Letting go can be hard to do. But everything in life always come and gone, and we pass it through. Why do you think you cant get over your ex. I am sure you can. Move on your life and start doing things before you met him, or continue trying things you never done. Make yourself busy with something more exciting, something new, something fresh.

It seems that relationships become completely different things over time. An initial relationship has completely different values from a ‘vintage’ relationship. Furthermore a relationship has different values depending on your age. When relationships being, both partners have a distorted impression of each other. They are high on emotion and are in the attraction stage thus those annoying little ticks that drive you insane are unnoticeable under all of the excitement. The middle stage is withdrawal. The chemicals start to ebb after about 2 years and this is where the rationalization arguments begin. Where you argue because you are irritated and project your withdrawal on to your partner because they are no longer on the pedestal that you yourself put them. Now this where most people say good bye, or sometimes through some sense of duty and loyalty they never resolve the problems they just endure them and the unhappy relationship continues. Some others they reach another plane of a relationship. Where that person becomes a part of you. You have gone through the withdrawal and now you are life partners you are one body. In this throw away world, not enough people have enough humility or self awareness to reach this level. They are too busy trying to find their next fix after during the withdrawal phase. Sad…

This ability to talk collaboratively, without criticism, blame or demands for change, is probably what accounts for the statistics that say that most couples who remain married over time become increasingly happy with their partnership.

Sometimes you have to move backwards to go forwards. This was one important lesson I learned throughout my ordeal and was definitely a tough one. Prior to breaking up, my spouse and I had been living together for several years in a seemingly committed relationship. So once we decided to split up, it just didn’t make sense to me how we would be working on our relationship yet no longer living together.

My girlfriend and I were together for a year and 2 months and she kept repeating, daily, that this is the best thing in her life, and we’re meant together. We are very close. I’ve personally never known a person I want to be with more than her, and she expressed the same in visits, writing letters, and texts. Around Christmas, while she was staying with her family (she lives in the adjacent country but we travel constantly to see each other), and after a small discussion about where she might get a job and where we would live together, she turned completely and said (on new year’s eve) she can’t do a relationship anymore, she wants to be alone, that she’s a toxic person to me (she isn’t), and never wants a relationship again, ever, with anyone. She did not explain the details why making such a heavy decision, she said she feels inadequate, and that I shouldn’t contact her any more if I want her to stay. I am very confused. Now it’s been twenty days since we last had any contact and it’s killing me, I miss her and I wish we could talk. I have no idea what to do.

Omg I’ve been doing everything the wrong way. I moved out of m bf’s after we got in big argument cause I got home from work late. When I was actually at my therapist office asking for advice how to communicate better with my ex. Long story short, he got mad cause I deleted text messages that day. Ever since moving out he has “trust issue” so it’s been up and down. This is the longest we’ve gone without communicating or hanging out. I feel like he feels he has me so secure. I also have the messages he got so mad that i deleted i tried to show them to him but he won’t see them, I think he knows he over reacted and doesn’t want to see he was wrong. Sometimes i feel like just sending him the messages.. should i?

It doesn’t matter how long ago your relationship ended, or how your breakup happened. Because you had an emotional connection, there will always be a path that leads back into your ex boyfriend’s heart.

been there.. after breaking up with my boyfriend I just couldnt move on. 10 months passed and I realised i have to do smth with my life.. so I just started all over, started hanging out on new places, met new people, started doing new things.. got rid of everything that reminend me of him (thats very important). I started medidation and yoga. It actaully really helps you to find your inner peace and embrace yourself.

The most complete people I have ever met were the ones who figured out how to push that uncertainty out of the way and step outside their comfort zone. They gained a lot of interesting experiences and became more complete human beings. I want that for you!

My ex boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up about 5 months ago, he blocked me off everything, reason why he broke up with me was because of distance (he didn’t have a car anymore), he wanted to concentrate on school and wasn’t looking to get a girlfriend or anything like that. The break up was extremely ugly. I notice on social media a week afterwards he posted someone’s initials with a heart next to it which I thought he did purposely for me to see but fast forward to now about to be 5 months later and I thought I have moved on, I found out he’s got a new girlfriend around the time we broke up. In the photos they look happy. The first photo date goes far back a month after which at that time we were in the texting phase (which he was flirty) before he randomly blocked me again. Since then, no word. After finding out the break up excuse was a lie and he had someone ready for when he dropped me, it opened up the same wound and I feel extremely hurt that he lied to me. When I think back about the end, everything was adding up and he confused me by acting as if no one else was in the picture. I’m also meeting his mother for lunch this Sunday since she wants to catch up and give me my things back that he refuses to meet me to do. I feel I’m going to cry and I have no control over my emotions anymore. And it hurts that despite all this, I still care for him. I can’t get how he can quickly move on.

Verdict: Let her go and tell her that when she’s healed from her last relationship, if she still wants to date you, then give you a call. Because you don’t want to be her rebound or her punching bag. (unless of course you’re into that sorta thing, then by all means stay and bask in all your martyrdom glory!)

“It depends who ended it. If the girl ended it, the guy might still want to be with her. If the guy ended it, it’s a good idea to find out why. If it was because of something the girl did, she should change whatever it was she was doing. Just don’t date another guy to try to make your ex jealous. It makes the guy feel used and is a waste of time for you. Your ex won’t get jealous. If anything he’ll just date another girl to try to do the same thing to you.”

Thanks Adrienne ? I’m so glad that it has helped and thank you for sharing with your girlfriends!! It depends on the type of guy that you’re ex is. If he’s emotionally unavailable, I would not respond at all until you see a change through his ACTIONS because remember, talk is cheap. XOXO

But dating him behind her back is not being nice to yourself. So don’t. You’ll regret it. Enjoy your memories of him. But remind yourself that you have new memories to make with someone else now. The only thing certain about life is change. Love for you tomorrow will be different for you than it was yesterday. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be just as good or better. Sit with your feelings until you are ready to try again. May take months or even a year or so. Don’t let people rush you. Sending you peace. I’m there, too.

This is where a guy puts in almost no effort with his girl. He leaves it to her to start the messaging or calling, always. He shows no concern or sympathy for any problems she might be having. He might even fail to initiate sex often through being too chill.

b.  Appearing to treat his wife as a second-rate citizen by ignoring her much of the time and by disagreeing with whatever she would say when they did talk.  His kindly telephone conversations, by contrast, with his ex-wife added fuel to her fire.

Me and my other half split up 5 weeks ago last sunday, he split with me 2 days after my 21st birthday. Yes he was my first love but I am completely smitten by him. When he broke it off with me he didnt give me much of a reason but gave me a kiss as he got out of my car. I got a text message saying “he doesnt want anything with me anymore, its a clean break and not just a break” but ive had no explination and im incredibly worried that he thinks the grass is greener. I made the mistake of texting him because i felt like i needed closure and he didnt give me that. After 2.5 years i deserve that right? He keeps telling people that hes “ignoring me to move on properly” and i just dont understand. 2 hours before breaking it off with me, he was telling me he loves me and misses me. And wrote in my birthday card “to my one and only” was this all a lie? Hes a very “led astray” person and his family like to drink and ever since this happened hes been drinking more, hes seen me once and not even made eye contact with me. He could never talk to me and convided in a mutual female friend who i now fear hes trying it on with. Hes getting on with his life whilst mines in the gutted. I really dont know if he loves me or has done for a while. Im so confused.

How long does it take for him to contact you. Me and my Ex of four ex broke up three weeks ago bc of constant fighting even though we both admitted we still loved each other and one week after the fight he starts hanging out and dating this troll. i contacted once to be a psycho path and then after I apologized and I told him I was happy for him and I hope he gets to be happy.

You are fearful that you won’t get him back that’s why you keep checking on him, asking about him, or even stalking him on social media. Your mind becomes preoccupied by what he does, who he is with, what he’s doing, and so on. Your are so focused on him that you forget the most important thing in this whole situation: YOURSELF.

honestly I did not show appreciation to my ex while we together. I missed valentines day and his birthday. when I decided to make the best of times with him it was to late. then I asked him for closure and he came talked in person. I told what if I got therapy because there is something going on that effects my relationships. he told its been three weeks and I’m over you….. I cried of course then looked at him and said I feel better. just got sick of being sad, doesn’t mean I’m over him. but its step. then I told me what was really going on and told he’s proud of me said I’m strong person and good girl. he told me to feel free to talk to him and said he wont be jerk to me. he also wants to improve. it sucks that I was to occupied with other stuff in life that i didn’t learn to understand him but oh well. that doesn’t mean has feelings for me. sadly I cant live in world that revolves around him I must create my own world and keeping living up to my goals. this relationship may have been painful but helped realize what I need. we are blind from pain because only look at the bad qualities that it brings us but we all need realize its actually beautiful because it shapes us. I’m going to embrace it this break up..

Again, your instincts are screwing with you. Trust me, no one takes their ex back out of pity. No one is attracted to someone who is miserable. And even if your ex came back because of this, do you really want your ex to be with you just because of pity? Or do you want them to respect and love you?

Tackle some projects. Do something you have been meaning to do for a while. When you are in a relationship, you make time for another person. Sometimes that means sacrificing things you want to do or have planned. Now that you are no longer in a relationship, you can get to those neglected activities.

In ISS, I wrote a four-page letter explaining how he’d made me feel and asking for an apology. He cursed me out and told me I’d be better off… gone… and then threatened to tell the vice principal I was bothering him. I felt really picked on and cried a lot and begged my mom to let me switch schools. She refused, because when I graduate I’ll be getting an Associate’s degree in Veterinary Assisting.

Stepback: The one thing that has saved millions of relations since from the very long past, is stepping back. If your partner is in severe mental pressure and trying to suppress you, just let it go. Step back for a second and move somewhere else separate.

Next good tip on how to get over your ex boyfriend is to do something new. You’ve got plenty of time on your hands now that your ex is out of the way, so why not use it productively and challenge yourself to do something new?

Once the text is sent, only wait for a reply. Do not keep texting him back until he answers you. If you don’t get a reply, that is fine. It may be just that he wasn’t expecting a text from you and he doesn’t know how to respond.

Now this is where you may seriously start questioning my tips. But hold on. You want to get him back and you have been working on yourself to do just that! But haven’t you, even in a teensy tiny moment during your journey of self-discovery, realized that it may not be all about ‘him?’ So, drop the act. You have found ‘YOU.’ Revel in YOU. If he has been having the same thoughts as you and wondering if it was a huge mistake and that things could really work out, an encounter will, well, be on its way!

I mean not to sound conceited but I’ve always been UG… I’m well travelled, well read. I run a successful business and have just launched a second. I write for fashion and music publications. I have an amazing lifestyle, with great family and friends. I have never let my physical appearance falter and I’m known for my sartorial fashion (both products of my modelling days). I’m not sure I can fit anymore into my life, other than my ex obviously lol.

He agreed to meet me and, at first, seemed really excited. We had a great first two hangouts. Then, on the third, I confessed that I wanted to get back together. I acted desperately, when I should have played it cool. He said he’s enjoying focusing on himself right now and that it’s not where he’s at anymore. He didn’t outright say it, but I’m afraid he’s moved on.

He said I was his first and best girlfriend. After no contact, he did realise all the things I did for him and how I was a great girlfriend. We decided to have another talk next year in february to give eachother, especially me, some space. I do want to be with him in the future, but I don’t understand if we are just stringing eachother along because it’s hard for both of us to let go.