How would a seasoned Stoic maintain a healthy relationship with a troubled past, while remaining virtuous hic and nunc and all things considered? I know you mentioned a few weeks ago that Stoicism was a very forgiving philosophy. I’m curious to hear what you meant by that. 

Work on yourself. Everyone can use some self-improvemnt, and what better time to do it than when you have to win your ex back? While you’re backing off from your ex and giving her some breathing room, you should spend some time focusing on becoming a more self-assured, confident, understanding, and mature person. This will help you make a better impression on your ex once you win her over again.

The unlikely good news: If it was you fucking up, you have a far better chance of reuniting. Just be warned, there will be significant effort involved. Your first plan of action is acknowledging your mistakes, and expressing regret. Think (really contemplate!) how your behavior has affected her. Let her know you understand the role you played in the relationship’s demise, and express sincere, painful regret. 

Have an open discussion. Unfortunately, there’s no surefire way to know if your ex-boyfriend wants to get back together with you without asking him. When you feel you’ve had enough time to show him the new and improved you, have an honest conversation with him, letting him know that you still have feelings for him.

Even for the most accomplished Casanova, reclaiming love after it has been lost is a tricky endeavor. Nothing about it is simple, or straightforward, and contrary to what rom-coms have been telling you all these years, sleeping on her doorstep is not a no-fail route to changing her mind.

hey my boyfriend and I had just broken up 2 weeks ago after being together for 2 years, we have both 17. I’m from china but I study in the uk and thats how I met him. since I have got back after the break up, its been really difficult because I have to go to lessons and sit next to him. I feel so tempted to get back together or try to convince him back into a relationship. we both still care and love each other, but we couldnt be together because we argued way too much. I wanted to give it 2-3 months before we get back together so we both have got over all the negative stuff. do you think its a good idea? and how should I act around him when I know there is something more than just friends between us.

so, I told her again today in a video recording(with a cover of a song) that i was sorry i hadn’t responded on her messages, but i was trying to move on and respect her decision of breaking up. which she again replied on with, she understands more than i know and she thinks of me more than i know. and she was sorry she spammed me and that she didnt think it through.

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Use the past to your advantage. If your ex really liked a certain outfit of yours, wear it again. Share a light-hearted memory you had together. Meet at a familiar place you used to hang out together.

Most couples who get together after a break-up experience a renewed strength, and stay together for longer than they did prior to the break-up. Now you have to decide either you want to get your ex girlfriend to want you back or if you would prefer to move on and get another girl. It does not matter how much bad the situation appears, there is always a chance of getting ex back. So is that what you really want?

This is probably the worst of the bunch, but not impossible to come back from. Let’s say that you broke up, it’s been a few months, maybe even a year and you’ve heard through friends that she’s got a boyfriend (perhaps you even saw it on Facebook which would really suck).

Men and women have different points of view when it comes to talking. Men have a tendency to stay quiet about what troubles them, especially if it does not involve their partners. Women on the other hand have the innate ability to sense these things and feel left out when it’s not shared with them. So remember, despite some people saying men and women are from different planets, talking to each other is always important.

I knew something was a missed but she wouldn’t admit to anything until we communicated via text. She said she felt insecure, afraid, and confused as regards my overseas studies and my lack of time spent with her. Further, she told me she’s no longer happy being in a relationship with me. A few days later, I met her up and broke up with her. She cried a lot and as I walked her back to her place, she gave me a hug and told me she wants sometime to think over the entire situation and that we should not break up at this point. I agreed to it.

Now when the reasons are crystal clear of the separation, and you are emotionally stable. It is time to socialize with every individual you get in contact. Use internet, class groups. WhatsApp chats or every other sort of mixing tool. Get in touch with the old friends you have never bothered to contact after school, college or university. Increase the social circle.

Get to know one another. Especially if it has been a while since you were together, you and your ex have both changed as individuals in that time. Don’t assume you know everything about him or her. Take time to get to know one another again.

Make him jealous on social media. Without being too obvious, post some photos of you having a great time with your friends, you at the beach, or even you hanging out with a few guys. This will make your ex remember how great you look and feel sad that he doesn’t hang out with you anymore. Don’t post anything too often — just once or twice a week to remind him of how amazing you are.

The thing I want to point out here is that you don’t need to be Brad Pitt to get your ex girlfriend back. I was walking around the mall the other day and I happened to see one of the most beautiful women there walking with a total dork.

Do not call it a date. I repeat. Do not call it a date. If you do, your ex will put their defenses up faster than Garfield finds Lasagna. You don’t want them thinking that you are looking to get back together. At least not now. You want them to go out with you as a friend. And then you can build up attraction while you are with them.

To humility and self-awareness I would add skills. That’s why I wrote my book Power of Two and the website poweroftwomarriage.com. I’d sure love to see more folks access the gratifications of a fully loving committed relationship….

Hi, I think I rather foolishly applied a 21 day no contact rule instead of the full 30. There weren’t any harsh words at the breakup, but I was clingy for several days after. After making gentle contact again I got no response. It’s now been 11 days since. I’m lost as to what my next move should be.

You leave it for 2 weeks so that she has plenty of time to realise what she’s missing, how much she loves you and what she can do to get you back. In this time frame you need to carry on living exactly the way you do.

I am sorry if my reply was not very coherent. I do realize that I should not be so worried about what to send, that a single message can make it or break it, but at the same time that is what your website is about, the reality is that it does make all the difference.

In other words, this would be the part where you actually attempt to get your girlfriend back. However, before I can start getting into specific steps I feel it is important to lay out the “big picture game plan” for you first.