The big takeaway that I want you to get from this is that you have to look like you take care of yourself. The second that you stop looking that way is the second you appear less attractive than you really can be.
It will not be easy to get back together instantly. There are issues that would definitely need to be cleared up before you guys can go riding off into the sunset. Don’t be afraid to become friends first. It will give you time to start getting to know each other again.
Why does she hate you? It’s vital that you find out why she hates you… because this will help you to build a solid action plan. Did you cheat on her? Did she blame you for wasting years of her life without you even proposing to her? Think man!
Hey Charlie great article, it was very informative!. By the way my gf of 3 years broke up with me cause she caught me in some lies, for example creating a Facebook behind her back. So she broke up with me cause she can’t trust, she say’s she hates me and that I’m not the right man for her. But when she talks to me she gets very emotional and starts crying. I’m going to give her space and work on myself like you said!. But my question is i have to see her once a month to give her my part of car insurance since were on the same policy and was wondering what should i say or do when i do see her *note(that i still want her back). Thanks for your time.
My situation feels different to these options. It’s been about a month now since my ex decided to end the relationship. She has all her friends and family in her ear telling her it was a good thing and simply keeping her and I away from eachother. She says she’s happier this way but I’m really quite the opposite. I’ve spent a lot of nights crying and even spent two nights in hospital after attempted suicide. Since the breakup we’ve kept in contact and one night we even had a little fling and had sex. Almost immediately afterwards she told me it meant nothing to her and it was just sex. She has been getting real close with one of her friends and they’ve kissed and rugged eachother a little. I’ve made the mistake of begging several times. I’ve done all I could think to get her back but after doing my research I’ve realised I’ve only been “emotionally blackmailing” her. I’m pretty much at the point where I’d even kill to get her back. I’ve seen a lot of guides and programs but I simply don’t have money to pay for them. I was really hoping that maybe you could shoot me an email and work put a way to help me get my ex back.
You were never an add on or an option to me in my heart!!! You were always my one and only and my everything, and you still are!!! You’re absolutely right in saying that I love you and adore you, because I really do baby!!! So don’t be afraid that you’ll never have that again, when you have it from me now and always will!!!
So I’m looking for advice. I just finished no contact a whole 30 days and I sent the text…. it was an action text something that she’s very interested in and I got a instant text back! Yay right!? So I listened and ended the convo on text #2 the following day I texted again half action half continuation of the previous text. I got a response hours later close to twelve hours. I understand that I’m not her priority so I take the late response with a grain of salt. She hasent seemed terribly perky nor adjitated she’s normally a avid texter and I know she has her phone on her at all times. Half her half work needs.
Be proud of yourself for working hard to get your ex back. At least now you know that it wasn’t worth it after all — it’s better to know the truth than to wonder what could have happened if you fought for his heart again.
Women are submissive by nature and they want their man to be the polar opposite (dominant). Leaving decisions (could be about anything) to her, is submissive behavior by you, and it places her in the dominant role – a role that the female kind doesn’t take naturally to.
You have the quality to attract women as you attract your ex girlfriend first time. You are in state of mind where you don’t want to try. Instead of searching about how to win her back, just give a try and you will surely feel good.
You could start with No contact and avoid making small talk with him for the time being. This article helps you deal with having to see your ex on a daily basis. Do that until you feel that you’re not as affected by things, and start with initiating a casual friendship to see if there’s still a spark, and whether the situation may be different this time compared to the previous relationship.
You could text him on that day, wishing him all the best and a comforting text, which may help break the ice and ease on the emotions he may be feeling. See how it works out from there, and continue accordingly.
Thanks so much for that post. It helped me out in a bad place. But, if the person I spent 9 months with, and who told me she loved me and couldn’t imagine life without me, doesn’t miss me, then who will? That’s been an enormous source of self-deprecation for me.
My ex and I broke up. I successfully did no contact for one month immediately after the break up and sent a follow-up text. In the initial first text I asked him in the message if he’d like to catch up for coffee, he said he it was too soon as he was struggling to find normality. I said I understood and we had a really good catch up chat via text. We have been texting almost everyday, good chats about friends, work, movies etc. I then asked him about a week or two later if he’d like to catch up for a drink he said he’s not ready to just hang out and it might be a while and he was sorry, but wants to stay in touch. He isn’t much of a texter even in our two year relationship. So I was a bit confused when he said no but I acted cool about it and said I understood and I’m happy to keep chatting (texting). We continued texting for about two weeks about random things and I got a fine in the mail I approached him about it cause I didn’t believe it was me driving (the fine was from a few months ago) and he said in a long message he remembered that day because I come over cooked for him and we had coffee in the park, he also joked in the message about a lunch we had made that’s still in his fridge and looks a bit dangerous lol. We sent a few more texts about our pet fishes and what not, seemed to be good. He said the suburb I was livin in now suited me 🙂 and then I said you should check it out sometime and he said yeah that would be nice :). So then a few days after that I said what is he up to this weekend and would he like to come check out my place/pool (he seemed to respond better to that then the coffee idea hence why I asked). But then he took two days to reply and said sorry he had a busy week and probably not this weekend and that he needs a pool at this place. Honestly at this point I felt confused so I replied saying ok when were you thinking to catch up as I will be away most of January? And he said he’s not in a huge rush, it’d be nice to see me but he feels he needs to find his own feet first and maybe closer to Xmas/New Years but he doesn’t know and not too rush it. I said it does suck but I understand and hope I catch you before I go :). That was our last text about 3-4 days ago and I’m not sure what to do now since I’ve asked to catch up a few times. I’m confused, I feel he’s definitely shown some positive signs, especially sending me some money for the fine even though he didn’t think it was him. My friends said I should just let him text me and not text him so I haven’t and it’s been a few days now. He was never much of a texter anyway but I’m not too sure what to do from here. Thanks 🙂