If you know that a particular friend or family member dislikes your ex, ask to sit down and discuss why. Find out if it is based on how the ex treats you or others, knowledge your friend may have that you don’t, or other evidence that might be meaningful.

Think that next time you’ll meet your ex, she will have to admire you, for what you become, for how you managed to be a man, to stay strong even when it hurts, and how you become perhaps more patient, more quite, confident, and whatever you want to become. No pain no gain, they say.

Because something about your behavior is making her feel as if you are not really committed to her. She feels that, although she’s attracted to you, you won’t give her what she wants and needs from a relationship (i.e. support her, and not keep f***ing other girls). This is completely different from a situation where you’re trying to get a girl back when she has moved on.

she left me in 2011 and came back to me in 2012 afta i have callin her and not answering my calls for a year then she left again for a year 2013 around march and came back to me this year 2014…she started calling me on the 28 of february this year and i was shocked and confused about that.but at my point of view she was heartly brokened with the partner she was dating after me.we get back together but she told me we dont have to make love and i agreed but i forced her.now she is telling me she want a breakup coz im cheating but she doesnt have any proof.i loved her and i still love her.so i dont know what to do.i need your help guys..i think she is gona leave again coz im trusting her..but i said i dont want a breakup…thanks for your help guys.

If the honeymoon period ends for all couples, then why hasn’t it yet ended for you. Or do you feel different towards me now because it sure seems like you are the same if not more so. Gina and Jeff still have the same love for each other as they did at the start. They say it all the time that it’s the same as when they first met. The couples you speak of, in my eyes, are either unhappy and just stuck or the “honeymoon” period they refer to is just the “new” love ending but they still remain deeply in love with each other. They certainly don’t wish that their partner would do something to make the break up easy to do.

Don’t underestimate the power of having a support system! You may not want to admit to your friends that you’re feeling this way, but they probably understand way more than you’re giving them credit for. It’s okay to reach out to someone and talk when you feel like you need it.

Why? Because women despise needy guys. They will not be pressured, persuaded, tricked, or manipulated into getting back into a relationship. What they’re looking for is a man who understands their innermost desires — they’re desperate to be understood on that level.

Since being in college though, I noticed that she was beginning to feel stressed from school, and she told me that she needed to take a break to “breathe.” A week later, she broke up with me and her reasoning was because she felt that I would not have time for her since I am going to university next year.

It could be that there were things he didn’t feel okay about but never shared with you, or it could have been completely for no reason and he started taking the relationship for granted (hence the lack of effort), which is common for many relationships that have gotten too comfortable. If you really want to know, I suggest speaking to him and asking him to be honest.

Hey guys i really need help. Me and our gf have gone through a breakup its not the first time this would be the third time. But i do not know if this one is serious. She said shes too young for a relationship she just wants to be single an live life. She does not want a bf. weve been together for 2 and a half years. I took her birginity and she took mine. But i dont want to lose her im desperate to have her back. I waited a couple of weeks then started speaking to her again. We caught up a couple of times just as friends. But even then she doesnt txt me unless i txt her. And when she replies its only short words. She actually got angry coz i went out with a few mates drinking and she asked if i hooked up with another girl. So that msg to me feels like she still cares for me but doesnt want a relationship. I snapped last night and txtd her and askes if she ever misses us. She said i dont think it can work anymore i just want to live life on my own. People are saying find someone new she was your first love. But the thing is i dont want to. We shared so many good times together. It was always me and her. She was me to a tea i couldnt see myself with anyone else but her. Shes the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. I need this girl back so bad its not funny.

Your main goal in this section is to just open up communication. Remember though, you want to be in control at all times. That means that YOU have to be the one to end the conversation. To make matters more complicated you can’t get into a full blown conversation with him yet. This is simply a small baby step that you are using to test the waters and gauge where you are at.

Leave it at least 2 weeks – Don’t be needy or act desperate, it’s not going to help you. Play your cards close to your chest and don’t contact her for at least 2 weeks. Delete her number if you need to, so you’re not tempted (obviously write it down first).

You are making a huge decision right now. So you better make sure that it is the right one. You have 30 days to do it, so don’t rush into it. Take your time. Relax and do things that make you feel better. When you start being happy in life without your ex, you will realize whether or not getting your ex back is the right decision. And that is extremely important before you move on to the next step, which is contacting your ex.

My girlfriend broke up with me 5 months ago i still love her and want her back. she said that she wasnt ready for a real relationship, her mom told me that she really loved me. But then over the time we werent dating she starts talking to two other guys over thoses 5 months. i am still good friends with her and her family. i post love quotes on twitter and she tells me to move on but i cant what should i do to get her back in my arms.

If you ask me what is the #1 attraction killer in the relationship then I would say it is INSECURITY. Yes! It is insecurity that make your girlfriend to leave you. You certainly showed insecurity that kills all attraction in the relationship.

If you see her socially, like at a party, don’t drop everything you’re doing to run up and ask how she’s doing. Come up to her eventually — but let her see that you have a busy social life without her.

Second, don’t text like you are still in your relationship. Don’t use quirky old pet names or baby-talk text. Avoid emoticons at all cost. You are now two adults who are communicating via a message made up of text. No one needs to write out kitten noises.

“I’m told that there are two people who have created this negative dynamic, and yet I feel like the only person being punished here. I’m locked out of my own house, living in a small lousy room away from my things, my comforts, my bed, and my wife, the only person who means anything to me in Denver. I am living like a gypsy …

Is there an exact reason why you want to rekindle your relationship with her? – Find out what your reasons are exactly for wanting to win her back. Is it because of some sort of pressure from her or the ones around you? Is it because of your family or your kids if you have any? You really have to reflect on this issue. Note that this should be your decision alone, not anyone else.

Over the past two months, I’ve made a lot of personal strides and feel better about myself and not nearly as sad as I once was. I still have moments where I break down because I truly loved the girl, and the breakup came out of nowhere. Jan. 30 is fast approaching, and that marks two years since we first met (I’m currently a senior in college, she’s a junior). February marks a lot of what would be two-year anniversaries and I know it’s going to be a tough month. I’ve received a lot of advice, had multiple deep conversations with my support group, but I truly want my ex back (different from needing her). How should I go about reaching out to her, as I was planning on it around the end of January. (I wrote her a handwritten letter at the end of September and the day after my birthday she sent me an email telling me she wanted to quit contact. I’ve had one outburst since then Halloween weekend.)

Consistent gifts will have made her think you were trying too hard to win her approval. It sets a frame where you are demonstrating that it is YOU trying to win HER over, and thus she detects that she is superior to you.

Work on long distance issues. If you and your boyfriend broke up because you weren’t able to make your long distance relationship work, don’t give up hope! Long distance relationships are hard, but it is possible to make them work if you stay strong and give your partner the attention he needs.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Though you should avoid making the same mistakes, if you’re constantly obsessing over not making them, you won’t be able to enjoy the relationship. Just have fun and try not to think about it too much unless you’re having a conflict. If you’re so worried that you’ll lose him again every step you take, you won’t be able to live in the moment.

Before I get into the steps you need to take that will show you how to get back with your girlfriend… you first need to understand why she left you in the first place, so that you NEVER go back to being this dude again.

Now is the perfect time to get a little selfish. You’re the most important person in your life right now. Even if you’re missing your ex girlfriend, you have to remember to take care of yourself. Now might be a good time to start dating yourself, as if we’re.

Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were.

If you look at your current situation then it is your ex girlfriend that care least and holding all cards. It is you that who keeps on searching how to get your ex girl back. If you want to control your relationship then you have to care least. Accept it and work on techniques (I will mention later) to reverse it.

Not every woman is going to act super upset or angry that you aren’t contacting them. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t feeling it inside it just means that they are doing a good job of hiding it on the outside.

that’s good being near gives you more chances, but don’t say that ahead in the conversation because if she doesn’t want to go back with you, mentioning that right ahead will make you look like you’re using it to try to make her see that she should get back with you..

By going out on a few dates you are changing your situation in several positive ways; you are getting over your neediness, you are increasing your confidence, and you are getting out of any depression. These are all VERY attractive things.

However, make it a point to do this intimate talk in person. Avoid doing it over the phone, through text or online chat. What you should do, instead, is to invite her to have dinner with you. If possible, do it in your favorite restaurant or coffee shop to increase your chances of rekindling the feelings.

I was always an odd child, prone to health issues and anxiety. I had a nervous tic of looking at my shoes when I walked, leading me to careen into door frames and people, as if facing the world with a direct gaze was too much to bear. By then, my mother noticed that my natural oddities had given way to something darker, and my suicide attempts and musings landed me in a mental hospital just as the holiday season was in full bloom. I still can’t see Christmas lights or smell a traditional Thanksgiving dinner without my heart seizing in my chest. I was in the hospital for over a month, and by the time I left, I was not the girl I was when I entered. My mental traumas in the years following that first hospitalization grew deeper. Even though my diagnosis shifted over the years — depression, schizoaffective disorder, bipolar type II — one truth remained: I have tied my identity to my madness so fiercely, I don’t know who I am when I’m not ill.

Wear a fragrance. Perfumes and colognes were invented to attract romantic partners. Wear a sweet, subtle fragrance to lure your boyfriend or girlfriend to kiss you. Be careful not to over do it! Too much fragrance will have the opposite effect.[6]

Allow your conversation to progress naturally. Avoid making her feel that you are forcing her to go back to you. However, make sure that you also observe her and look for subtle hints that she still has feelings for you. If there is, then maybe it is the right time to bring up slowly the topic of giving the two of you another try.