Great write up…just pretty much confirmed how i was feeling and ill continue on the path i was going, the thought is always there because its still fresh, just got out of a second attempt of dating a girl. first time was just great the puppy love stuff, no arguing just like we wanted, but then of course an ex came into the picture but the dilemma with this situation was is he was the father of her child a 2 yr old. we were fine one night, next day i instantly knew something was different, the texting became less often, no more i miss yous, etc… asked her what was goin on and got the “its just going to fast” line” she basically ended the relationship and i was upset yes but started to move on and told her we could try to slow down..i stopped contact for about a month on occasion she would talk but it was mostly short. one day she just called me out of the blue and said i need you in my life, well i guess the ex messed up and she came back to me, me being the nice guy that i shouldnt be i told her ok we can try again and we agreed slower this time and i said im fine with that. was ok for about a week lol, then same thing again, she lied about him the first time, it wasnt the too fast, it was him they were trying to get back together and it didnt work and she kept in touch enough to keep me as a option to go to. i had my blinders on at the time. the second time around she kept bringing his name up everytime we were on the phone or she came to visit, i finally told her to stop bringing him up its too much, and long story short she wasnt over him, i was strong and told her its not gonna work. it sucks to be in these positions where you still have feelings for someone, but if you stay positive and move on you can do it…think of the girl you dated before her if there was one…obv you got over that one since you tried with the other ex…like he says involve yourself with activities, don’t sit around and give your mind time to wander, dont try to stalk her fb, or anything just delete everything from that part of your life and you will see other opportunities come up. she didnt appreciate me and respect me enough to not bring the ex up so why would i want to go back to that again. i told her i don’t play with peoples emotions and i will never be someones option, i need someone who will be 100% committed to me and me only.

One of the greatest pleasures of the series is watching Rachel Bloom inhabit this character. She is at her best when she interrogates Rebecca’s mania, capturing the seductive quality of a manic episode. Its garish, bright intensity fools you into believing this is your best self as you dive headfirst into a series of self-destructive and often exhilarating behaviors. I can see myself in Rebecca’s relationship with mania, the vivacity of her daydreams, and her fraught relationship with her mother.

Yes, you should definitely have this conversation with him. I recommend that you write down the type of relationship you want in your life. Write down the 5 most important thing for you in a relationship. And after that, write down your boundaries. Write down what is non-negotiable for you. This could be things like “Cheating, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse etc.”

Hang in there. Sometimes people go back to their ex because they are unable or don’t want to find someone new to rebound, so they try things out again with their ex. But most likely, your ex is probably rebounding with her ex. Focus on your anxiety and calming yourself down, and just pick yourself back up, before you consider anything again in the future.

I’m sorry that its been more than a month I haven’t tried to call or anything, because I just couldn’t think what to say, besides sorry. I just didn’t know how to say it or what to say, I guess I still don’t. I know I broke up with you when it wasn’t the best time for you and that was selfish of me, but I still needed to and it was hard for me. I’m really not happy with how I left things, and wish I could be friends with you still, and also just want to know how you’re doing. I understand if you’d rather not be friends, but I miss your friendship and I just really hope you’re doing well. I don’t know, get back to me if you want, whenever even if it’s a long time or not at all I understand..

so my girlfriend just dumped me. weve ben dating for 2 years. i started seeing her when she got pregnant she was my first girlfriend to begin with and we had ben friends for 8 years. but her boyfriend left the second she got pregnant. And since i never stopped loving her , we started dating again. now 6 days ago she left me and she never wants to see me again. im not allowed to text or anything. but she will allow 2 calls a month that i can meet “my” daughter since she looks to me like a father. i really want her back and i cant imagine living my life without any of them. how do i handle that situation?

Sure, it may feel tempting to just hang around inside all night rather than going out, but you have to get back on the proverbial horse at some point. Don’t be afraid to go out, meet new people and start to move on. Filling your day to day life with new people and new experiences will make it easier to stop focusing on how much you wish one particular person were still in your life.

What did i do? well… its pretty simple. I guess i figured we had been going out for a little bit so we were on the same comfort level. I was wrong. I asked her through text what she thought about sending nudes (naked pictures). I didnt force her or anything to send them. I had clearly offended her as she didnt take it lightly and got mad. She had told me that everything was alright after so i thought this would just pass. Til the next morning…

Hence, why I don’t believe she’ll be coming back this time. My problem is, even though she displays signs of insecurity and can be down right nasty sometimes, deep down I love and miss her like she’s still a part of my life. I understand that I need to heal, for myself more than anything, and also, for the 1% chance that she may come back one day. I told her that I wouldn’t want to start where we left off, that relationship would be dead, and we would have to start again. The only way to do that is to get over the old relationship. I think it may take some time for her to do that, but I will not be waiting around for that to happen. She told me clearly that she was going to move on and I will be doing the same. I’ve actually started reading “you can heal your life” by Louise Hay which has been great for lifting my spirits, and loving myself again. Anyone feeling the effects of a relationship breakdown and the low self esteem should definitely invest in this book.

After saying sorry and explaing what type of relationship I really want i have done about 2 week long NC as suggested. On Christmas day to my surprise I got a Christmas greeting and my ex initianated a short conversation and this morningI got good morning greeting as it was a habit before breakup and it seems my ex wants to come over. I am very happy but my consern is that: I dont wanna be a doormat in long term. So I plan to initiate a converstation about the situation: I want to give it a try to a serious relationship with him but I dont want to be with him at any cost. Do you think it is appropriate. I mean I am happy that he comes or sg but I dont want to be just used and abused. Taking into account our past story it can be an issue.

You could start with No contact and avoid making small talk with him for the time being. This article helps you deal with having to see your ex on a daily basis. Do that until you feel that you’re not as affected by things, and start with initiating a casual friendship to see if there’s still a spark, and whether the situation may be different this time compared to the previous relationship.

Do not contact her, especially during the first month of your break-up – Your ex-girlfriend will contact you, believe me, but that is if she wants to talk to you. If she does not contact you, then spend the first month of your break-up to focus on yourself. Avoid contacting her when the break-up is still fresh. The good news is that there are instances when ignoring her can make her feel like you’re doing perfectly fine without her and that you are on the stage of moving on. If she is not yet over you, then this might cause her to miss you more.

Remember she was once completely vulnerable with you, she was intimate with you, and she let you know things about her that nobody knows! She may have found someone or she may be cynical about getting back together but that is because she did not feel emotionally safe. You were a part of her heart and soul once, and if you have caused her hurt, you are the only one who can heal it. She needs to see that you can be as invested as she was. She needs to know that you feel it can work out. She needs to see that the same problems that caused you to drift apart shall never surface again. Show her. Evince it through actions, words, gestures- whatever it takes. Just make her feel that she can be emotionally safe with you- that you are the man she once fell for and will continue to be!

Remember that whether or not your quest on how to get your ex-girlfriend back succeeds or not, it shall still be worth every bit of this process – coz you’d either come out of it two-ly together or healed and ready to move on!

Think twice if he’s already in another relationship. If your ex boyfriend has started dating someone else, consider him off-limits. Don’t become that person who won’t leave her ex alone after he has moved on. If he’s happy with someone else, you could end up hurting him, his new partner, and yourself by trying to interfere.

Take out your planner or set reminder that is exactly 30 days from now and mark it as ‘contact day’. Avoid contacting your ex before contact day. That means no email, text message and message on social site additionally, no stalking physically and on the internet. Keep yourself busy with your friends, career and hobbies and keep yourself away from sitting in the dark alone.

I get the impression that your ex acts very immature and irrational because its her way of controlling the situation…. She plays games, blocks your number and Facebook out of spite and makes up lies about other men to make you feel bad. All tell-tale signs of her own insecurities…

Women often have this internal tally of points in their head when they are determining whether or not to go on a date with a guy. Now, most women aren’t even aware of this because it all happens so fast in their own minds.

Since trying to get your ex back takes time and going through the no contact period is an everyday struggle, I’ve designed Part 5 of this guide to be an email series. I call this email series EBP Basics.

Create boundaries at home and limit the time spent there while she is around. Perhaps go out more, and even if you are at home, sleep in different rooms and engage in as little small talk as possible. You could use this article to provide you with more tips on what you can do while she’s still around.

Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.

Avoiding contact is not just a passive-aggressive way to make your ex miss you. It gives you time to do the things you need to do to prepare yourself for a new relationship (whether it’s with your ex or someone new!). Take time during this month to get to know yourself as an individual and to work on areas that you may have let slip during your relationship with your ex. If you contributed to the breakup, this is the time to pinpoint your relationship weaknesses and do the hard work to improve as a human being.

You let your ex walk all over you. You become a doormat. You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. But your instincts tell you, it’s OK. Because having your ex in your life is the only thing that matters.

Well then tell me is it normal to feel that not many people can gain my trust the way she did ? It’s odd man . Like I said, it’s not hard for me to get women. But to actually find one I like, well that’s a different story. The job I work is long in hours and days and I have a lot of time for idle thought. Do you think I should just break off all contact with her ? or should I try to keep her as a friend … or will that just be ultimately destructive in the end? [otp_overlay]