It may be possible there are numbers of things that your ex was doing that make you uncomfortable. For example, she may leave all her crap in the bathroom, and you get angry for not having any space for your stuff. Or she may yell at you for watching television and drinking a beer when you are in the mood of unwinding yourself.
Hi Lauren… Please please help me My ex broke up with me three weeks ago. After the break up I begged him for two days. Then I did no contact for a week and tried to reconcile which lead to me begging again for two days when he said no. So now I have done a no contact for two weeks . He hasn’t been in touch with me since. I am worried he may never get in touch again. It is a long distance relationship and difficult to go and see him anytime. Why did we break up? We argued about something…he ignored me for few days then when we spoke I basically shouted at him for ignoring me we then got into a massive row and said things back and forth which resulted in him saying ‘I can’t do this anymore it’s over,’ Lauren, we had broken up before and it took us six months to get back together because in that six months we were both going back and forth, when he was ignoring me I wasn’t and when I was ignoring him he wasn’t, we went back and forth like this for a while until eventually we both just kissed and made up and it was all good for a month until the next row. I feel that when we are together we never argue but when we talk on the phone we argue. I explained this to him, but he doesn’t seem to listen or care about how good we are and does not wanna work on this relationship anymore. Please advise what I can do…. …
I’m really not in a position to waste time chasing her so I plan on telling her at the end of the night that I still have major feelings for her and we probably shouldn’t hang out if she doesn’t feel the same way, after I talk to her about some of the guilt that I’ve needed to gather my closure for. What do you think her intentions were in the first place? I haven’t asked any mutual friends that are involved because I don’t want anyone’s opinions or insight about something that only me and her should discuss but I would like some advice on what she could have going thru her head or maybe how to play it so that it does lead into us back together.
also he has already given her diamonds for her recent birthday, seems to be moving fast. And I can’t help but thinking of him proposing to her soon since they already knew each other so well. No, I don’t believe she ever cheated or started this with him while we were together.
There’s physical or emotional abuse. If they were abusive, you better think long and hardabout getting back together. Abusers do what they do because of them, not because of you. As such, unless they have gone through the treatment and counseling, they need to understand and correct their behavior.
For two years we didn’t speak. Both of us saw other people, had casual sex and I even had a year-long relationship. And then we reconnected (cheers Tinder, you absolute lad) and it just seemed insanely right. Now, we live together, crack each other up every day and have a genuinely great time. In fact, I think the break was the best thing that ever happened to us. And so far, none of our old crap has come back to haunt us.
Avoid acting bitterly towards your ex-partner if they tell you they are seeing someone else and try to respond with generosity. You do not want to be a source of negativity for your ex-partner and you do not want to turn them off in your attempts to reconnect with them.
I’m definitely NOT saying you should have been looking to have a kid with her recently – not at all. I’m just saying that the relationship should have been very gradually progressing into more and more serious territory. Women need to notice this kind of progress because it shows them that eventually the relationship could lead to them delivering what nature intended – kids.
As he is only 16, it could be very likely that he is still exploring his options which was why he did not want to stop talking to the new guy. There is a chance he still has feelings for you but isn’t sure, but you should be mentally prepared to walk away because he might not be emotionally mature enough to be seriously invested in the people he chooses to date.
I think you can try to get her back since it’s not coming from a place of desperation and neediness. So, follow the plan, build attraction and then ask her again to be your girlfriend. Even if it doesn’t work out again, you really don’t have anything to lose. At least, you can rest your mind knowing it’ll never work out with her.
You’ll have to start by being more honest with her, and making an attempt at showing your sincerity at changing to convince her. She may not think of you as much towards you but it doesn’t mean she has lost all feelings for you. If you really want her back, make those changes first, and let your actions show her that you’re capable of doing so.