You should be happy recognizing that you’re single because it means you can have limitless options. It means that you are not imprisoned in a reality where you can’t be happy unless you get a very, very specific outcome with one particular person.

I just can’t figure out if im doing something wrong, he just doesn’t like me anymore or is even more confused and lost then I am. Please give me some inside of my situation. I’m already watching your YouTube video’s which help me to keep up the no contact. But because of my metal state and trauma’s of abuse and the fear of being abandond I don’t know what is real or overanalyzing. If he care or just is an asshole. If I should go back to him (eventho I really want to) or if he has moved on and I am waisting my time.

Hey, Ryan. I was with my ex for almost three years. She broke it off five months ago. I was in a bad place at the time and was causing a lot of unnecessary discussions. I took care of my problems and I’ve been working on myself a lot since. I insisted on getting back together for the first two months, which didn’t work. We have kept in touch this time, but not in a flirty way. Plus she hasn’t agreed to go out with me. We saw each other twice on October, but she has declined to see me since. I tried no contact back in November and after 12 days she texted saying she missed her best friend (me). I started conversations and she said she was working on stuff of her own, but then started kind of ignoring me. For a while, I wished she would just shut the door on us so I could move on, and the fact that she refuses to do that makes me believe she still sees us together, though I don’t want to be seen like an option and that I’ll just run right back whenever she wants. I sent her flowers for Christmas, for which she thanked me and sent me a picture of them a week later out of the blue, but I didn’t make conversation. Early this year I asked if I could see her and she said no (actually says “not now”. Like I said, she always sort of evades being straightforward, and I don’t know what to make of that). I decided to get more serious with no contact. It’s been like 15 days and I’m getting the no contact “symptom” of thinking she doesn’t care/is trying to forget about me, etc. Is it too late to be doing no contact? What are your insights on her attitude of not giving clear answers? Thanks!

I really enjoyed reading this as well. I was in a relationship with my high school sweet heart for almost 9 years…we have been on and off for the last two…so its been about a year since the ‘real’ break-up…he is now with someone else…I can’t help but sometimes see hhis profile pics with her…it makes me literally sick to my stomach every time and sends me into a deep deepp depression…I kEep trying to realize my attachment to him is of psychological nature but there is this voice in the back of my mind that keeps saying “he is your soul mate.” “You will never find anyone better.” I am filled with regret even though. I know it was just as much his fault as mine in regards to the demise of “us”. I’m working on moving forward and realizing there can be joy, beauty and love in my life.

Here’s one piece of advice that will help you heal faster and in the process, or get him back (even though you probably won’t want him at that point). Drop all that yearning and pining now, and just move on.  

There is nothing more attractive to a guy than a woman who has a good vibe. Women who have a genuinely good vibe are more attractive to guys than any woman with a bad vibe, even if she’s got super-model looks.

No. You shouldn’t answer your ex’s call. The only exception to this is if you are close to ending your no contact and you are already feeling great about your life. If you think that talking to your ex will have you obsessing about them again, don’t answer their call.

.. That Just Shook Me Like I Was Half Dead… But Then I asked Him That If Career Is The Reason.. This Is Not A Valid Reason For A Break Up.. But I Understood What It Was.. It Was The Things I Reminded Him Of Past & That Made Him Upset But Due To His Job He Didnt Replied Me Much On My Msgs about the past.. So Right Now He Is Totally Out Of My World, Love For ame & etc.. but my main prob is also that one of my friend when i was crying Took his no. From my cellphone and messaged him about why was he firm fr the break up and why didnt he think of me.. so here my friend didnt know a single bit of our story ..(still dnt knw) .. she just msged a long lecture kind of paragraph to make him realise how much i loved him.. and she also wrote that a guy shouldnt play game or shouldnt use a girl like this..  just a relationship of 3 months is not done.. so he is now upset with me for this thing that y my friend said so when nothing such happened between us.. as it was long distanced.. and thus.. since then arguments ended.. and now i am in the ‘no contact’ with him right now.. 

When I didn’t hear a response from him the next few days, I decided to text him. I said I missed him and asked what was going on since he didn’t really give me an answer before. He responded that I was being mean to him and blaming him for everything and making fun of him. I had no idea where that had come from and when I asked him, he didn’t really respond. I was so devastated.

Well I guess some people do have it tough, getting over their past relationships. I have struggled with it for the past 2 years, I could not get myself to like another person, it felt like I was cheating myself so I just occupied myself with things that I loved doing( i like studying, so I started studying vigorously). This is the beauty of life, you have got so many things to do, so much to learn, so many people to meet, all you have to do it is to reach out to them. You can try occupying yourself with something you like. Making new relationships/friendships can be tricky, people who can do that get over this period rather easily. You need to keep telling yourself that you are doing good in life, and that the transition will take place, don’t try too hard. Life is short, so instead of sulking over a person that has moved out of life, better to liven it up. Because before you know it, time will pass and you will regret later that you could have used the time, you wasted thinking about a person who doesn’t matter to you anymore

After breakup you are most vulnerable to display insecurity and neediness to your boyfriend. Therefore, when your boyfriend around you it doesn’t matter how much harder you try you still send signals for neediness and insecurity.

If you are searching for how to get your ex boyfriend back then you need to prepare yourself for some difficult time ahead. This is because if you want to raise your value in the eyes of your boyfriend then you have to end the contact with your boyfriend at all cost.

Now, the key is to getting your ex back is making him want you. This means that despite how much you may be tempted to beg or plead for another chance, you should never do this — it’ll make you look weak, desperate and even pathetic…. that’s not the image you want to give yourself if you’re trying to win him over again.

This section is going to be controversial and when I say controversial I mean REALLY controversial. But that is ok, I kind of want it like that. I do want to say that just because I say something on here doesn’t mean you have to do it. In the end, the final decision is always yours.

Talk. Since communication problems are the number one cause of breakups, you need to work extra hard as a couple to ensure that you always keep lines of communication open. When you get back together, you need to take time to establish expectations, especially in areas that were problems before.

What you have to do, and it is critical .. is FIGHT your natural response to the event (which is to feel like you have little value and little to offer) so that you stem the loss of “value” and regain your power …

Write down goals. Make a list of realistic steps and a timeline to help you focus on anything but your break up and your ex. A sense of accomplishment will boost your self-esteem and remind you of your worth. Working hard towards something for the future will mean you’re less focused on the day-to-day and more determined on the overall big picture.

Act like you’re fine. One key way to make your ex jealous is to not let on that you are upset. Even if you are heartbroken, pretend that you are good. Don’t talk about the breakup, and don’t let your ex see your sad. Make your ex think that you don’t care that the relationship has ended.

If your answer is that you want him bad enough that you will do anything you have to, then read on because I have some great advice, tips, and step-by-step guidance videos that will give you the absolute best shot at getting your ex boyfriend back and keeping him for good.

Support him by breaking off communication and explaining in your last contact that the only thing you can offer him is refusing to communicate because that will support him in accepting the reality.  It doesn’t matter whether or not he agrees, ending the connection is the best way to support him in moving on otherwise you are enabling him to stay  fixated on the belief that things may change.  As for your other question no it is none of his business what you are doing and anything you tell him will only make the situation worse. He is being obsessive and invasive and if you are enabling him because your afraid of his anger then you should get some support, legally if necessary.

However, right now I feel a bit frustrated. All my life I am following exactly this path – I do enjoy my surroundings, my life, people around. And many people, even strangers, frequently comment that they rarely see a person as happy as me. Yet, unfortunately, very very few find me attractive enough to just start simple conversation, let alone anything like a relationship.

Few months ago I asked him tell me truth and I’ll walk away from you life , but he said I don’t have an answer and if I’ll deal my life’s troubles I’ll come to you to marry , but now live your life …etc, then he was keeping in touch sometimes , and now just silence from him. I gave up and don’t bothering him anymore too, I’m trying NC , also I disappeared from all my social nets, but I think it will useless in my case, he can’t solve his difficulties