Me and my ex were together for 4 and a half months. She mentioned a while ago when a guy messaged her that they had a thing before me and her but she assured me that it was the past. Apparently not. She broke up with me because I don’t have a job and I’m apparently lazy. I smoke cigarettes and weed and I am forcing myself to quit these things and I feel like its the only chance of getting her back. Ive also been looking suuuper hard.for a job, but it isnt easy when youre17. This guy that she had a thing with before us is now going all out to try and snatch her up. She broke up with me a week ago and I got information from her friend that she has already gone out on 2 dates with him… that hit me like a train. As soon as I heard that I bursted into tears. She seems like the type to come back after a while but im just not sure because she mentioned that she just doesnt feel the same way about me as she did before, the “butterflies” are missing. I will do anything in my power to get her back because what i dont think she realises is that I am the one who actually cares about her and loves her and this other guy just wants sex. I am way too attatched to this girl and she has such a huge part of my heart and its killing me that she left me so suddenly. 🙁 I REALLY need your help…

Is it disgust, hatred or contempt? If yes, then rekindling the relationship may be much more difficult. However, if you parted on good terms in the sense that you still have respect for each other, then you have a bigger chance of making your relationship work once again.

I don’t want to talk about common mistakes that ended your relationship. If I start writing I can point out more than hundred mistakes that men do in their relationship however I don’t want to talk about these mistakes because all of these mistakes come to one BIG REASON and that is ‘loss of attraction’.

If you find yourself thinking things like “she might be the one,” or constantly talking about her to everyone within earshot, you’re probably in too deep – especially if it’s only been a few weeks or months. Take a step back and make sure you’re actually happy with yourself in general, and not just with the fact that you’ve managed to get a new girlfriend. Girlfriends aren’t just tools for validating your life.

Slowly approach her. Once you’ve starting “running into” your ex a few times, it’s time to make the first move. Start talking to her more, asking how she’s doing, and taking a real interest in her life and thoughts. Let her know that she’s on your mind and that you really do care about her without overwhelming her. Whether you just run into her at the campus bookstore or even invite her out for coffee, slowly find a way to make it back into her life.

Hey! I broke up with my ex 7 months ago, I was desperate and I asked him to come back to me more than once. A month ago he started dating another girl but she left him. He is single now and I told him that I will be there for him but this isn’t working. I’m still in love with him but he seems so not caring about me. I know it’s kinda impossible but can you help me

That said, if you asked her about this, she would never admit it. Why not? She cannot. Attraction is a very primal and subconscious process that has been in place for thousands of years, so she won’t be consciously aware of why she lost attraction for you.

I am not sure of your age – you didn’t give it – but from what you have said it sounds as if you met your ex in your early 20s, maybe even your late teens. Anecdotally, those we fall in love with at this time – early adulthood – can have a real hold on us, even long after the relationship is over.

So take your time with this course. You have a full 90 days to go through it. Why? Because I’m that confident the information within delivers on my promise to get your girlfriend back. And I’m inviting you to take me up on that promise without any risk whatsoever.

You don’t want to make the mistake of rekindling your relationship with her only to end up having to break both your hearts again when everything fails, do you? Ask yourself if bringing her back to your life is what you really want. If you are still unsure, then spend time assessing your own self and reflecting back on the relationship that you once had.

I understand that this is a very difficult time in your life. I have gone through it myself. But believe me, this is actually a great opportunity in your life. When things are normal in our life, we actually don’t feel a need to work on ourselves. But it’s only in situations like these do we feel that burning fire within to change, improve and succeed. I was going through a similar situation in my first year of college. By the time I graduated, I was the best student of my batch/class, and now I have 3 companies of my own.

I want you to take a good hard look at all of the alpha male qualities on this page. While some of the qualities are certainly more important than others to women no one quality will be enough to win back your ex girlfriend.

Commit to having a better relationship. If your ex-boyfriend takes you back, you both need to take steps to make sure that the same problems that caused your last breakup will not interfere with your relationship again. Talk to each other about what kinds of conflicts you have had in the past and how you could deal with them more appropriately going forward.[9]

The good news is that there is potential for ending up with reunion and a better-than-ever relationship ahead.  Here’s five steps that can save folks from crashing down the waterfall, enabling them instead to find solid ground and a bridge to a better future.

Also, take note that a lot of rekindled relationships deal with lack of trust, causing them to experience repeated break-ups. With that in mind, avoid making your move if you are not a hundred percent sure yet if that is really what you want.

So now, I had decided to actually study in my home country in Europe. Finish school there and what not. I had this plan before but I just hadn’t acted on it until now. She took this other guy to prom, so when she told me she’s seeing this other guy because “she would rather I knew”, I realized what I had lost and started pouring my heart out to her and sending her roses etc etc etc. She tells me it wouldn’t be fair for her to not give the other guy a chance. She said maybe if I come back to Europe, we can get close again and see how it goes but for now, she will be seeing this other guy. After more begging and pleading, she finally just told me she’s going to be seeing him and that I took too long to make a decision. I told her she broke my heart and I realize I don’t have a shot anymore. That was the last thing I said to her.

Ok, so those are pretty much the most basic things of the big NO-NO’s of the no contact period. Now we get to the good stuff. Honestly, I am getting excited here because this is where you start taking the first steps of getting your ex boyfriend back. Granted, they are baby steps but they are still steps in the right direction.

It’s happened on almost every first date I’ve had since. There’s a weirdly specific dating convention in New York: You always talk about real estate and roommates. As I sit across from a girl at the bar or over brunch, I worry about getting to that roommate part — where we share how many we have, if we like them, how close we are. I wonder, anxiously, Is she going to bolt once I tell her that I live with my ex?

“Human experience has not yet devised anything,” Peter wrote on an early email, “that can shield us from the pain of a broken love, the pain of feeling thrown out of your own world and out into the cold. Same as being born: I  huddled in a very cosy place that was my natural place to be, then all of a sudden I am ejected into a new and hostile place, one that’s not where I  felt at home. And there is nothing the baby can do but scream and cry and feel terrible.” 

In this case, should i inform her that I would not contact her for a while, or still answer her calls but keep the conversation to general topics and avoid getting to serious topics? Or should I just ignore her (and might push her more away)?

A little over a year and a half ago, I wrote an article on here called “The Ultimate Guide on How to Get a Girl Back.” It fairly quickly became one of the more popular articles on the site, as getting girls back whose interest you’ve lost tends to be a common thing a great many men are all trying to figure out.

SIDE NOTE: One thing I want you to see here is that to your ex or any other girl, your DMV/ perceived superiority is as high as your behavior makes it, and is only partially related to your job, income, looks etc. This is why no guy reading this has any excuse for not being able to become the kind of guy his ex wants for a relationship.

Embrace your hobbies and interests. Fill your free time with steady progress and small victories instead of stewing in your sadness and anger. Use the lists you made of your dreams, interests, and talents as a guide.

When a girl stops feeling attracted to her boyfriend (or husband), the relationship goes stale for her, and if she has any dating market value left (i.e. if she’s still hot enough to draw in a decent new guy) then she will dump the boyfriend and sooner or later she’ll go get a new guy (one who she DOES feel attraction for).

Hi, we were engaged,she called off our engagement, she is very egoist lying and stubborn and i was abusive (verbally), controlling, jelous, insecure, over possessive. I loved her from the best i have but her ego and stubbornness made me behave wrong to her, i pleaded begged and cried but she didn’t changed her decision, it was me who always use to go to her after every fight where she used to stop talking to me for several days, after broke up i re approached her but she wanted to be friends firstly i said yes but she was so casual and seemed moved on so i started no contact, its been three months i didn’t heard anything from her, she is completely moved on now she seems happy and outgoing and enjoying her life, and here i am so obsessed and crying and dying for her even though i have decided i wont ever contact her or give any signal to contact me, if she wants to workout again then she has to contact me, otherwise its over for me, i am down, i am low but ill get up and ill make it large. [otp_overlay]