Well here is my situation – I started dating this girl 10 months ago right after her break up with her last boyfriend. Actually we started dating before they had even broken up. But everything was going smoothly; I am a really and I mean really kind person and I treated her really special. Everything was going so well I thought this wasn’t possible. Too good to be true, right? So after the 6th month I had to go to the US to work and travel for the summer ( I am from EU ) and we were really sad but we were still making plans for after I come back from the States and how everything is going to be all good and we are going to be happy etc. What really happened is – she started acting weird a little bit before I came back. She wasn’t writing me that much on Facebook anymore, less “I love you” lines which really got me thinking ( well, I was actually foooling myself as I thought that will pass or she is not in the mood these days… She actually really wasn’t but I was the reason ) So 3 days ago she came to visit me ( we study in the same city and same university but she was away from her home town because ((which was the town where we both studied)) she had a summer job and she worked close to where MY hometown is. So on the 4th day after i had come back we finally got the chance to meet when she was not at work and she just came to visit me in my home town. After we spent the whole day together, all my worries dissapeared. I thought I was worrying for no reason and it was all butterflies and rainbows. NO. We would usually have this thing to say “I love you” right after “talk to you soon” after we finish a phone call and yesterday she just didn’t say it and we always say it, as stupid as it sounds… it was our thing. I called her 2 mins later with some questions in mind to keep up a conversation for more than 2-3 mins just to see if she didn’t say it on purpose. Second time – no “I love you”… just same old “talk to you later” and that made me feel terrible. I texted her i wanted to talk and that something is wrong and we can’t keep this going like that. I meant it in good way, we can always fix something in a relationship right? I mean if we both loved each other. She replied “I want to talk to you too”. This was the text that made my heart go as if I had jumped off an airplane and both my parachutes had failed me. I instantly called her and asked her if she REALLY wanted to be with me or not. The answer was devastating for me – “I need to talk to you about that”. This just almost crushed me on the inside. We started talking and she explained to me that the feelings are just not the same; that feelings change and given the time that i was gone and distance she had from me, made her realized she felt a lot better having her own freedom.”I just felt free” she said. We both didn’t cheat with anyone but she said she feels better alone now and she doesn’t want anyone. She said when she saw me the other day the feelings weren’t the same as before. She just did not feel the happiness of seeing me like last time we were away ( winter break – about 3 weeks). “We are just not right for each other” – words no guy wants to hear from his beloved right? Well imagine how i felt yesterday. “You will find a better one than me, trust me”, she said. I told her that i still loved her but she kept on saying she didn’t feel the same way anymore. I explained that I would be devastated for a long time but she just kept on saying it is going to pass really fast and I am going to find a really better girl than her.
I talked to her over the phone for over two hours last night and she persistently and very surely said she no longer have any feelings for me and she doesn’t have to think about it anymore. Her tone very so cold and rock-solid.
My girlfriend left me 3 days ago and i called her message he continuoslybut she didn’t reply and from 48 hrs i not contacted to her i made a littlemistake thats why she left me with anger but i can’t control anymore i want her back right now please help me as soon as possible please
Your best bet here is to take out a sheet of paper and write down all of the things that you have ever appreciated about your ex so you have an inventory to dive in. Oh, and don’t write down just general things. Be as specific as possible.
It is natural to feel scared about going up to someone who has rejected you. You may be worried that he won’t talk to you, won’t be friendly and perhaps won’t answer any questions you may have. All of this is natural and normal. If you really want to approach him to ask him something, consider going with a friend you can rely on and perhaps having them doing some of the talking on your behalf. Choose somewhere neutral and calm, and have a good excuse to leave quickly if things seem too awkward for you, such as “Thanks for the quick chat, I have to get to an appointment now”. Most of all, realize that if you don’t get the answers or discussion you’d hoped for, that it’s not a reflection on you, as you’ve shown much courage, but is about your ex-boyfriend’s method of dealing with the situation in his own way and isn’t a slur on you.
Say the right words – During your deep talk, your first words will play a major role whether or not you’ll still have a chance to get back together. Saying the wrong and inappropriate words might cause you to lose your chance of winning her back. Keep in mind that even if you are no longer together, it is still possible for her to harbour strong and negative feelings for you, so be very careful in the words you use once you decide to talk.
Now what we have seen in public relations is that the over anxiety and fast running of the individuals tend to break the relationships again and again. Yes, that’s true. If you are hasty and have not learned from the past, you may break your relationship again. It may not work out for you again. So it is in better interest of yours to hold down for a second and think that whether you are prepared to get back in that relationship again? Or are you doing everything in haste again?
Finally, don’t mention your new relationship situation. Even if you would love nothing better than to announce to everyone you meet that you did indeed find someone who would karaoke “Love You Like a Love Song” with you, this is not the time. You would almost definitely be mentioning your new girl just to see your ex’s reaction and that’s not fair to anyone (including but not limited to your new girlfriend). Similarly, don’t ask if she’s seeing anyone. You probably don’t want to know anyways and you can always ask her friends.
Yes, by “do it” we mean have sex. Intimacy is an important part of a vital relationship, and one of the first areas to suffer if feelings are floundering. But sexual encounters can also be one of the quickest ways to reconnect and rekindle with your partner. “Of the many forms of couple intimacy—a smile across a room, a kiss, a touch—sex has the potential to be the most powerful positive physical experience most of us enjoy,” says Joel D. Block, PhD, coauthor of Sex Comes First: 15 Ways to Save Your Relationship…Without Leaving Your Bedroom. “This is especially true if sex results in emotional fulfillment, better communication, security and reassurance.”
However, there is a specific way that I want you to do it (to kind of maximize your chances.) Of course, I will get into how to do that a little later. For now, lets just stick to advancing our big picture game plan.
I have just recently fallen head over heals with a man and he showed me lots of love and attention and now he’s told me he’s not ready for a relationship. He still wants me in his life as a special friend and said from time to we can meet up but its on his terms only. I have read your plan so I’m going to give it a try. I have already done the texting thing and possibly came across as needy. I just miss him so much my heart aches and I can hardly breathe. I need to regain my thoughts and be calm and stop panicking. I have never felt this way about a man before maybe its because I can’t have him, who knows? He Lives 100 miles away from me so there is distance so I won’t see him … I just hope and pray this plan works but after a few months I hope to be in a better place than I am now.
I met a girl in my work place and we became good friends…she had a bf from college but she was not in good terms with him I mean he had a ex gf and he was nbreaking u. With her and she. Was not sure of him..I asked her to breakup rather than taking it this far..with no intention of us being committed.. Later we became close and got into a relationship known only to my friends and her ex.. After 8-9 months of things going peaceful it started to take a violent turn she still used to talk to her ex sometimes bt later it was on a regular basis now she brokeup with me and is back wit. Him… I am shattered what to do????
How you ended your relationship also plays a crucial factor on whether or not there is still a hope to bring back the love you once shared. Did the relationship end because one party broke the other’s heart? Or did it just happen naturally? If the whole process happened amicably and naturally, then you still have a higher chance of getting her back.
Listen, now is the time to stop being depressed — to stop being confused — and to start taking action. As you sit there reading this, I know you’re thinking of all the great times you’ll be sharing with your girlfriend once again by becoming an owner of this course. However, I want to warn you that it’s critical for you to act now.
I have a very good feeling that if we can get to a point where we can talk openly and he isn’t feeling pressured to get back together, we will have an excellent chance to make it work. I want to work to make big changes to make our sex life better and I know if I can show this to him, he will definitely want to reconsider. He is also young like me and very impulsive. We had a great relationship other than this issue.
even after I asked her if it was over, she didn’t give me a solid firm yes..but when she then went home I said that it is what it is, and take care jada jada jada. After it’s cooled off we can be friends, but for now we need both some space.
That said, you really need to examine your own emotions before making the final decision of winning your ex-girlfriend. Find out if you truly love her and if your happiness will only become genuine if she is with you.
If you’re having issues missing your ex girlfriend, then going out and meeting new people can be just what you need. And who knows? Maybe you’ll meet a girl who makes you forget about her all together.
I don’t know about you but if I got a letter out of the blue from an ex girlfriend I might be a little creeped out. The last thing you want to be is perceived as creepy or stalkerish and writing a letter the wrong way can definitely hurt you.
My gf breaks up with me every month due to her raging pms. I’m serious she literally is a freakin bipolar broad as well as many broads who don’t use contraceptives. Any ways this past month, she called it quits.. The first few months I was in the cool since I traveled during the time of the month and let her be. This time i was caught at home and she was serious. No more calls, blocked networks( facebook, texts, etc). We were still bangin for like 3 weeks after she broke up and that told me that we still had a strong sexual chemistry. Right on. I seriously jut want to bang it out due to wanting to be with her but I know that bangin a broad will only make her feel that I’m always available. So, we stopped banging. I didn’t like that but she continued to see me every now and then and will make out. Hell yeah! I now know she does still like me, but I seriously need to hook this bitch on my dick for good. We had a good convo last night and are you ready for the jerk. I texted her this morning, ” I really loved our time together…
Some people say that time heals all…or if not all, at least calms folks down so that they have a shot of enjoying pleasant interactions again. If you’ve been apart only two weeks, it might be a good idea to relax and rejuvenate for a while before you try to reconnect.
paragraph addressing half of the elephant in the room, that when he said he is overwhelmed, that respond overwhelmed me, and I didnt say those words but reacted in that way. I understand I am very scared of abandonment. I had a gut feeling of you backing out, hence I was walking on egg shells and did not even bring up the topic. Probably if I had, we would have had a different situation. That I have anxiety and I acted out of a place of fear when you said not to come without any explanation and to not call you too. Something to show my vulnerable side and how this time apart, I have thought about it. And it applies to us and that day’s conversation. Without putting nay blame on him. (I do think that knowing I have anxiety he should have handled it better, what he did is the nmber one trigger for me, but I do not want to go there, and I am going to chalk it off to us still exploring each other.)
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Show what a better, more mature person you’ve become. She should be able to see how much you’ve changed without you having to say it yourself or to convince her that you’re completely different. Face it — many girls are more mature than their male counterparts, so wow her with your ability to be rational and mature.
Dear, all these mistakes are done by me… but now she doesn’t wanna talk to me and also doesn’t wanna meet me or give me a chance to rectify all things, please suggest something as soon as possible, cause this relation is at very critical stage…
A first out-of-bounds behavior is one thing. If the mistake is corrected and not repeated ever again that is a positive development and can result in continuation of a better-than-ever marriage. Continued deal-breaker behaviors however, I agree, are invitations to divorce.
Commit to having a better relationship. If your ex-boyfriend takes you back, you both need to take steps to make sure that the same problems that caused your last breakup will not interfere with your relationship again. Talk to each other about what kinds of conflicts you have had in the past and how you could deal with them more appropriately going forward.
Would that increase, or decrease my chances of getting her back? Wouldn’t it “close the chapter” if I wrote something like that? What do you think? Would it be smart, and then start another 30 days of no contact? I am not sure…
To improve your self-esteem, concentrate on your strengths in all areas: emotional, social, talents and skills, appearance, and any others that are important to you. For example, you might have natural empathy, the ability to make people feel understood, a talent for baking, and gorgeous hair. Focusing on the positive and ignoring the negative can help you to feel adequate and valuable as an individual, especially when you connect the best parts of yourself to helping others. If you feel useless, make yourself useful! Take your natural empathy and talent for baking and bake some fresh cookies for your elderly neighbors.
I am not saying you have to write down the entire conversation you plan on having on a piece of paper but I am saying to write down a few things on a “cheat sheet” so you can glance over a list of ideas to talk about when the awkward silences set in.
There are the ones who are fully past tense, the ones that we know weren’t right and who we wouldn’t bonk again even if they were the last person on earth. Then there are the others, the ones who we lost to circumstance, the ones who got tired of our crap. The ones who got away.
My wife of 7 yrs left 5 months ago we use to hang out and still do things together for are kids but she recently told me she is moving on a week later she tells me she in a relationship already apparently she been already seeing someone for 3 mths now I was crush because we have two kids together I admit in the beginning Are relationship started off bad u didn’t see when she was ready to settle down I wasn’t it seems to now she has more argue towards me the love please help me I don’t want to lose my family to someone else
Thank you for your reply. I understood that one of the purpose of NC to introduce changes to my own life and approach. But I am not addicted to this guy, only attracted to him and wanna try if it works with him. I can live without him. I have my life, my goal in life without him. I am aware that both of us should work on it and use a different approach. Definetely I should starte. What I am saying: it is not a more year old relationship but only 3 month long and basically was about sex. Ergo, if I wait say 1 month my chance to get him back is decreasing in my view.
i fall in love with a girl from the first sigh i keep asking about her then weve meet up a few times as friends then i send a friend to ask her if she wanna be my girlfriend this how its works in my country in the first she says she will think about it then i go by myself to talk to her then she says no and my heart was broken i really love her i was watching for over 4 monthes i cant hold on what should i do to say yes
Make sure she’s interested. Before you tell her how you feel, you need to know that your plan to win your woman over is really working. You need to be able to read the signs to see that your ex doesn’t just want to hang out with you as a friend, but that she shares romantic feelings for you. To do this, you’ll have to pay attention to what she does, says, and to study her body language to know that you’re on the same page.