You have a fear of failure. Many times, people want to get back together to prove they didn’t do anything wrong, and that they can “make it work this time.” If all you’re doing is trying to feel that you can make a bad situation good for your own personal reasons, move on. Regardless of who did what to whom, you can’t fix the past; you can only learn from it to improve your future.
“She is making a huge mistake with that guy. Her new boyfriend is not the right person for her. I am. I need to speak to her immediately and convince her to leave the other guy for me. If I don’t, it may be too late.”
Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I feel like you need to determine what is best for you, and if it happens to coincide with his plans, then that’s great. My fear here is that if you move to where he needs or dramatically readjust your life, he’ll find himself to be the main source of control in the relationship and then you’ll always be facing an uphill battle. It’ll always be on his terms.
i have sent a letter to her talking of how i miss her and would like to go on a date again see if there is anything there but i havent heard anything back from her she is single i know that i am thinging of leaving it a few weeks and senting some flowers saying please could we go on a date and see if we get on again i dont want to push it i know it i wouldnt have a chance of getting her back then.
Sometimes after a breakup, you realize you still have feelings for your ex and want to be with them again. Asking your ex to get back together can be scary, but if you take your time and learn from the past, there’s a chance they’ll say yes.
Milly, 27, learnt that when she and her boyfriend of a year and a half broke up then tried again. ‘After five months, we gave it another go and both agreed to make changes: I’d be less dependent on him and he’d be more understanding. In the end it didn’t work, it was never going to because he brought those things out in me. It was who we were when we were together.’
My boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. Our relationship lasted for 2 years. At first, he said he wanted some time and space. And then suddenly, he broke up with me and told me that he wants to spend his with his family and friends. I also think that all the bad memories of us were the only ones that stayed on his mind. He blocked me on all social media sites and also my number. We just talked yesterday and talk about the things that didn’t work out. He also told me that he’d unblock me and work out on being friends. I’m planning on starting NC but we have the same circle of friends where we see each other often and we work together, what do you suggest that I would do? How can I make him miss me and realize all the good things that has happened to us.
The best thing I can recommend you do to do both of these things is to read 10 Steps to Gain Husbandly Leadership. It’s a “pay what you want” guide to stepping up and becoming the man your wife wants.
I think you honestly need to sit down and figure out what it is you want. It looks like the crossroads here is between him, or starting a family, so it’s important to know which comes first to you, and stick to it. You wouldn’t want to regret down the road on a decision you felt wasn’t made based on thorough logic but whim of the moment and it’s too late to go back in time to change anything.
Talk about absolutely everything beforehand. It’s a bad idea to get back with an ex if there’s any unfinished business hanging over your heads. If there was a particular reason why your relationship failed previously then it’s a good idea to establish some mutually agreed ground rules about certain behaviours beforehand.
I was clingy, had low self esteem, needy and jealous. The break up was shocking, he took a week and a half to tell me if he wanted space or if he wanted a break up. He was chatting with an 18 year old. He was telling me he doesn’t love me anymore and when he hug me he said he wish he could feel by there is nothing, he withdrew from me emotionally 2 months before we broke up. When I was packing his stuff I found something he wrote that he didn’t find me attractive. After the break up I was trying to convince him and did testing terrorism until he said to text him only when it’s business related. So did one week no contact and called to talk to him about the outstanding bill I was still upset and sent a text to apologize. He called next day and he was upset and sent a text apologizing. I did 2 weeks no contact and called yesterday since he been telling ppl that I wasn’t paying him attention and also thinks I do by love him. So I called and ask if we can meet weekend to talk and he said yes. He still have stuff at my place and he coming to pick some up. Today I went to his work to get my keys from him because he still had my keys. He couldn’t look at me but did when he hand me my keys, I was acting happy. He said so whenever I needn’t get something from the house inbred to contact you and I replied yes I am paying the rent and so I went and havnt made contact however he said he will come weekend. My ex came over for some of his stuff was amazed how the house looked, I did some rearranging. He said twice that the house looks nice and that I looked happy and then stated that he was probably the one holding me back. He said this about 2 times, the second time he said it I ask why he is saying something like that and he said he said he know perhaps he just feels guilty and so I told him that he wasn’t holding me back and then he notice I had a mini burn on my hand and ask me what happened I told him I got burnt from the stove. And so ..
By the time I finally said enough is enough, my so-called boyfriend was shocked. But I thought it was quite obvious. How had he not seen all the new problems that had sprung up since our backslide started? It boggled my mind.
Once you have accepted the breakup and have gone through grief after a breakup, you will need to figure out whether she is worth it. Here is one article that will help you do that. And read below for some actionable tips about this.
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These are the ones who walk around just ahead of us, just out of reach, the ones we think we spot on the train and our heart lurches before we realize that’s it not them. It’s a dog. It’s not them. It’s just a dog in a raincoat. And them we go home alone.
You can’t get back the relationship you once had in the past, but it is possible to reconnect and gradually form a new relationship. This may be pure friendship to start with, but with time and patience it can grow into something much deeper.
Women are submissive by nature and they want their man to be the polar opposite (dominant). Leaving decisions (could be about anything) to her, is submissive behavior by you, and it places her in the dominant role – a role that the female kind doesn’t take naturally to.
I’m sure that you’ve heard the saying the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence quite a few times before. It is very very relevant to love and relationships as well. After being with someone for a long time it is easy to be tempted by something new or to get bored! Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you can easily find someone better!
“I can see now,” Peter explained to her, “that in my depression about work I became totally self-centered. I withdrew from you, so no wonder you felt angry and distanced from me. As both of us withdrew from each other we lost our sexual connection. I felt desparate for attention. Then I took the ultimate wrong turn by seeking sexual attention from an infidelity. Big mistake! I’m so glad that now I’m looking for a job that will be a better fit for me. I think I’ve found one, and I’m thrilled at the prospect.”
So 4 months pass with her being a bit distant (i had just thought it was due to her sudden loss) and she just comes out with it … she needs a brake … but in her words not a full split (i was left very confused).
I’m a bit at a crossroads here… so about 5 months ago now me and my Ex broke up, she said she saw me as a friend, saw me as family, didn’t see me in that way and so on. At the time I lost it and was pretty devastated. I followed your plan and it worked. During no contact she was seeing someone but that didn’t last, I then saw her out with her friends (who really like me) she was going mental at me, I didn’t react, I think she also found out I was dating someone and I don’t think she liked that. I then left it for awhile and it worked we got back together, but we were taking it slowly, mainly because she’s so busy with work, uni etc.
My name is Kevin, and I am here to help you through this painful breakup and hopefully get your ex back. I say hopefully because I can’t guarantee you that you will get your ex back. I can, however, guarantee that if you follow this plan, your chances of getting your ex back will increase significantly.
The Bible says that a wife is the weaker vessel (1 Pet 3:7), not meaning that she has less physical strength or stamina than her husband, but that she has a more emotional nature and is more inclined to view life and make decisions based on her feelings than is her husband (1 Tim 2:14). Because of this, and because women have a greater natural need for their husbands (Gen 3:16), women are also more likely to look to the marriage relationship for value and significance. When men marry, most are clueless to these differences and consequently, to the power they have to inflict emotional pain on their wives. Simply stated, it is this basic difference between men and woman that causes the misunderstandings at the root of so much marital stress.