This is another legitimate reason for a breakup. Unfortunately, in my personal opinion it says more about of his lack of character (unless you were really boring but I doubt that) than anything you actually did. Luckily, seeming boring is quite easy to fix!
So I have a problem with this girl that is sort of similar and I am wondering if anyone can help me. I met this girl 6 months ago. She had just broken up with her boyfriend who she had been dating for 3 years and was engaged to. We hit is off and started hanging out together and spent a good deal of time together. One night when I was drunk I ran into her and she took me back to her place where we hooked up, no sex though. Needles to say I woke up the next morning some what confused and it was a fairly awkward morning after. We parted ways after that and didn’t really spend much time together after that. However I decided to reignite several weeks later and it worked. We started hanging out a lot and I could tell that she really fell for me. However what she didn’t tell me was that she had gotten back together with her boyfriend. This proved to be difficult because when I started to push for us to get closer, more physical, perhaps be in a relationship ourselves, she told me she had a boyfriend and declined. All the while though, she was getting closer to me and we began to get physical. She started to call me her “boyfriend” and would get jealous if I “checked out” other girls. Eventually, SHE brought up sex while we hooking up one night, and I declined several times, telling her no, not while you have a boyfriend. One night she got really drunk (it was both my birthday and her anniversary with her boyfriend). She fought with him, told me she needed me, and other things of this nature. It was a terrible night, but eventually she left with him. The next day she came back to my place and we had sex. But following this, our semester ended and we haven’t seen each other in 2 months. At first she continued to be interested in me, trying to set up times to hang out, constantly telling me how much she missed me and such. But now she tries to tell me that she never had any feelings for me, that I pressured her to do things she didn’t want to. That she only wants to be friends, that she never wanted to date me and other bullshit. I know its all a lie, I think the distance we have right now is putting a strain on things because she can easily see her “boyfriend” but not me. I tried a variant of the Zebra boyfriend destroyer to bring up some of the emotions that she felt before, and I think it worked fairly well, but I still think that she is drifting away from me. I know its not really pick up to try and sustain a relationship, but I am wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to reignite those feelings again, to break away the walls she puts up, such as the “I only want to be friends” “I never really wanted to be in a relationship with you” and especially how she denies all the times when she absolutely wanted me. I also was wondering if anyone has any ideas of how to get rid of her boyfriend. He is a loser, and I know she has been reevaluating her relationship with him lately. My plan right now is to give her time to cool off, then when we get back to school and start seeing each other everyday to lay it on hard, tell her that Im not interested in being friends. I know she values me in her life, and I think presenting her with the very real possibility of losing me might do the trick. Im not sure if this is the best strategy though. Any tips at all would be appreciated, Im really drawing a blank as to what my next immediate move should be. thanks in advance for your help
You let your ex walk all over you. You become a doormat. You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. But your instincts tell you, it’s OK. Because having your ex in your life is the only thing that matters.
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago and I love her alot stil. I was very alpha for most of the relationship but I have issues with my health and business that made me very needy and weak towards the end. It was a weird break up. I went no contact and she contacted me 5 weeks after the break were she told me that no one ever turned her on in bed like I did and that she knows she will not be able to love like that again in the future. She then asked my if I would be willing to change if we gave a try to the relationship. I said yes and made her feel like she could be back with me anytime I also had tears in my eyes (@%#$ me) . We kissed that night and the next time we met she told me it was over for the moment and was very assertive. It has been 4 week and I am no contact. I am very very depress over this and I know exactly where I messed up in the relationship and have already changed but do not know how to prove it to her ….
Show him that you are fine without him. It will be clear to him that you aren’t an obsessed ex girlfriend, but it will also show him that you’re having fun without him, which may result in him missing you more.
Well…I was in a long distance relationship. My ex and I were together for about a year, but in those twelve months we broke up about twelve times. But the relationship ending horribly was my fault, I told her I’d come see her and that I’d pay for her to get here to see me sometime, but I was too scared of what she’d think of me..among other personal things. All I want is a family with her because honestly she is perfect for me and I…was perfect for her. I might as well be honest, gaming took over my life and because of that I hardly ever go out or do anything. It also made me angry all the time and now I’m trying to change everything. I cry day in day out thinking that I’ll never have a family with the girl I love, she still loves me but isn’t ready to be with me and I’m not ready either but I’m willing to change for myself and for her. Most people would say that I’m too young to be thinking about having a family and whatever but it’s my life. Please if you can, help me figure out what I’m doing wrong and what I need to do. I’m going to die young so I have to live fast, this is true, I’m not attention seeking, I’m not like that. But anyway I really need to change and get her back, I want a life. Please help.
Although we all deserve proper closure, sometimes we just don’t receive it. It doesn’t mean you should stay in one place, without moving on in life because that’s what many people do and they never fully pick themselves up. It seems really sudden that he broke up with you when everything seemed fine (based on what you said) and there should be a reason. Maybe if you can figure out what that is (from mutual friends), then you would get the closure you deserve. However, I suggest in the mean time not to contact him any further and just focus on yourself. Apply No Contact and pick yourself up as he’s doing with himself. Only later on should you actually contact him again if you still love him and want him back.
Make sure that she is still interested – Prior to starting to exert an effort to win back her heart, determine if she still wants to be with you. Make sure that she still loves you or still cares about you before exerting an effort. Knowing that she still cares is an essential clue that will help you identify whether you can still mend your relationship.
Is it disgust, hatred or contempt? If yes, then rekindling the relationship may be much more difficult. However, if you parted on good terms in the sense that you still have respect for each other, then you have a bigger chance of making your relationship work once again.
Alright, assuming you successfully engaged your ex boyfriend and got a decent response you can move on to this section. I’ll admit that you will have a distinct advantage here if you had a long relationship and made a lot of great memories. If your relationship was brief then this part of engaging your ex may be a little bit more challenging. However, that doesn’t mean anything bad it just means you might have to get more creative.
Your instincts tell you that if your ex just realizes how much you love them and how much you care about them, they will come back. You just need to make them believe that no one in the world will ever love them the way you do. How can they reject you once they realize how much you love them, Right?
If you can’t trust her right now, and there are major issues with the relationship, even chasing her and getting her back now would yield the same result as the previous time (in August). If you get back together with her, ideally you want the relationship to be better than before, not the same or what’s the point? THIS is why you should leave it alone for now and disregard whatever your instincts are telling you because it isn’t the way to win her back or sustain a lasting relationship. Work on your issues first and complete NC, then win her back with the changed you.
The big takeaway that I want you to get from this is that you have to look like you take care of yourself. The second that you stop looking that way is the second you appear less attractive than you really can be.
Be that man your ex-girlfriend fell in love with – Think about the first time when both of you got together. What are the things about you that she specifically likes? Is it your sense of humor or sense of style? No matter what it is, bring back the love and passion in your relationship by letting your ex-girlfriend see the man that he fell in love with before.
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My apologies, I must have missed that point. Yes, Dan is right. You shouldn’t let what she did in the time you guys were broken up affect you, because she was free to do whatever she wanted back then. The important thing is that now she’s with you, it doesn’t continue to happen. If it’s an issue that’s bothering you, sit down and have a talk with her to tell her how you feel, and find a way to compromise so that respect for one another can be earned. As Dan had also mentioned, her lack of respect for you was probably attributed to the past relationship and how you acted. Ideally, if you followed no contact rule, you should have worked on those issues by now, and made some significant changes in your life which would change the way she views you.
Damn I’m so sorry.. me a different story. I thought it was going well but suddenly she told me that she wanted to be honest and saying she didn’t wanted anyone and then she told me shitty things to cover it up.. fuck that bitch..man we don’t need them.. they are just fucking heartbreakers
Now, the texting rules as mentioned in the video I linked you to, will do a lot of the work to make her WANT to hang out, and as soon as she WANTS to hang out, then arranging to meet should be very easy. I’ll talk you through what to say to set up a meet with her regardless, though.
The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.
The answer to your dilemma is that, very probably, neither of these women is right for you. When there is a choice between two people, it is not always a case that one of them must be right for you, if you could only work out which. It is more likely that you have two not-quite-right-for you people in front of you at the same time. I think the fact that you are feeling ready to “settle down” is making you look at your situation and evaluate – and that is good. Just don’t mistake availability for suitability.
Women will always find a man who is fit more attractive than a man who has let himself go. In fact, one of the many reasons a girl may have broke up with you is because you stopped taking care of yourself.
Well, one of the negatives of carrying on a conversation for that amount of time is that you don’t leave a person wanting more. Sure, if the conversation was amazing they may call back the next day. However, what if I told you that there was a surefire way to leave your ex girlfriend wanting more.
And the answer is simple: because your goal isn’t to just get your girlfriend back but to take this relationship and make it stronger than it ever was. And that’s why I’m making you this limited time offer: to keep you updated with the most reliable information to turn your wish into reality.
So, now that you know what changes you need to make physically lets talk about arguably the harder thing to improve, your mental state. One of the biggest assets about the no contact period is that it gives you time to calm down a bit from the mental tension that was your breakup. This section is going to be all about how to get through your breakup and heal emotionally. However, in order for that to happen you need to take a few actions first.
hi I”m someone s ex girlfriend . yes I don”t understand why my ex walked out on me. without even saying bye bye. and why did go and cheat with my friend for why. my ex girlfriend didn’t have to do me like the way she did me. because if she did”t want me than she shoulder told me than. but I love her and I still care about her a lot . and yes I still wanna get back with her . because overtime I think of her I cry . because I misses her . wild I didn’t no that I”m boring . well why she didn’t tell me than. why sweet heart . but nope I don’t have a girlfriend no. sense my ex walked out on me . from tabitha
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