You probably already know who I am, but for any new viewers out there, my name is Amy North… I’m a women’s dating coach from Canada, and I’m the owner of CoachNorth.com, my popular ladies-only website featuring free relationship guidance videos.

Remember that no contact is ultimately meant for you to pick yourself up and to create a version of yourself that would make your ex fall for you again. Whether she starts to move on or not shouldn’t matter, because she’s moving on from the image and impression she had of you before the change. As long as the relationship with her was meaningful, there’s always a strong possibility of her falling for you again if you seemed to have made significant positive changes to yourself, which captures her attention.

We had fall break and I finally got to the point where I stopped having nightmares, which I’d been having nonstop for months. Tomorrow we have school again… I don’t want to go back. I want them to stop being together. I’m not over him, but I don’t want him anymore. I deserve better. I just don’t want to see them together anymore. I want her to feel as horrible as she made me feel. I want him to realize he hurt me and to feel sorry. I don’t want to go back and I’m scared. I have to see them every day for at least another 7 months. I got so depressed I even stopped all my art and hobbies–I just sit in my room all day now, and he apparently burned the gifts I gave or bought him, gave them to her, or shot them with his BB gun until they exploded.

It is possible you may want to know from where this panic comes from. In simple words, I can explain when you get immediate loss of control it triggers panic. When you are in relationship you smile, enjoy and argue with your ex boyfriend because you know you can control your relationship but when breakup occurs you lost control and enters into world of unknown feelings that trigger panic. This make you dunk dial to your ex and say everything that only make things worst.

“I listened to my friends, who pointed out how he was a jerk, which really opened my eyes to how he really treated me. I also listened to ‘Potential Breakup Song’ by Aly & AJ, which made me dance and get over him!” –Sami, 14

when she came back for the Xmas/new year, we saw, she asked me to bring over food and drinks on Xmas day, I did, I kissed her but lightly, and said our good nights, cause I didn’t want to push it far.

hi, last sunday my boyfriend broke up with me. i dont know if its totally broke up because he only said to me that “lets end this, i have so many problems right now and im so tired.” i asked him if he dont like me anymore. he said “yes, i dont. i just want to be alone now, pls.”. i cant accept the fact that we broke up and he never even explain to me the reason. all his saying is he had so many problems but he dont want to discuss with me thats why i cant understand him why he so stress about. so i gave what he want, i didnt talk to him ever since, its almost 2 days already. but i miss him. and i know he love me too. maybe something really happened that why i gave him what he want. if he really want to be alone. he also never msg me since then. do i just let him alone first. you think he will call me soon? i really want him back. im trying my best not to msg or call him. hopefully soon he will realize that he miss me too. i know its because of stress and anger thats why all of a sudden he said those things to me.

If you listen to your heart, all you will hear is that you love your ex and you want them back. Instead, try to think with your mind. Be logical. Analyze the pros and cons of your relationship. Analyze the pros and cons of your ex. Analyze what your goals in life are and whether or not a relationship with your ex aligns with those goals.(Read: Should You Get Your Ex Back?)

It’s tempting to think of jumping into a relationship with a new guy, just to show him how desirable you are. But give your heart and emotions time to heal. Take that alone time and use it to get comfortable being by yourself and learning more about why your breakup happened, the Marie Claire website advises. While you’re by yourself, begin to deal with the breakup and what led to it.

Situation 3- He left you for another girl. He was either cheating or was in love with someone else. Ladies, I am going to be completely honest here, this guy is not someone that you should want to get back with. Sure, you can try to get him back but he needs to prove to you that he is trustworthy.

I was angry because this email and I didn’t contact him although I still have strong feelings for him and still love him. Because of this email, I cut off 12 weeks no contact with him, but he didn’t contact me during 12 weeks. I know he is a stubborn man, so I try to initiate contact him first. When he received my email, he responded immediately.

The first rule of moving on is no contact. You cannot text your ex, call your ex, stalk your ex, or “accidentally” bump into him at his job or at his favorite restaurant. You must remain without contact if you’re going to get over him and move on.

“It took me eight months to get over my ex. For six months after the split, I was depressed and discouraged about finding anyone ever again. I ended up reading the book Become Your Own Matchmaker by Patti Stanger, which gave me a new perspective on dating. I realized that my previous relationship wasn’t meant to be and that finding the right guy could take time. So, I focused on improving my life for myself, not some guy. I took a break from dating and filled my life with things like spending time with friends, working out, and planning a big move—I met Mr. Right a month later.” –Julie D.

There’s more to getting your ex back than this post of course. Every situation is different and requires a slightly different approach. Hopefully at least one tip from above rings a bell and gets you closer on your path to getting Mr. Right back to where he should be, with you, the perfect girlfriend for him.  Once you get him back, don’t take him for granted – a relationship… love… is something you must work on and maintain so that the fire keeps burning, if you just leave it unattended it’ll either go out or get out of proportion and burn down a whole forest.

Getting over an ex boyfriend takes time. You should dwell on him and the breakup less and focus on yourself more! Reconnect with an old hobby, discover a new one, read books, catch up with friends, pamper yourself up, write… Reconnect with yourself!

I met her when I was 18. She was my everything. 3 years with the most physical attraction I’ve ever had. No one has come close since. I’ve pined for her for 30 years. It doesn’t stop. I still love her. I contacted her via Facebook we spoke lots. She couldn’t believe I felt that for her as she’d practically forgotten about me for all these years.

Over the past two months, I’ve made a lot of personal strides and feel better about myself and not nearly as sad as I once was. I still have moments where I break down because I truly loved the girl, and the breakup came out of nowhere. Jan. 30 is fast approaching, and that marks two years since we first met (I’m currently a senior in college, she’s a junior). February marks a lot of what would be two-year anniversaries and I know it’s going to be a tough month. I’ve received a lot of advice, had multiple deep conversations with my support group, but I truly want my ex back (different from needing her). How should I go about reaching out to her, as I was planning on it around the end of January. (I wrote her a handwritten letter at the end of September and the day after my birthday she sent me an email telling me she wanted to quit contact. I’ve had one outburst since then Halloween weekend.)

If you ask me then I would say clinginess and insecurity are two biggest unattractive behaviors that kill attraction from any relationship. It doesn’t matter how strong the relationship is, any sign of clinginess or insecurity can make any man called for quit.

In fact, that voice is precisely why you need to give your ex a bit of breathing room after a breakup. You have to get your head on straight first if you want to get your man back.You need to kick the desperation and your ex needs to have some time and space to start missing you.

Getting over your ex doesn’t take a lot of work, but it does take a lot of pinky promises with yourself that when you feel the urge to get back with them or even just stalk their social media that you’ll do something for yourself instead. If you need a quick boost, just remember that it will get easier. The first few days of a breakup seem impossible to move on from, but by month three you’ll probably forget why you were so upset over someone who was hardly worth a second of your time. And secretly you already know that.

After 30 days, I text him first contact texts for 2 days and he has responded extremely favourably. On the 2nd day he said he wanted to share something with me since he wanted to be open with me. He told me that he is “talking” to someone, and unsure of how I will react by this news (is this a rebound?). I acted confident and told him I was happy for him and that I am doing the same. His reaction was not that excited but he wished me all the best. Should I still continue to text him and build rapport and move on to meeting up? Technically he’s still single, but talking to the other girl. How often should I text/meet up with him in this case? Although he always responds, what if he never initiates the texts?

Getting back on his feet involved reconnecting with old friends, and making contact with new ones as he pursued interests in activities he enjoyed. He joined a book group, found a place with religious services that he liked. He recalled the sports activities that in better times, he used to enjoy and returned to doing those activities again. Bit by bit, his spirits lifted.

I’m 24 year old and i was dating him for 2 years..one day I saw messages in his phone..he was trying to make a relationship with another girl and he told me sorry and give him a chance..I gave him a chance and after 1year he began to neglect me and I was really sad and i asked why he said he need some space and it’s better to make some distance..I didn’t agree and in our third aniversary day he saw messages of me and one of my friend (boy) and i was confused when he told that I have a affair with that guy..he was really happy in that day and then he suddenly told me that he don’t need me anymore because I m a cheater..I try to explain him that that guy is just my friend but he didn’t need to hear..then he blocked me and I’m alone and i realy love him and i don’t need any other in my life..I didn’t cheat him but once he tried to cheat me

Initiate Contact Via Text Message- Test the waters with your ex boyfriend via text messaging. There are a whole set of rules and regulations that go with texting an ex. I am not going to go into those here but if you want to know them then please visit this page.

Thank you for this post! I’m trying so hard to move on but I’m stuck on #5 “allowing him to string me along”. I know it’s not right but the heart wants what it wants. I deleted his phone number and texts from my phone immediately after reading this. Baby steps :-). I’m hoping that I’ll be better soon

I have come to find out the man she replaced me with is her boss (46-2 kids, previously married)…which I am crushed by. In a way Im glad its not the hot guy at the bar I would compare myself to and wonder what he does better than me. I know her boss has money, has known for her for a year and probably knows where my support lacked and where she needed more. He’s not attractive in my or my friends eyes but this really breaks my heart.

All I can say is, I am simply moving on with my daily responsibilities and new interests and hobbies (previously discouraged by my ex wife). I still love her dearly after she declared she no longer loved me 18 months ago :-(. The distraction of hobbies and interests is like a Panadol but new skill acquisition requires daily practise so they are a regular distraction. I signed up for an online course, regular homework and further distraction. These things are enjoyable even though I am using them as a distraction. I was told I couldn’t dance if my life depended… Read more »

If you must remain in contact because of children or other shared obligations, know that there is a distinct difference between being friendly and being friends. True friendship means two people care about each other’s well-being and have one another’s best interest at heart. By the time many relationships end, it is often in question whether both parties can genuinely provide this kind of care and support for one another. The expectation that someone who didn’t treat you well while you were together will be capable of being a true friend afterward sets you up to continue being hurt. But choosing to be friendly means you can, without expectations, acknowledge the love you shared and honor that time in your life by treating the other person with kindness and respect.

“I think the worst you could do is jump into a new relationship. You will most likely just end up hurting the other person. Take some time off. When you start to like someone else, go for it. The hurt from the previous relationship will go away eventually.” –Amanda, 16