Does it even make sense to chase her after her then??? She says she still loves me and always will, especially as I was her first sex partner. But wouldn’t her have other partners over that time make her move on and forget about me?

60 days is a good idea. From what you said, I don’t think you should get back together unless you get a guarantee from him that he will work on his issues and get help. In fact, you should not get back together unless he has already started going to therapy and has seen some improvement. But in the end, it’s your decision and I think you will make the right one after 60 days.

It is good to avoid talking about previous relationship and don’t put blame of previous breakup on your ex girlfriend. This will raise her defense level and it may be possible your meet up ends up on arguments and disagreements that you never want.

My boyfriend broke up with me over a month ago. He won’t answer my calls or texts and blocked me on Facebook. I am trying so hard to stop contacting him via text but it’s hard because we talked everyday for six months. I cry and miss him terribly and he won’t talk to me. I am trying to hard to do the 30 day no contact rule. my email is girl8eliza@hotmail.com

My girlfriend and I got together at a young age, I was 19 and she was 18. She moved to England to study but we maintained a long distance relationship for 5 years. I was on and off visiting her whilst trying to get a job to live with her but due to immigration it was extremely difficult. She has always been a physical person so a long distance for her was hard. She decided it was time to part ways because I was not getting a job. On the day of our break up she also admitted to cheating on me with her flat mate when they went on a vacation.

After researching over the internet, I found Michael’s Youtube videos. He talks about important aspects of a healthy relationship that I feel my relationship was missing. The thing that I like most about Michael’s videos was he was a relationship coach who has hundred of likes in his Youtube videos. I knew it is easy to get likes on your Youtube video but the interaction and feedback he was getting from his audience seems real dude to me.

That means you should do no contact at least until you have stopped panicking, regained your composure and figured out how to defeat the little devils (Stage 2). It can take from two weeks to three months. Read this article on no contact rule to figure out how much no contact is ideal for you.

If you search for how to get your ex back then you will find there are thousands of relationship courses from relationship courses that promises to help you in getting your ex back but let me tell you honesty. Most of these online ex back courses are just useless.

            When a woman does something so extreme as to leave her marriage, it is usually because she has sought many times to communicate her fears and distress to her husband, but he has not tried to understand or rescue her. Instead he has invalidated or corrected her feelings. This is especially heart-rending for a woman, because the very reason she chose to entrust herself to this man in the first place was because she believed her heart was safe with him. She was certain he would protect her feelings and make her feel safe — physically, emotionally, and mentally.

Hello, my ex-boyfriend and I have recently been in contact. We dated back in high school when we were 15 years old, and continued the very long relationship for 10 years until we were 25. We had only ever experienced each other during that time and we were truly in love. We broke up because I found out that he was being unfaithful. Looking back on this situation now, he could have handled the honesty better, but we were inexperienced and dealing with high school and undergrad. I don’t have negative feelings towards him presently. Fast forward to today, six years with no contact until mid-December 2016 when I had to reach out to him due to a background investigation for new employment. He responded to the message I sent him and we have been talking on the phone almost every day since. This past weekend we decided to hang out together, and we really enjoyed each other’s company. Everything felt so right and comfortable so we made the decision to sleep together. It may have been too soon, but again it just felt normal. We haven’t discussed the “what happens now?” I honestly don’t know if either of us really knows where this will go, and I don’t know how to address the situation. I don’t know if it was just a casual encounter or if it means he is interested in beginning a relationship again. I want to ask him what this all means, but I also don’t want to come off as clingy, desperate, or needy. I know it is better for things to develop organically, but at the same time I am a person who likes to know what I am in for. How do I handle this situation?

How do I tell him I don’t want to see him? Yes I do want him back exclusively as he is my one. Our relationship didn’t have any problems. I personally feel at 50.5 years old he’s going through a mid-life crisis.

Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal.

Money is one of the biggest stressors in a marriage. Couples worry and argue about it constantly. If you find you and your spouse are starting to badger each other over the bottom line, it’s time to have a penny-pinching powwow. “We are all guilty of something economists call ‘passive decision-making,’ which just means defaulting to the easy option,” says Jenny Anderson, coauthor of Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes. “Couples need to make an active plan about how they will manage their money: Combine it? Separate it? Create a joint account and keep some separate? Whatever the decision, both people have to be part of the decision to do it and then figure out what needs to be done to keep the system humming.”

Making him work for your attention will make him respect you all the more if and when you do get back together. The first steps to take is to learn how to make your ex miss you. Once you have achieved that you have already started him reaching for a re-connection with you.

My girlfriend broke up with me saying she wasn’t ready for a relationship, I asked all her friends if this was true and they said that she’s never really had a bf. I was basically her first and they said she was scared I want to show her that I won’t hurt her. I’m a guy that isn’t looking for anything physical I am 16 and I’ve never made out with a girl. I was raised with very strict Christian morals and so was she I want to get her back, I just don’t know how to do it.

KEVIN, You already replied to the first part of my situation, but not the second. I would greatly appreciate input!! PLEASE. This is the first part, followed by your reply, and then lastly my follow-up to your answer:

In this case it really is the classic line “it’s not you, it’s me.” This one can be a little harder to come back from but trust me it can be done if you are smart about how you approach the situation.

Make sure you take the time to self-reflect and take responsibility for your own personal role in the ups and downs of your on-again, off-again relationship. “Anybody who thinks ‘it was all my partner’s fault’ is certainly fooling themselves,” says Dr. Miller. “There is this human tendency to explain disappointments as someone else’s fault, but relationships are the combination of two people.” Think about what you need to work on to be a better partner. If you’re having trouble identifying your own shortcomings, ask a friend (or even your ex) to help you see what you could improve on. You both broke up for a reason and as much as you hate to admit it, that reason may be the person staring back at you in the mirror. 

Well, my ex is now dating this new girl. We just broke up 2 weeks ago & they started dating a week ago. He had told me that he wanted me back & then out of nowhere maybe because he saw that I was talking to someone new, he just stopped talking to me & I texted him asking him what’s going on & he told me that he’s happy rn with that new girl …. everyone is telling me that they won’t last because they rushed into things pretty fast. But they really seem happy & she keeps posting pictures of them together. The worst part is, I talked to her & asked her to treat him good & make him happy & i told her all the things that make him happy & everything he loves …. so I basically gave him away … what do I do now ? I need some advice on the whole situation ..

It doesn’t matter how hard you try when you are with your ex girlfriend you are sub-communicating your neediness to her. Women are experts in picking up non-verbal communication. Even if you don’t say, they still pick your feeling that you are desperate to have her in your life.

Just like not every couple is meant to be, not all breakups are meant to be either. If you and your ex have decided to give love another shot, we’re sharing some expert tips for making it work the second time around.

That’s great to hear! Well to answer your question, respect is very subjective and the reason people start messing around with others isn’t so much out of the lack of respect in my opinion, but when a need or requirement in the relationship isn’t met, thus causing the person to seek it with someone else. It could either be physical needs, emotional needs, or others. If you want to avoid this happening in the future, you might need to ask yourself and think from her point of view and wonder why she cheated the first time around, and prevent it.

I read the 5-step plan but I’m at a loss as to what to do exactly after NC. I’ve already sent her a long apologizing letter so I’m not sure about sending her the “elephant in the room” letter. As to texting her to gradually build up attraction I’m not sure how to proceed since we rarely texted but instead we used to call each other all the time during our time together.

Honestly, this is tough for me to give advice on. You were faithful but he was not. I would say think very carefully if this person is worth getting in a relationship with again. Personally, cheating to me is a big no no and I don’t think I could forgive that so easily. But hey, that’s me.

It also can give you an opportunity to transform a part of you that is too dependent on him. This is the time to connect with your self-sufficiency, and your ability to make yourself happy. Even though you’re not talking to him, you’re connected to him and he will feel it.