Accept the break up and move on. If none of the steps above have worked for you, and/or if you have assessed the situation and decided it is not healthy or wise to continue trying to get your ex back, be sure that you take time for yourself emotionally to recover from your broken heart.
We are supposed to go to a concert in 2 days and bought her a ticket (before we broke up of course) and we are still supposed to go together as i dont know “friends”. At least thats what I said. Should I talk to her about something or what am I supposed to do? I can’t believe I love that girl so much. Distance and time did not change a thing for me. I could have had sex with 5 girls while in the US and same goes for her but we both didn’t… Doesn’t that mean anything… Please tell me what you think ASAP !!!
You will also know that getting back together is the best move for you if you realize that both of you will be miserable without each other. You still love her and she still loves you. If you and your ex-girlfriend still have lingering feelings for each other and can’t seem to move on because of your love, then it would be best to give your relationship a second chance.
If you contact her, talk with her like an old friend. Don’t feel desperate and don’t show any hint of neediness from your side. Act like you are completely fine and finally realize breakup was the best thing happened to you.
Try to do it initially several times a week, it takes only a few minutes. Accompany it with the keeping of an evening philosophical diary where you write down your impressions, thoughts, and reactions to how you feel and what happens to you. All of this should help you regain perspective on things.
#5 Up your game. You want her back? Show her you’ve changed. But don’t change for her, change for yourself. If you do this only for her, this won’t last. It has to be something you really want to do for you.
Getting an ex back takes persistence, optimism and various tactics. One of the most effective ways to win your ex girlfriend back in 5 steps, is through direct physical contact. Touch her every now and then to let her know that you are interested, and make her know that you have deep feelings for her. Communication is key in the making up process.
The most important step of how to get your ex girlfriend back is the no contact. This is double-edged sword my friend. If you use it carefully you will definitely increase your chances of getting ex girlfriend back but if you cheat it then you are the only one who will get hurt from it. There are many men who won their ex girlfriend because of no contact technique and people who don’t get their ex girlfriend because they didn’t do no contact or make mistakes.
Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were.
Me and my ex are both 20 years old and were in a relationship for a year. about 3 weeks ago he brought up the thought of wanting to break up, which surprised me. during the next two weeks we were kinda on a break because he claimed as being confused about everything and didn’t know what to do. then we met up again and he said he still isn’t sure whether we should break up or be together. he said that he probably doesn’t love me as much as i love him and that staying together might be a bad idea. i said that it’s probably best if we break up if he isnt completely sure that he wants me. so it was a kind of a mutual decision but it felt like neither of us wanted to actually do it. it is also worth noting that we are both currently very stressed as we are busy with college. we haven’t been in any contact for a week now so i don’t know what he feels right now, but i still wish that he would realise what he did and that he would want me back. i plan on not contacting him for a few weeks but I am afraid that he will work on getting over me during this time. when we were dating we used to take the same train about once a week. should i normally go on that train and just act friendly if i see him or should i avoid seeing him for a while?
Now that we diagnosed why your break up happened, you’re going to need to begin a No Contact Period. This applies regardless of whether you’re Category A, B or C, but since 95% of readers will be Category A, from this point on I’ll be proceeding under the assumption that you are Category A.
My GF and I were together for close to a year. She broke up with me about 3 months ago. Our relationship was actually really good. We hadn’t had any real disagreements. We communicated really well. We were planning on living together. Then Oade a huge mistake. I lied to her about something huge and important. I did so because I let my ego and pride get in the way of my rational thinking. She has completely shut me out of her life. She has blocked me from her phone, email and FB. I did make all of the early breakup mistakes like pleading with her to take me back. Apologizing over and over. It finally dawned on me that I never let her know that I wasn’t taking her feelings into consideration. I let her know that I did after a short period of time. I have read several different get your ex back e-books. All of them do not seem very promising as I am a woman and I try to think about how I would react to some of the steps given. I have done the no contact step. I have written her a couple of letters apologizing again. The last letter I wrote I basically told her some things I loved about her, how I was angry that when the going got tough she ran and that I was saying goodbye and good luck to her. I just dropped it off so I have not received a response…if I get one at all. I do love her and I do want her back. I can honestly say she is the one for me. Some of my friends have given me the “there are other fish in the sea” speech. That’s not what I want. I want the one that I love back. I guess I’m looking for some more advice. Anything I have missed in this whole process. Thanks head of time for any advice given. I do really appreciate it.
Would you want your ex constantly checking up on you, sending you messages and blasting notifications to your social media? Probably not. So, make sure you do your ex girlfriend the same courtesy. The best way to get over her and stop missing her is to make sure that you’re not constantly trying to get her attention.
Now YOU need space. And she won’t give it to you. She doesn’t want you to heal, she doesn’t want you in another healthy relationship. So you have to set some hard lines for your own peace of mind and happiness. Tell her she can’t call anymore. She is dating someone else and it is bad for you. She doesn’t get to ask who you are seeing all the time. It’s none of her business. You need to cut this off so you can free yourself to love someone who WILL TRUST you, who WON’T have jealousy issues, and who WILL truly want you to be happy.
Consider meditation during your personal time, to help you sort things out in your head. There are various meditation methods; the most basic is to sit and breathe evenly, focusing on the physical sensation of your own body, until your thoughts become clearer and less overwhelming.
After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.
Long story short, I met this girl and fell head over heels in love. We have been together four years. We moved in together almost two years ago. I asked her to marry me about two months later. During this time, I have stayed in contact with my ex-wife in just a friendly way, however, I kept this a secret from my fiancé. Well, she found out about six months ago and flipped out and asked me to move out. I did and begged her to take me back. After a few days or so, she agreed to start seeing me again. Now, about ten days ago, she broke up with me again and said it weighing on her mind all the time and she has thought about it and wants to break up. The difference was with the other breakup, she still texted me and said things like, “you just lost the best thing you’ll ever have”, etc. This time, I can barely get her to text me or anything. First few days she was very quiet, then she started ignoring me, then for two days she texted me like old times, then on Friday I wake up and she texts me that I am contacting her to much and she is unhappy about it. I say I won’t contact her anymore and I stopped. Well, Saturday night, she starts texting me asking me what I am doing, etc. This went on through Sunday, now here is Monday and she has gotten quiet again. I feel like I am dying. I did something stupid and nothing is working. She said, “No flowers, no cards, stop it.” Help please.