decisions for breaking up are still true but he left out that he was breaking up with me so that he could date her because I was too hard, our relationship was too hard and the future was going to be too much change for him. I knew who she was. She would text him occasionally. I wasn’t threatened by her because we were so strong but we were doing 3hr long distance and he would have had to change his entire life for me. It’s so Hubbell (from Sex and the City, season 2 finale). She’s easy, simple, not complicated. Things just got too hard with me. I have responsibilities, a real job (engineer), a child, a mortgage, and passion for living a meaningful life. He fell out of love with me in the last month. I saw the signs. I felt the distance growing. I just thought it was the honeymoon phase ending and time for us to inject some new passion in the next month. I didn’t get a next month. She pulled him away from me. Once I was able to accept the new reality of why we ended, I am able to move on a lot quicker. He had no intentions of hurting me. He didn’t know he would fall out of love with me. He’s just doing what is best for him. That’s just the direction his life wants to take him. If he wants small town, simple, and boring then he’s not the man for me. I hate the idea of starting over. I hate the idea of having to be with someone other than him but he is not meant for me. Deep in my heart I know this but I still grieve the loss of love occasionally but it’s gotten much better and I can look forward a little more than before. It’s terrifying to think that anyone we give our heart to can just decide they don’t want it anymore. But in the end what can you really do? You shouldn’t change who you are, what you need, what your standards are, or how you act to keep love. All you can do is share your love and the right person won’t let it go. It never works until it finally does. Be the person you want to be every day of your life and someone will want to share it with you. 95% of the population gets married in their lifetime. 95%! My ex of 1 year of my life. Just a fraction of the whole journey.

And take my word on it – sitting there with your ice-cream tub, box of Kleenex, and some really sappy music playing in the background isn’t going to get him back. Nor is scouring the Internet for ‘how to get my ex-boyfriend back,’ or ‘Can I get my ex-boyfriend back,’ or even ‘tips to get my ex-boyfriend fast!’

Plus, you don’t want to find yourself in the goo-goo eyes phase with a new squeeze, only to invite them over and then have to explain why you still have a poem your ex wrote you hanging above your bed (I’ve been there, done that, and it’s all kinds of awkward).

Usually I tell women not to let themselves go because most men don’t like having a… “big boned” girlfriend. However, your situation is different since you have accepted that all you want to do here is to move on from your ex. I am telling you not to let yourself go in this case for your own health. You are at another fork in the road (yes, I pulled out the analogy again.) You can let the breakup beat you OR you can beat it.

In our therapy sessions Peter recalled that in his family expressions of anger were not allowed.  As a young boy with no one who would listen when he felt negative feelings, Peter often felt abandoned.  

Give him a hint that you still want to be together after some time. With that, he will also think twice about seriously dating another girl and hope for another chance for the two of you, thereby boosting your chances of rekindling your relationship with him.

Once you’re set and committed and know you want him back and that he truly deserves you back, and both of your lives are much more enriched because of the relationship, then there is nothing at all that should hold you back. You really, really, really can win him back no matter how bad things might seem.

Dear! Sometimes it is really important that you tell the truth , how harsh it might be to the listener. It eventually does good to both the persons involved.If you do not want to face him, write a mail and make it absolutely clear that you are totally over him.And that you are not comfortable with him interfering in your personal life more than required.

2. If your answer to both questions was yes, go ahead and reach out. Start off super-casual to take the temperature of things. Say something like, “It was so nice to see your name on Facebook! How are you?” His response will reveal a lot. If his reply is short and curt (“Hey there, hope all’s well.”) that’s not a good sign. If he’s effusive (think exclamation points or a smiley face) and asks you questions about yourself, that’s a green light to take things a step further.

If you wish to avoid this Monotony of Relationship then you have to increase your value higher than the level you had before your previous relationship. You can surely increase your value with some actions that you will find later in this website but for now I want you to consider becoming the girl that you were before getting into your previous relationship.

It feels exceptionally terrible to be losing the love of your life, especially when you are about to propose to her, mentally and financially ready for her, and also on a festive season. Im lost, i really want her back and wished that i can still work things out, but i know, the ball is no longer in my court. I can only keep improving, keep working and praying.

Many women will, unfortunately, experience how excruciatingly painful it can be when you’re still in love with a guy after your relationship has come to an end. There can be a lot of insecurities that can come over you, and the last thing that you want to do is let these feelings win.

If you think you will never be happy on your own and will only be happy with him, you’re setting yourself up for a big failure. Because what this means exactly is you are afraid that he might leave you for good, or that he has completely moved on with his life without you.

Use the past to your advantage. If your ex really liked a certain outfit of yours, wear it again. Share a light-hearted memory you had together. Meet at a familiar place you used to hang out together.

The whole coaching session covers how to handle the first contact text message. When I got to the part where Whitney (the woman I was coaching) and I were talking about how to use her knowledge of her ex properly I explained the idea of creating a theme for a text message.

Make a list of all the reasons why you deserve to be happy. This will keep you from feeling sorry for yourself. List friends, family, opportunities, and your general health. When you take stock of all that you have, you might feel better instantly.

Date other people with caution. If the ultimate goal is to get your ex back, then dating someone else can push him away. You don’t want to sabotage your chances of getting back together if that is what you want.

Today was the day I did not respond his text, however he called me and I answered. Do I still ignore his text when he tells me that he will disappear and not bug me anymore? So lost and confused, will this 4 weeks detox really work? Help

4. Good response so far? Suggest a short, low-key meet-up, like going out for coffee. It’s neutral, so you’re not putting yourself on the line too much if the romantic interest isn’t there on his part. Or, propose revisiting one of your old haunts, like the bar where you used to meet after work, or your favorite Thai restaurant from back in the day. Being in that familiar environment will trigger memories of the past.