Sorry because I am a bit tiring. I have doubts about “no contact rule” in my case. In my understanding your theory is based on the fact that there were happy moments in the relationship and after a while people tend to remember the good memories, the overall picture and forget about the problems (eg. clinginess, small debates), the small negative details. My relationship with this man though was about great sex and awful debates right afterwards (since I was fighting against my own feelings), therefore the overall picture is not good. There were no happy moments in this relationship with the exception of sex. Basically, I can say only the sexual attraction kept it alive at all for 3 months. And I am aware that sexual attraction can fade away fast so what remains is the overall negative picture. Am I not right?
So I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago because I knew that he wasn’t the “one” for me. We would constantly fight and we barely could relate on anything. After 2 years of dating, I still couldn’t see a future with him so I had to end things. The breakup resulted from a fight and happened all over text. I asked to meet up with him to talk about it in person but he said that he never wanted to see me again. He then blocked me on everything. I felt bad for breaking up with him because he was a nice guy, but it had to be done because we just had SO many differences. Now, three months later, we sometimes text, but every time we do it turns into him telling me how much he misses me and then we start fighting about everything. He told me that he could never be friends with me again because he was an “all or nothing” kinda guy. However, he was the person I lost my virginity to and my first true love so I can never truly forget him, and unlike him, I do want to keep in touch time to time but he wont allow that. And recently, Ive also started to miss him a lot. I miss talking to him more than anything. How do I get over him even though I was the one to end things? Not talking to him at all has messed me up because I am not used to it. I don’t know if I regret breaking up with him because I know i did the right thing. Its just that I miss some things about him and not being able to talk to him at all is killing me. I haven’t seen him in months and I keep getting remind of him because we have mutual friends. Please help me get over him. I haven’t been able to sleep properly for DAYS now because of him.
Well, it seems that he himself seems reluctant to meet you right now for whatever reasons. It could very well be that it’s too soon still, and you should give him more time and let him initiate on a meeting up instead. You’ve tried a couple of times and have been met with rejection so I don’t advice trying any further or you might push him away. Just take it casually, continue to focus on yourself first, and don’t let these little rejections get you down.
Everyone deserves to be happy and you shouldn’t settle for less just because you’ve ‘invested 5 years into the relationship and it would be a shame to give it up’. If you genuinely want to give it another shot, go ahead, but if the abuse continues and she does not change, I would suggest you be fair to yourself and walk away.
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You started to have your crazy and negative inner dialogues with yourself, especially when you were not with him. You thought of things that you feared the most. Then, you doubted your love and your relationship.
My ex broke up with me after 2.5 years with a message, however he never actually let go of me until last few days he told me he slept with someone and this someone is pregnant. He still has my dog and must keep it until December because of practical issues I can’t take the dog with me yet as her documents are missing. We still talk like normal people and he still tells me I’m the love of his life and the happiness and love he felt for me he never felt before, and when he says those things I feel better but than I think how he got someone pregnant after we were still talking to eachother, and he was still telling me he wants to try to make this relationship work?after all this time together and all the efforts I did. I get crazy. I have lost around 5/6 kg as I cannot eat and stop thinking because I’m afraid of my reaction of when I see a picture of him with someone else or their baby and I know he is not happy with her at least not now…but how to get over all this?how to stop thinking about him and this stupid thing he did? Our lives where very different and maybe if we would have stayed together we would have broken up or ended up getting a divorce, that’s the main reason that he broke up, our different cultures, backgrounds and future. So he just found someone who can accept that he is poor, works crazy hours for little money, has never money, before married and not yet divorced and with 3 children, but I was always trying to improve him to make him get the divorce, to find a better job and I thought him how to save money and many other things. But I think how can a man do this to someone he wanted to marry and have a future. And how a woman can keep the baby of someone she just met?i just want to be happy again and take my dog and wish that he will get what he deserves and realizes of what he has lost
It may seem like he’s being manipulated, but he’s an adult.. Unless there’s a gun pointed at him, every decision he made, he made it on his own.. And let’s say he is being manipulated, do you want a guy who can’t stand up for you, choose you or only chooses you when he’s having a problem with whome he’s currently with and then ignores you when they’re ok again?
Broke up with my ex after 6 years, he was manipulative, a liar and a cheat. As soon as we split up he started dating another girl. I asked him about it and he denied it. Anyway, it’s been 7 weeks now and he has been in constant contact with me. Last week it all come out that he was dating that girl all along. He admitted it all to me and told me he wanted me back, I foolishly told him that we could sort things out. He then decided he didn’t want me back and has now run back to that girl. It’s been a week since this happened and I haven’t heard off him since. I know I should not want a person like that back in my life. But I just want him to regret what he’s done and come begging for me back. Will he be sorry? And Is this girl just a rebound or does he really like her? I can’t stop obsessing over him. Every minute of the day he’s on my mind and I constantly stalk him and her on social media.
2. You also need some space and time. You need to get a hold of yourself and gain some perspective. The fact is, you are a mess after the breakup. And you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex is in your best interest. It could be that you are just missing your ex. You need to learn to enjoy your life without your ex. You need to prove to yourself that you can be happy without your ex. You will eventually realize that you DON’T NEED YOUR EX to be happy. Maybe you’ll still WANT them, but there is a big difference between needing something and wanting something.
Make no mistake, aloofness is actually sexy to women, just like being an asshole is…there’s something alluring to them about the fact that you don’t feel like you need to try hard. BUT, if you overdid the whole play it cool thing, your girl would have interpreted it as you going cold/lacking interest in her.
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If you focus your attention on spending time with your friends or pursuing a new hobby, you will have less time to miss your ex-boyfriend, which can help you avoid the pitfalls of getting back together just because you’re lonely.