You can start with “Hey! Wassup” followed by the routine talk asking her of health and job issues. Now when she starts replying real fast you know it is time to ask her of meeting. It could be arranged on any of the place you both liked in the past like a café, restaurant romantic beach opening or even a shopping mall. But keep in mind that you do not need to take it faster. Relax and wait for the partner to ask of it. You know that she is eager for this.
We’re both in school so things started to get stressful a month in. We fought once a week then multiple times a week, all on text. I feel we started to focus on positive things less, he said he didn’t feel connected as much but everytime we saw each other, it’s like we hadn’t fought. We both acknowledged we couldn’t see each other to work things out as much. After another fight, he broke it off, saying we fought too much, didn’t feel trust, school/finals stress, & that we should take a break. We kept talking for like 2 weeks after saying we could work things out & even saw each other a week after the breakup. It felt like we still really wanted to make it work. That last time I saw him, he mentioned this classmate who he was talking about past relationships with (including ours) & I didn’t like it but didn’t think anything of it. She is 18 & he said he’d never be interested in her since she’s young, stuck-up, & have nothing in common. I mentioned a guy my friend was trying to set me up with to help me move on (I told my ex I wasn’t interested) but he didn’t like it. A week later, we got into the worst fight after my other ex messaged me after months (but I told him I denied him) then we didn’t talk for 2.5 weeks.
I call this part “The Instincts” because all these mistakes are a direct result of people following their instincts. Most of the advice in this 5 Step Plan is counter-intuitive, but it works. When you read it, you will understand why and it will all start to make sense. So let’s start by going over the deadly mistakes that you should avoid at any cost.
Hi, my ex girlfriend broke up with me two months ago, we were together for 10 months. I tried to beg her back, then we agree on NC. In the first 2 weeks it was impossible to accomplish couse I had to move out, and my stuff was all over the place, it took me time and she kept texting about my stuff. The last time I was there, we talked, and I managed to invite her to lunch, as a date. I’m pretty busy in general, that’s why the date was a week after that. We texted each other every day on Facebook, always she started the discussion. The lunch went well, but after she texted me she had second thoughts about it, like ‘it’s not a good idea and she thought about canceling… But it was so good and she likes me in the moment but we still have problems’. We continued texting. Then I went abroad one of my friends, originally this trip was planned as a romantic one with my ex. She kept on texting me. When I got home, I asked her out again, she was happy to say yes, then a few hours later and out of nowhere, she changed and said she is too bad and I need to run away from her, couse she is gonna hurt me… I tried to refuse it. No success. So goodbye and start NC. 10 days after she texted she wanted to talk to me. She seemed desperate (and I didn’t know your rules about NC) so we agreed to meet and talk on a monday. The next day was my birthday, no texts, nothing. One night before the meeting she canceled it and she wrote this is the last time I have to tolerate her indecisiveness, she thinks about me with love and hope we will be able to talk to each other again, couse she misses our long talks and me in general, but just bye. I didn’t respond. I just don’t get it. She’s like a roller-coaster. Should I hope for anything after that? It seems like the last goodbye.
You are right that you may not be able to use the good memories from your past relationship in rebuilding attraction with him. But that is only a small part of the plan. The biggest thing that attracts an ex back is the changes you make in yourself. If you can show him that you have truly changed and are a new person after you have finished no contact, you can definitely attract him back. Read this article for more info on what to do after no contact.
Take it slow. Treat it like you’re starting a new relationship instead of jumping right back into an old one. Don’t spend all of your time together right away, even if that’s what you were doing before you broke up.
By getting in your life again you are actually showing to your ex girlfriend that you are actually healing yourself. By healing and moving on, you are creating many attraction traits in your personality that will attract your ex girlfriend back once again.
Knowing that it’s important to give your ex some space is a sign of maturity. She’ll appreciate the fact that you respect her enough to know not to smother her, and that you’re mature enough to do your own thing for a while.
Stoped talking for those 5 months and barley yesterday she texted me saying she wants to have sex and that she wants mr bck but the problems is her family dosen’t like me and I do not know what to do, I really need your help
As painful as breaking up can be, it’s the emotional fallout after the fact that can really ruin a person’s year. Read these steps to learn how to forget your ex-girlfriend and put your life back together.
Over the next month we are going to turn you into an “ex-magnet.” We are going to transform you into the type of person that your ex (hopefully) CANNOT resist. I am going to school you in how to become irresistibly attractive to them.
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You have the quality to attract women as you attract your ex girlfriend first time. You are in state of mind where you don’t want to try. Instead of searching about how to win her back, just give a try and you will surely feel good.
Show what a better, more mature person you’ve become. She should be able to see how much you’ve changed without you having to say it yourself or to convince her that you’re completely different. Face it — many girls are more mature than their male counterparts, so wow her with your ability to be rational and mature.
Listen, I know the pain and desperation you’re probably feeling right now, trying every drastic measure to get your ex–girlfriend back. Why? Because I’ve been in your shoes. I’ve suffered the misery of getting “dumped” by a girlfriend on more occasions than I care to admit.
And what’s more is that they were shocked to discover how simple the whole process was once they understood the concept behind it (we’ll get to that in a second). But heed this word of warning: she’s not going to wait around forever. If you continue to act this way she’ll soon move on to somebody else.
Love should never hurt it should be the one thing thst makes you happy. If she is talking down to you for no apparent reason then she is not the one for you. If she can’t see thst you are in her corner and love her unconditional then it’s time to move on. Wasting time is not a good look especially when yoy are young. I thought thst i could not get over my ex but I am living and making the best of the situation everyday.
Me and my girl were good and after the first time i came to her house i had to talk to her family and she says i always talked about myself and my problems too much and that i never really payed attention to her and her problems also she says i shunned her family
NC would help because right now although she’s still in contact with you, the fact remains the same that she won’t give you another shot. You have to give her some time to change that train of thought and by showing her you’ve changed. This is hard to see when she’s still in constant contact with you. Complete NC and work on your issues before coming back and asking her for a second chance.
Hi thanks for the great advice! Also it’s hard with the NC rule due to we work together. Just today I talked with her for the first time in 4 days only because I have to at work. Although I said hello and merry Christmas, it was still strictly only work related . She was very dry with me even though it was only work related.