Being a happy and confident person is probably the most important thing when it comes to getting your ex back. You need to realize that happiness and confidence is something that you can get by working on yourself. Here are a few ideas that will help you gain more confidence and become a happier person.
well my ex and i split up 2 weeks ago and i had preordered flowers for her for vday and i forgot lol she recieved them and told me thank you and i told her i do miss her and all she sent was a smiley face i was like wtf. any way we split up over me feeling like i was being used and she had no time except for her business and she wanted me there with her helping. Just wasnt my thing. I mean there was good qualities but i was to damn blind to see she wasnt ready due to her business struggling and that is all she had time for. well we had gotten into a huge fight. and i left. Silly thing is i would love to get her back. Just no clue how. I mean i can move on and easily find another woman but something tells me to try for her. any suggestions?
Update: I caught up with my ex girlfriend recently and she told me she doesn’t love me anymore and she was quite clear and her feelings faded a while ago and she was just in the relationship for me, not for her. She doesn’t want me anymore and I’m obviously depressed. This is the girl I wanted to marry. I don’t think any amount of no contact is going to help my situation at all as she said she wants to be alone for a while and is ok with being single the rest of her life. What do I do now? She’s already deleted photos of us and me off Facebook and told me she won’t add me back on Facebook. She doesn’t want anything to do with me as the trust she had for me went a long time ago. She always suspected me of cheating when I’m never did anything of the sort. 5 years spent with this girl to end like this. She caught me off guard and left me. And she’s much happier without me. Someone please help me. What do I do? Is there any chance of getting her back at all? I want her back
Remember that cycling relationships (those that experience breakups and get back together) tend to have a higher rate of dissatisfaction, lack of trust, and eventual failure, so be prepared to put extra work into your new relationship.
Hi the NC seems to be working. At work she told me she misses me and missed my kisses. She also hinted of wanting to get back together. What should I do? Should I continue the NC rule? or just go with the flow ?
It is good to avoid talking about previous relationship and don’t put blame of previous breakup on your ex girlfriend. This will raise her defense level and it may be possible your meet up ends up on arguments and disagreements that you never want.
So do try to gently push unproductive thoughts away from you, and focus instead on positive endeavors you care about. Let’s see if we can apply the concept of the cognitive triangle to how to move forward in your case:
I don’t want to talk about common mistakes that ended your relationship. If I start writing I can point out more than hundred mistakes that men do in their relationship however I don’t want to talk about these mistakes because all of these mistakes come to one BIG REASON and that is ‘loss of attraction’.
Hopefully, if everything goes as planned, your ex will not be able to resist you and will start to warm up to you again. After that it should only be a matter of time until they are back in your life.
Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal.
The Ex Recovery process is extremely tumultuous, and it is important to know that getting your ex back is worth it. If you were not happy in the relationship, why would you want to go back to it? If you do not see your exgirlfriend as a viable life partner, why would you try to get her back?
Don’t make the same mistakes. Remember that reflection period after your break up? Well, it should come in handy now. When you’re with your boyfriend again, remind yourself of what went wrong and try to prevent it from happening. If the problem was that you fought too much, then remind yourself to calm down when you have the urge to pick a fight. If your problem was that you were mean to his friends, try to be nicer, this time — your man should be worth it.
If after your month long hiatus you see your ex on the big date (more on this later) and they get even a *whiff* of neediness they will know that they hold all the cards and they will “pull” away from you again. Believe it or not, people don’t like to “hold all the cards,” they like a little bit of a challenge.
also he has already given her diamonds for her recent birthday, seems to be moving fast. And I can’t help but thinking of him proposing to her soon since they already knew each other so well. No, I don’t believe she ever cheated or started this with him while we were together.
I believe very strongly that outside influences have some bearing on the breakups. For example money problems, problems at work , health problems, etc. I believe these contribute to the breakdown of the relationship. If we don’t deliberately pay attention and put your loved one first. Then your are heading down a real steep hill and soon you will fall off the cliff.
One of the little things I always love about relationships that are going well is how you are constantly helping each other remember things. This tactic is no different and can definitely earn you some huge brownie points if you remind him about something he forgot. Lets look at a few examples.