I got some really great tips from this guide, if I hadn’t have gone through the other two then I would have just used this one but it would have taken me a while longer to get her back. Even so, it still works and I highly recommend you read this guide.
3. Go out with friends. Spend time with your loved ones. Your friends and family are the people who are always there for you and who always love to spend time with you. Go out and have a good time with them.
This is the only effective way of approaching the situation. By attracting your ex back into your life you can avoid the cheesy talks, the desperate measures, and the immoral manipulations (that are very likely to backfire anyway as we already discussed).
Can I absolutely guarantee that Brad Browning’s advice will work for you? Of course not. Nobody can make that guarantee (and if they do, they’re lying to you), but the video isn’t that long so you have nothing to lose. Check out this video right now before it’s taken down.
I really want to express my gratitude for the nice article and for your comments. I think you truly help people by being empathetic yet honest. Keep it up, I hope you’ll inspire more people and help them finding that they can kick ass if they believe in themselves and work on themselves.
No Contact is a powerful technique. If you follow it correctly as I mentioned then chances are you will get a call from your ex-girlfriend. Many of my students utilize this method, and many of them received a call from their ex-girlfriends. No Contact forces your ex to realize your value.
Thanks for the advice. I forgot to mention last night after a stressful week I had some anxiety and said some insecure things to her while we were talking. Stuff along the line of “you were my best friend” and “second chance” were mentioned. I realized my mistake changed the subject almost immediately and continued to have a good conversation, but it was a moment of weakness nonetheless. Do I just continue on as normal?
This article is for anyone looking to get an ex back. May it be your ex girlfriend, ex boyfriend, ex wife, ex husband or an ex fiancé. May it be a straight relationship or a gay relationship. If you just broke up, and are thinking about winning your ex back, you will find this article helpful and enlightening.
Don’t sound like you’re begging and pleading; instead, make it sound like barely a question at all. Let her know that you’re going to try again, and hopefully you’ll get the answer you were looking for.
Wow I can’t believe how much I have written. I just checked and this is getting close to 10,000 words. Ok, we are very close to the end here. This section is all about taking a big risk. More specifically, setting up a date with your ex boyfriend for the first time since your break up. All the experts have a different view of how this should be done. The truth of the matter is that if you played pretty close to the game plan I laid out for you, your ex boyfriend will probably have suggested to meet up IN PERSON by now. However, if he didn’t don’t worry, I have a plan for you!
Would that increase, or decrease my chances of getting her back? Wouldn’t it “close the chapter” if I wrote something like that? What do you think? Would it be smart, and then start another 30 days of no contact? I am not sure…
In either case, you are just going to get hurt and not get what you want; a committed relationship with your ex. If you are serious about getting your ex back, or being happy in your life, make sure you never force them for being friends or even decline their offer to do so; at least, not until you are done with step 2.
I am at the point in my life of really wanting to settle down and be happy. I just don’t know which route is the right one at the moment as I am drawn to them both in different ways – they both have amazing qualities.
The truth is, they already know that you love them, how much you adore them and how much you care about them. But they still decided to breakup. Showering them with affection is not going to help you. In fact, the more you smother them, the more trapped they’ll feel. And that will just make them want to get away from you as soon as possible.
Your ex doesn’t need to hear all this right now. It’s only going to make them put their defenses up. Your ex has decided to breakup with you for a reason and every time you express your infinite love for them, you are making them think of that reason in their mind.
Note also that therapy is virtually always more potent if the couple goes together for some of the sessions. Paulette, after initial reluctance, decided to schedule sessions with Peter’s therapist as well. They sometimes saw the therapist separately, and sometimes together which helped them to recognize and rectify the problematic patterns in their prior interactions. When both partners participate in a process of growth, the odds zoom up that the outcome will be positive for both of them.
By the way, the best results I’ve seen for people with abusive anger is with the energy therapy techniques of Bradley Nelson, which Dale Petterson in my office does for my clients. It’s quite amazing how these techniques seem to pull the anger out by the roots….though multiple interventions plus conventional couple and individual treatment have to be part of the treatment strategy.
Do you post sad facebook status messages all day? Do you hope that your ex will see them and come back to you? Whenever your ex calls, do you tell them how much you miss them and how much lonely you are without them? Do you think your ex will take you back because of pity?
If you haven’t spoken to or texted you ex-girlfriend in months/years/decades it might feel weird to just start saying words on your phone. Whatever you do, don’t lead with “I know we’re not speaking but…” This makes you sound petty and like you haven’t moved on. If you know you’re not speaking then why are you texting her?! (See Step 1.) A better idea is to start with “Hey.” “Hey” is the official start of any text to anyone who you don’t normally text. “Hey” makes you look nonchalant and cool like Fonzie.
Sometimes you really need to text your ex-girlfriend. It doesn’t matter how long it has been, how bad your break-up was or the number of years since you both agreed to never speak again. Sometimes you just need to. And if you’ve already made the (possibly inadvisable!) decision to do so, then at least you can do it in the least life-damaging way possible. So here are five super easy steps to painlessly text your ex.
Another thing that really annoys me about you guys (yes I am talking to you) is that you think this no contact period alone will be enough to get your ex girlfriend back. Trust me it won’t be. You are going to have to do more (which I will be covering.) Think of the no contact rule as the first big stepping stone to success.
I think the more we talk about this the harder things will be to hear for you. I think you need to take some time for yourself doing whatever. Go back to work if you haven’t already. Read the Power of Now, it’s not going to solve your problems and make you feel better but it will help you see things from a different perspective. I’m even reading it again.
Bring out the memory when what makes you write that thing. If you don’t remember the specific situation, then let your imagination fills it. Close your eyes and improve your focus, remembering the anger-producing-memory as clearly as possible.
Quick Note: If you’re serious about getting your ex back, then I would highly recommend you watch this video to the end. Although the tips below work, this video has advanced techniques that a friend of mine developed which apparently work like CRAZY.
#11 Write her a letter. It’s a great way to say everything you want to say. Plus, it’s therapeutic for you. It also stands out, rather than a text or email. In your letter, talk about how you accept what happened, apologize for your behavior, and mention how your life is turning into something positive and exciting. [Read: How to write a heartfelt love letter like a true romantic]
However, make it a point to do this intimate talk in person. Avoid doing it over the phone, through text or online chat. What you should do, instead, is to invite her to have dinner with you. If possible, do it in your favorite restaurant or coffee shop to increase your chances of rekindling the feelings.
This girl was willing to go out with him because his other qualities (whether it be wealth, comfortability or height) were all high enough to trump his looks quality. So, when the woman was deciding whether or not to date him she weighed all of these qualities and made her decision.
For example, if your ex girlfriend breaks up with you then that means the “love life” aspect of your life has just taken a hit. Maybe after this happens you decide that you don’t have the drive to work hard at work anymore (wealth.) You also become very depressed and in this state of depression you pack on a few pounds (health.)
You need to be sure. You need to stand up and with that indomitable courage, see past her emotions that frighten you to the goal you want. Think of her emotions of anger and bitterness as the guardians at the castle to her heart that you must disarm before the doors are opened.
This tactic may be a little harder to implement because it can sometimes depend on the situation that your ex is currently in. Basically you are going to bring up a stressful event very gently and show that you are going to be supportive no matter what with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. This has to be completely genuine otherwise you are better off not saying anything at all.