Unfortunately one day she stopped supporting my dreams, our relationship started to struggle and we ultimately ended 65 days ago now. We tried as friends for the last month of it but it wasn’t working and one night when I told her I loved her, she didn’t feel the same, and we ended everything. No talking, no reconciliation, we just stopped. She reached out a day after to say sorry but it didn’t go anywhere.
I want you to take a good hard look at all of the alpha male qualities on this page. While some of the qualities are certainly more important than others to women no one quality will be enough to win back your ex girlfriend.
With time the bad memories of you will fade and the good memories will grow stronger. Meanwhile the rebound relationship will start to decay as the “newness” wears off and your ex finds that they aren’t really attracted to this new person as much as they thought.
Message her saying that you were scared to come on too strong before, and if she will give you another chance, you will show your true passion for her. Then, when you guys meet up again, grab her and kiss her immediately. Do whatever it takes to show her that you’re sexually attracted to her, that all you can think about is her.
Thanks “why men pull away” for highlighting these issues, including how difficult (and I would add often emotionally costly and doomed to make things worse) it is to focus on trying to change, as opposed to understand, your partner.
Get back in touch – After a couple of weeks, get in touch either with a text or a Facebook message. Say something friendly, maybe even inject a little humour. Something like “Hey, so I got the job… (yay for me) starting in a week” fancy a celebratory coffee? No kisses or desperate talk.
You put your self-worth, your happiness, your dreams and your entire life on the back burner just so you could be with your ex. Sometimes, people do it just to hold on to the possibility of being with their ex in the future. It’s a direct consequence of begging and pleading. It makes your ex think “Well, if you are that desperate to be with me, then you must accept everything that I want.”
Are you where you want to be in life? Is your career making you happy? Do you have a goal you what to achieve? Keep your goals in mind and keep your eyes on the prize. Focusing on the future will make it easier to stop dwelling on the past.
Please reconsider our relationship and please give it another chance!!! I’d do anything and give anything to make you happy and make our relationship work!!! Please, I’m begging you baby!!! This is obviously not the way I want to ask, and I’d want to do it more romantically and in person, but please marry me!!! You’re the best thing that has ever happened to me, you’re the best thing in my life and always have been!!! And I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and someday have a family with you!!!”
Everyone deserves to be happy and you shouldn’t settle for less just because you’ve ‘invested 5 years into the relationship and it would be a shame to give it up’. If you genuinely want to give it another shot, go ahead, but if the abuse continues and she does not change, I would suggest you be fair to yourself and walk away.
Here is what you should do. If she is ignoring you accept that she is upset with you. However, also accept the fact that somewhere deep down in her mind she kind of wants you to “fight for her forgiveness.”
So, what are some of the things you might do that would be too obvious? Well, for starters, showing up at your ex girlfriend’s favorite restaurant with a new girl when you know she’ll be there is not very subtle. So is making deliberate attempts to post pictures of you and other girls on Facebook (although if you can do this subtly, it can sometimes work). And talking to your ex’s friends just so you can tell them about your new girlfriend (knowing your ex will end up hearing this gossip) is also too obvious.
Work on improving your physical appearance – Before you start inviting her to a date again, make sure that you already shopped for new pieces of clothing. You should change your hairstyle, too, or improve your physique by hitting the gym. Make yourself look attractive for her once again. Ensure that you stand out and look fresh when the two of you get the chance to meet after a while.
She’s playing with you until she get what she wants from someone else. You are her comfort zone you know each other so she is just there with you after what she thinks is good is not. She she leave it becaue she thinks she found the one to replace you then she finds out the grass is not greener on the other side so she comes back. She is blaming you for cheating because she is not being 100% with you about what she is doing. She don’t want to have sex due to the fact thst she don’t want no emotional connection with you because she might find someone else and it will be hard to leave if there is emotionally attached to you.
Remember that she was attracted to you due to the great feelings she experiences when she is with you. She loved you back then because you fulfilled her emotional needs. Did you change when you were finally together before? If yes, then it’s time to correct your mistakes and bad habits, if there are any.
After following No Contact for four weeks, it is time to communicate with her. She will be lonely and have all good memories of her past relationship. She will be thinking about good times you both have spent together in the past. The balance of power will be on your side, and she will be insecure while you are not.
Alright, lets say that I was trying to get an ex girlfriend back and I had made it this far into the step by step process I am outlining here. I took out a sheet of paper and wrote down what I thought our best couple experiences were together. For the sake of this page lets say that me and my ex had an experience where we were watching a football game outdoors and it was really cold. She was getting very cold so I offered her my jacket.
However, I would say that the average man will leave a relationship when his is no longer getting what he needs. No I am not talking about sex here (although that can lead to problems for some men.) I am talking about admiration.
Create boundaries at home and limit the time spent there while she is around. Perhaps go out more, and even if you are at home, sleep in different rooms and engage in as little small talk as possible. You could use this article to provide you with more tips on what you can do while she’s still around.
My ex girlfriend and I broke up 3 days ago. Reason? I treated her like a queen, she had a 5 year old adorable daughter at the time, we got really really attached. Me and my girl were very happy a few months ago. 2 months ago she wanted marriage, kids, moving in, all that. Well I did everything for this girl, picked her kids up from school so she could get more sleep, fixed her car, took her out to dinner, told her how beautiful she was, we started to argue because I’d get pissed when she canceled important plans to do things with her friends. She did not make me a priority. I feel like I got took for a ride. When we broke up I went to her house and basically told it how it was, I did this in anger. I told her I deserve better, and that she has used me for the last time. Well I left and she texted me crap like “sorry it didn’t work out you deserve someone great” and I replied “fuck off” and basically kept that attitude for a day until I cooled up. I went out on a date last night with a girl (more attractive than her) and she knows about it and made a comment like “well that was fast”. We are meeting tomorrow to end things the right way, civil. But I want her back. Is there anything I can do?
YOU control the amount of DMV that women perceive in you, meaning you DO have the power to get her back, and to get girls hotter than her if you want them. That is why I created this website – tohelp you become the attractive man who has this power over women (and more specifically your ex), regardless of your occupation, salary and looks.