Read your message carefully before you send it. If you’re going to apologize, remove the word “if” as that creates the impression you still do not accept you were in the wrong. Women pay close attention to details like that and it’s time for you to start doing the same thing.

Until the first of what would become many nights when Katie came over to watch Glee, and her hand somehow found its way into mine. I don’t remember how it happened, but I remember asking her what we were doing and I remember catching my breath as she leaned in to kiss me.

Hi Kevin. Ive been dating this girl for 6months everything was moving perfect for us both. She fell pregnant and i proposed to her and we were engaged. She decided to have an abortion due to finacially we both wernt stable and ready. I was abit emotionally about the abortion as she was assell experiencing a life changing procedure. Things became abit difficult both of us dealing with our emotions and feelings at the time.I made the wrong regretful decision by ending it and i unfortunately didnt show her support an comfort. Its been extremely hard an difficult dealing with this whole situation. Its nearly been 2 months we nearly been separated for now.she says i need to fix my issues and become stable and she doesnt want no relationship at this stage.. which im coming to terms of and making positive changes in my life..its been just over 2 weeks i havnt contacted her until yesterday wishing her merry Christmas but no reply.. so ive just left it.. Deep down i sincerely love this girl with my entire heart and i would appreciate advice and guidience aswell as steps to reconnect with her.kind regards.

How much time do you leave her without contact? Good question. It depends if you have children with her or not. If you do, you don’t really have much of an option. But, if you don’t, give her at least thirty days.

Another than this, I recommend you to read Brad Browning’s The Ex Factor Guide  because it is one of the powerful guides ever written on ex back topic. It will show you why your relationship goes south and how you can bring your ex girlfriend back with the help of text messages.

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Hence, why I don’t believe she’ll be coming back this time. My problem is, even though she displays signs of insecurity and can be down right nasty sometimes, deep down I love and miss her like she’s still a part of my life. I understand that I need to heal, for myself more than anything, and also, for the 1% chance that she may come back one day. I told her that I wouldn’t want to start where we left off, that relationship would be dead, and we would have to start again. The only way to do that is to get over the old relationship. I think it may take some time for her to do that, but I will not be waiting around for that to happen. She told me clearly that she was going to move on and I will be doing the same. I’ve actually started reading “you can heal your life” by Louise Hay which has been great for lifting my spirits, and loving myself again. Anyone feeling the effects of a relationship breakdown and the low self esteem should definitely invest in this book.

HER REPLY: “The thing is, is it’s not all of a sudden. It might be for you but it’s not for me. Why do you think I’ve been saying to you that you surely would have noticed. Even my mum has noticed for a long time, she even questioned me on going on the holiday with you. The first time I mentioned it to you was Barcelona, you could even go far back as the first time I broke up with you. And during those times the only convincing anyone has done is you trying to convince me this is just how a relationship goes and then myself trying to convince myself that I’m in love with you. Ivan I tell you I love you because I do love you. But to be honest I can’t actually recall saying to you that I want to spend the rest of my life with you, in fact that phrase coming from my mouth feels foreign. I respond to your gorgeous text everyday in that fashion because I would feel terrible if I didn’t, but I think I should want to do it first thing when I open my eyes, I should want to beat you to it, but instead I would’t even notice if you didn’t.

Repeat a few times over several weeks. Allude to you having dates by talking about a new film you saw at the cinema, or an Italian restaurant you have been to. You don’t say who with, but it’ll get her to thinking about you and will spark jealousy/intrigue.

Such a friendship is always an awkward limbo of not really being her friend, but not really being her boyfriend either. Learn what to do when your ex wants to be friends, so you can avoid this one-way ticket into the Friend Zone.

It has been 21 days since the breakup, and she has not yet spoken to me or contacted me in any way. I am afraid that my ex might be moving on, but then again, I don’t know if contacting her right now is the best because I don’t know if she is ready to talk yet. So would it be best to wait until 30 days have passed? And after the No Contact period, would it be best for me to contact her first, or should I wait for her to contact me when she is ready?

Ihave been in love with this one Man for 25 years we were not together for 9 yrs got back together married was together for 8 years now we are divorced be a yr in March he is with someone else we have secretly been together 3 times since the break up and I actually work part time for the same person that he works full time for ee dont actually run into each other every day maybe once a week I love and very much inlove with him we have conquered so much and overcame so much in our time together I love him very much in love with him Just need advice if you can help. Thank you

Why is this the easiest? Well it’s not as hard as other circumstances, like for instance getting a girl back from another guy. You only broke up due to distance, meaning that the attraction she feels for you is still present. In fact it might even have increased, since women get off on desiring what they can’t have (you). Even if it seems impossible, it can be done.

The second one is asking yourself that whether the girl is safe to sleep with? Or do she have any of the symptoms of heavy diseases like aids etc. If not, then there are two ways of re-connecting with her.

It’s ok to be friendly again with her friends but it looks like you’re obvious to her that you’re trying to get her back and she doesnt want it… Asking her friends for help will annoy her more.. Dont rush thingss..

Your indecision was rife throughout your letter and I found myself wanting to know a bit more about your early life – were your decisions validated? Did you grow up feeling you could make decisions for yourself? Does your ex- girlfriend tap into something – does she remind you of a family member whom you learned you had to be responsible for or could not be honest with?

Wait no less than 20 days or so. When she texts you or contacts you, act like you’re busy and tell her that you’ll call her back. That will convey the message that you’re not really concerned about her, and it will cause her to think, wait, and expect your call. You get control.

You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.(Read more about having the right mindset after no contact is over)

Everything you do is crucial, from the moment your ex breaks up with you to the moment you wrap your arms back around her again. In between, there are a LOTS of big mistakes to make. Commit too many errors, and you’ll lose your one chance at ever dating your ex again. [otp_overlay]