.. That Just Shook Me Like I Was Half Dead… But Then I asked Him That If Career Is The Reason.. This Is Not A Valid Reason For A Break Up.. But I Understood What It Was.. It Was The Things I Reminded Him Of Past & That Made Him Upset But Due To His Job He Didnt Replied Me Much On My Msgs about the past.. So Right Now He Is Totally Out Of My World, Love For ame & etc.. but my main prob is also that one of my friend when i was crying Took his no. From my cellphone and messaged him about why was he firm fr the break up and why didnt he think of me.. so here my friend didnt know a single bit of our story ..(still dnt knw) .. she just msged a long lecture kind of paragraph to make him realise how much i loved him.. and she also wrote that a guy shouldnt play game or shouldnt use a girl like this..  just a relationship of 3 months is not done.. so he is now upset with me for this thing that y my friend said so when nothing such happened between us.. as it was long distanced.. and thus.. since then arguments ended.. and now i am in the ‘no contact’ with him right now.. 

If it’s a challenge he’s after, you give him one to remember. You SHOW him that you’re not so desperate that you’ll accept how he treated you and still miss him, obsess over him and pursue him. You SHOW him that you treat yourself well and have no room for anyone that treats you any less than you treat yourself. How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

My boyfriend broke up with me last week and pretty much out of no where. I’m pretty devastated and having a hard time accepting it. I kinda went bat sh!t crazy texting him 2 days after we broke up. The day after, he would respond and such. The 2nd day he didn’t respond at all and I kinda went crazy, but I don’t think i went over the edge or the limit. 3rd day I didn’t not bother to text him nor attempting in the future. Do you think the 2 days I attempt to contact him will make me like a crazy ex gf? Yesterday, I saw he unfollow me on snapchat, but still have me on FB and IG. Hope you can reply back!

I think it doesn’t matter what it means… YOU need to move on. Trust me, I know better than anyone how much it hurts and how brutal it is, but he doesn’t want to be in this relationship right now and you can’t go it alone… it takes two to tango! It doesn’t matter if he misses you or how he feels because right now he’s not with you, so whatever he feels is irrelevant. Try to just focus on you. Like I said, if it didn’t work, it won’t work unless something significant changes. Right now if you got back together things would just go back to how they were and you don’t want that because how they were ended in a break up! Focus on yourself for now, focus on moving on. If he’s the one for you, he’ll be back. If not, then at least you’re moving on. Hope that helps!

I asked him to change his phone backgrounds. I said they could stay friends, but I was uncomfortable with how close they were after a week. He said “We’ll see what I do.” Later that day, he said he wouldn’t do that. He said he’d “always been that way”, which he hadn’t, and dumped me when I got mad. He said “no we’re already fighting again.” and that was that. Next thing I knew, he and Keileigh were together. She was his “boo” and flaunts it. She makes sure my life is miserable, won’t stop talking about him, keeps asking me for advice to make him happy with her, makes a lot of people hate me for no reason. He spread lies about me on Snapchat, and posted parts of our conversation on social media, but only the parts that made me seem bad. He got about half our school to hate me and glare at me and shove me in the hall, and I snapped. I told him I wanted some stuff back. She was grinding on him, and he told me to go away, that he had no time for me. I snapped and slapped him. Not even hard, it was a wrist-flick because she was in the way of my arm. He got mad and shoved me so hard I stumbled. They went to the vice-principal and told him it was so hard Miguel got a red mark (which he hadn’t). I got suspended, despite telling the whole story. there was “no proof” they’d done anything to me, though the vice principal said Keileigh does seem to “get around”. I’d had a previously spotless record.

basically i really like my ex, even though we only went out for three days, like he keeps trying to make and effort to talk to me and said i have banging boobs. Does this mean he’s moved on or still into me?

If you’re sitting in your apartment crying and going through the box of mementos you’ve been saving, you’re torturing yourself. If you can’t bring yourself to toss them in the dumpster, then, at the least, hide them. That includes movie stubs, that T-shirt he left at your place or your special song.

Keep thinking that I have to be friends with him because we have a kid together. Well, that kid is a teenager and has his own ideas of what Dad is. I love this ” I’m more mature than he is and I’m 15!. He’s a chicken sh** selfish d***!” ..out of the mouths of babes! And I have said nothing bad about his father, I keep telling him he loves him. Haven’t said anything negative, he saw this all by himself!

Chances are that you are here because you are still very much in love with your ex boyfriend. If this is the case you will likely be wondering how to make him want you back. When you listen to your friend at this time they will be telling you to get over him and move on with your life. This is a lot easier said than done and not the advice that you want to hear right now. If you really do believe that he is the right person for you, then you will have to do some work and not be dissuaded by well meaning friends. If you are determined that this is what you want to do, you will have to have a good plan. With the help of the experts, you will learn how to make him want you back again and even make his love for you stronger than it was before. You have to be proactive though, so let’s get started.

And while doing things like reading, walking, working out, journaling, and hanging out with friends can certainly be positive distractions, if you really want to deal with the root cause of the emotional pain you still feel you’ll have to do things a little bit differently.

Alexandra is a graduate from the University of New Hampshire and the current Assistant Digital Editor at Martha Stewart Living. As a journalism student, she worked as the Director of UNH’s Student Press Organization (SPO) and on staff for four student publications on her campus. In the summer of 2010, she studied abroad at Gonville and Caius College, Cambridge University, in England, where she drank afternoon tea and rode the Tube (but sadly no, she did not meet Prince Harry). Since beginning her career, her written work has appeared in USA Today College, Huffington Post, Northshore, and MarthaStewart.com, among others. When not in the office, she can be found perusing travel magazines to plan her next trip, walking her two dogs (both named Rocky), or practicing ballet. Chat with her on Twitter @allie_churchill.

I can’t get over my ex bf as well at first, but then I thought of all the ways he used to treat me, the goods and the bad. I revisited the places we used to be one last time, and everywhere I went, I left the memories that we had at the place.

Well, it seems that he himself seems reluctant to meet you right now for whatever reasons. It could very well be that it’s too soon still, and you should give him more time and let him initiate on a meeting up instead. You’ve tried a couple of times and have been met with rejection so I don’t advice trying any further or you might push him away. Just take it casually, continue to focus on yourself first, and don’t let these little rejections get you down.

i am an 18 year old male, i broke up with my ex girlfriend almost 3 months ago, we was together almost 5 years, we had a strong bond but we went through an unfortunate abortion, during this situation she got attached to the baby im her stomach but wasnt finacially stable to take care of a child, her anxiety got really bad and she pushed me away and wouldnt let me near her, after almost a month of this she broke up with me stating that she had lost feelings and doesnt want to be with me anymore, we have broken up and got back together alot in the past, but this time is different, i acted irrational and constantly begged and stated how upset and lonely i was without her, i irratated her to the point of she blocked me on afew social medias, but she left 1 line of communication open via instagram, i often message her but she doesnt reply but she reads the messages, if she doesnt look at the message fast enough i panic and irratate her with more, she then replies with “Go away, leave me alone, move on i want you to” i ask her why we broke up and all she says is ‘everything’ thats all she says, i truley believe there is a chance but she is being too stubon to admit it, im really confused and in a bad place, there was never any cheating, im so worried that the no contact rule will not work, although if it doesnt im still in the same place im in now so what can get worse… i read alot of these getting ex back websites but im never really satisfied with the information as every situation is very different, i really do want her back, and the relationship will be great if i get the chance to reconcile it, im really in need of some help im looking forward to your help and also the no contact daily email help as i need as much help as i can get.

There is one caveat to his rule and it is only when your ex boyfriend contacts you. If he contacts you then this is big positive on your side. However, when we come to the matter on our hands now then there are three reasons for going no contact with your ex boyfriend:

Natasha, I love your blog! I’m so glad I’ve stumbled upon it. I really enjoy your no sugarcoat straight to the point style of writing. Your articles on boundaries have helped me so much! I’ll be sure to share with my girlfriends when they are going through a rough patch.

Also, find out if you matured or have grown up from the break-up. It is important for you to grow up after the break-up as this will let you bring a newer and improved version of yourself into the relationship. The same should go for your ex.

Do not stay indoors for long. Go out. Enjoy the outdoors. Socialize with your friends. This will give you less time to think about your ex. Bask in the sun or go some place else with your family members. This will definitely give you a better view of the world you once lived in…the world without your stupid ex…Don’t forget that you once lived without him/her so it won’t definitely ruin your life now that you are back to where you once were… your life isn’t over now that they’re gone.

Try singing these songs for yourself repeatedly over a few days or better yet, a few weeks and see it’s effects: “Happy Song”, “Singing In the Rain”, “Whistle a Happy Tune”, “My Favorite Things”, “Clim Every Mountain”, “Something Good”. and every song that makes you focus on positive and joyful things in life that you can be thankful for….

When couples come together, your concept of identity joins. When you breakup, you are not only physically separated. Your identity now has a serious gap to fill. Keep this in mind as you try to get him back. This will help you avoid feeding into potential feelings of desperation.

If he ever thinks that you are stalking him or acting needy in any way, he could seriously be pushed away. Instead of missing you, he could end up feeling that he was lucky to have it end when it did.