In this case it really is the classic line “it’s not you, it’s me.” This one can be a little harder to come back from but trust me it can be done if you are smart about how you approach the situation.
Learn to control you mind: Mind is the real source of most of the issues we face. It’s important to learn to control our mind so that we can stay focussed on our life ahead and not dwell on the past. I would suggest that you can try some meditation techniques to calm down the mind. The Hare Krishna Mantra meditation technique is something I found extremely useful. Here is a video about it: Meditation Technique
More often than not if you have gotten this far in your conquest to get them back they are going to respond back positively. Except this time you are going to engage them in a conversation but make sure that you don’t go too fast. Remember, you still have to be the one to end the conversation first. Lets look at how a conversation like this might play out using an example from above:
Avoid using the word “but.” “I am sorry, but…” means “I am not sorry.” Also, do not say “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry if you were offended.” This makes it seem like you are blaming the other person, and is not a real apology.
Focus on you for a while. Don’t obsess over the relationship’s end or fixate all your attention on getting back together. Instead, take time to yourself. Reconnect with your favorite hobbies, hang out with friends, and refamiliarize yourself with who you are apart from your relationship.
Then have a conversation with him. Tell him that you don’t want to repeat the past relationship again and you want to start taking things slow. That means you should not have sex for at least two weeks after you start dating. Since your past relationship was only based on sex, it’s best to avoid having sex for a while so you don’t go back to the same old patterns. Only meet him outside and go on dates with him. Take your time to figure out if a relationship with him can work. And if he is not willing to take it slow, you should be willing to walk away (he will eventually come around when he realizes you are strong and he can’t make you go back to the same old relationship pattern.)
This game plan is meant to be a long term game plan. In other words, the only men I want reading this are the ones that are very serious about establishing a long lasting relationship with their ex if they can get them back.
Yes, my roommate has seen me naked, and I understand how, from the outside, that seems like something you just don’t get over. But it also means that I have no qualms coming home and immediately stripping to my underwear — which I do so often that Katie has joked that I should join a semi-nudist colony, where all we wear is underwear and an oversized T-shirt.
Stay busy. Though you should avoid getting busy in the bedroom while you’re trying to win your girl back, you should try to live a busy and active life so you can work on being independent and pursuing your interests. If you’re just sitting around waiting for enough time to pass to start trying to hang out with her again, she’ll know.
Can I absolutely guarantee that Brad Browning’s advice will work for you? Of course not. Nobody can make that guarantee (and if they do, they’re lying to you), but the video isn’t that long so you have nothing to lose. Check out this video right now before it’s taken down.
Leave it at least 2 weeks – Don’t be needy or act desperate, it’s not going to help you. Play your cards close to your chest and don’t contact her for at least 2 weeks. Delete her number if you need to, so you’re not tempted (obviously write it down first).