That’s why you need these 4 weeks to calm down, put the pieces back together, and take a real look at what your relationship was. Getting perspective means you can see clearly whether you were happy, whether you were right for each other, or whether you even want to have the relationship back.

Then, leave him be. Let him go through the 5 stages of grief – BY HIMSELF. You can not and must not entertain any attempts to contact you. This may sound cruel, but it will allow him to mentally break off the concept of him being in a relationship with you and learn to see you as a friend.

By understanding this four-step approach to rebuilding a relationship, you can improve the odds that you get back together with your ex and that you two have an even stronger relationship than ever before.

I’m pretty sure I did not say to wait around for him to come back, I said, many times, to move on. I said if there is a chance for things to work out it will only happen if both of you have had time away. My advice is to just move on no matter what because if he comes back, great. And if not, at least you’ve started to move on. Waiting around is what keeps you stuck in the same place and I definitely do NOT advocate that.And good fro you not waiting around, you’re doing the best thing for yourself and I hope you continue to have that strength.

The most important thing to remember is that you want to be subtle and positive. You’re not texting him to try to get him back, you’re not texting him to remind him of the relationship, you’re not even texting him to get him to like you again.

She thinks this because it is you pursuing her most of the time. She concludes (perhaps subconsciously) that a guy with high enough DMV (for her) would wait to be contacted over 50% of the time – “if he’s a high value guy, why would he do all the work?”

I’m been in a pain for my girlfriend lied to me because she want money I give her money after that all she cheated me but now I’m so happy about the guidance I have read I move on with my life not someone life

My ex and I have been together for 6 months and he broke up with me last Saturday over the phone. We were each other’s first loves. We’ve had the ‘Honeymoon’ phase but from around 2 months into the relationship up until our recent breakup, we’ve been having arguments based on jealousy, mistrust and miscommunications. We would make up the day after the argument and be good then have another argument a few days later. Most of the arguments were started by me due to my overthinking, insecurities and accusations. We broke up once in September over some trust issues and an argument, but got back together after a week. He said he needed time off to forget the pain and it was him who apologised asked me back. Anyway, this time we’ve had constant arguments for a week straight before the breakup, he said the mistrust and me always starting shit was too much for him and that he’s lost the attraction for me. I haven’t been needy after the breakup and haven’t done any of the 5 things to avoid. I have took time to reflect on my behaviours and realised my mistakes. I really wish we could start again. I’ve only texted him 2 days after the breakup, saying “hey” and asking him how he is. He responded rather quick and said he’s “decent”. I haven’t texted him back ever since and neither did he. Should I start the NC period now? And for how long should it last? Is there anything else I can do to contribute towards getting back together?

You have been out on a million dates to help wipe out his memory from your consciousness. But the more you try, the more he surfaces, like the bright sun peeking from behind the swathes of depressing clouds that dot your mental skyscape.

Casually hang out with your ex. Do something non-committal like have a drink with friends or play miniature golf, including him or her with others. Make it something friends and first dates alike can do. And whatever it is, keep it fun and skip out on the serious talks for now.

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I would like to open this opportunity for all of you to help me discuss about my relationship between I and my girl. I have been dating her for nearly a year now. At the beginning, our relationship was really motivating to me to move on, but no longer later it was a Hmong New Year and I took her to my friend’s noodle booth, and she was interested in my friend but I didn’t know that she would cheat on me and a day later I went to school in a whole day when I came back from school in the evening, I had called her many times but she didn’t answer. So I went to the Hmong New Year and I saw my girlfriend with a guy which is my friend in the noodle booth. They were drinking beer and hugging each other in the noodle booth. I felt perplexed how could she do that to me. And since that she always does something to outsmart me and when I ask her questions where she has been, she could not give a good answer, and now she always lie and try to do something secret, but I love her very much. I always wish her the best and suggest her to the best thing all the time but she was not improving, so now I want get over her and move on my way alone because I forgave her many times for what she did bad things to me. Now I want to let her go but I feel the pain a lot. So please help me the answers to get over her and just go.

From this point you can move on to the next stage of building the desire in him to want to be with you again. If the above three-step formula shows that there is still a chance of the two of you getting back together then it should be more than possible to re-ignite those flames of love quickly.