You are so amazing and spot on and absolutely gorgeous! Excellent article!! Want to brief you with my situation. Dated a guy 5 yrs ago went on 6 dates and we connected well but I never had sex with him. He made all the effort but he’s a business guy and I was a student And he ended things since I was demNding for his time. We got back a year after and same situation. Now I’m a working surgeon grown woman. After 5 years he sends me a text on this year Valentine’s. I just got out of a relationship then. We decided to meet and it was my bday that week. He bought me a Chanel bag and took me more shopping. Had dinner at my favourite French place. Stayed in a suite. We had sex for the first time ever. Was nice and intimate. Since then he texts me everyday 3 times a day and made plans to meet me again in 2 weeks. I live 4 hrs away so he came to see me last weekend. I arranged a lovely suite on the beach and we went out for lunch played golf. He texted me saying he appreciated the effort I made and had a good time. After that he’s been distant. Not as much flirting. Btw he has a 2 yr old son he’s busy with. Single dad and has a nanny over the week. Weekends he’s full time dad. Anyways i texted him yesterday we flirted a bit. Made little small talk and he was busy traveling. Asked him he’s been bit mellow and is everything ok with work? He said all good thanks. He did say he hAs a lot of work to be done before his trip next week…No more good morning msgs or night msgs. He’s making a trip to Dubai next week with his son so surely won’t hear from him for a week. But the day before he was leaving I sent a text saying hey just wanted to know as we are adults and be honest with each other. If I’m going to invest on time and according to your busy schedule and being a single dad and if I’m going to wait for you to come back from the trip, do you want to be exclusive and date or date casually as sex buddies? So he answered saying Hey, firstly i’m sorry if my yummy mummy comments upset you – they were never intended that way.
I was very young to fall in love and most of the people might even find it funny may he not but yeah I fell in love with him when I was 16 and now I’m 21. The day I meet him I liked him and i found myself happy and kinda silly and I was interested in him in just two weeks that we recently met and I wish I knew that it was love and and I wish I could stop myself (That we can’t) didn’t even know that .. that’s love and still now when I’m 21 i still find myself in that position called love .. I have been through that relationship but I even block him and for months we didn’t talk but he come back saying he missed and I couldn’t stop myself I let him and still I regret why I let him .. and now i seriously can’t block him .. it’s love at first sight he says he likes me but he doesn’t I even dream about him texting me but when I wake up there is no text and I still miss him badly I tried to move on I couldn’t .. i hate this situation
I went through a period where I cried myself to sleep every night. I thought I couldn’t deal with this on my own, I felt really lonely. My friends were supportive but they didn’t really understand what I was going through. I always tried to get his attention by telling my friends to talk to him for me. I would wait day and night just to get any contact from him. I missed him so much to the point where I would call him but my caller ID would be hidden just so I could hear his voice again.
Try and get your mind off of him. Hang out with friends, bond with family, or even do something for yourself! Get a haircut, change your hair color even. Do something that’s going to make you feel better and relax you. I like to paint and play the piano when I need comfort.
Let’s just start with,I was dating a ex and we moved together, I always wanted to move smewere else so I did,we worked together n all.but it got rocky n ugly.his bbymama was a mess starter n so we broke up very.i hurted n was going thru a break up.I came across this gentlemen.. He was full of life,outgoing,working hard,n has a son.we got to talking gettn to know each others,I let him know I had not long got out a relationship n to take it slow,not fast.he understand he said so we just remained friends..he got me a valentines day gift,n I got him one.u know just smethng to smile about than bn sad from a breakup.alil of 2 weeks I met him in person n it was very nice.we talked in the car.he said I was everything he imagined,but he could see my smile was hidden my pain n hurt n in my eyes.I teared up.so on we texted,he sent prayer photos n texted every morning when he went to work n off checking on me n talking to me.I met his family which was nice n his mom.I think I made a mistake there.but it too my mind off the pain n hurt.soon I found myself spending time with him,he wiped my tears n all held me so much..I could do nun but thank him for all that.he took my mind off his depressing a break it was with my ex to someone who cares.but like I told him I didn’t wanna rush..on a few months I felt like I needed to get myself a Lil distance to see how far he would go for me,cause I bn thru relationships that bn a lie n I’m a caring n effort woman.always smiling n liftn people up.so I bk off some form him.it got Lil ugly.his jib laid him off to workn a day out week cause of no wood from sawmill.he just was drinking away more,but he kept reaching out to me begging me.wishing we could start over fresh n everything. I didn’t leave him,I just stepped away for a moment.I know I hurt him tho,he said I did cause he was ready to love me n so focus on making me happy n I wasn’t ready. I felt so bad.but later we started back talking but wasn’t the same as first,no txts in morning r nun that.he was down as well frm no money cause he wasn’t working the hrs much,n child support was taking him n his bbymama was giving him hell.she was so jealous of him having a girlfriend she stopped him from seeing his son so it too on him too.she did childish things on fb tryn get me to accept a request but I never did.he has her blocked he can’t stand her since she hit him with a frying pan on top his head n cut his skull open.that was way before my Time.so thru on I was there for him helpn him while he wasn’t working n I can say I admire the man he is cause he love to work for his own,not ask for no help, but I did.he came to my house plenty times activited with my 2 sons as well they got to know him some.I met his son as well which is 1 yes old.after SME weeks he text me told me he didn’t want b with me,which was a lie,but I didn’t say anything out the way I told him I accept his wishes n we stopped txtn n convo.its bn it was 2 in half months now, our birthdays was in September I did wish him happy bday,I was under surgery in sept had vowel blockage n cancer.I go under chemo some now but I done came along way.but All thru those months its bn a blessing.so on in weeks off sept Oct n some of Nov lol he bn asking his family mostly his cousin have she heard from me,n have I said anything bout him.lol he talks to her all the time cause him n his brother n her talk about everything. She told me he asks n she told him it has nothing do with him if she did talk to me.she stalls him good cause his family likes me n they hate we split up cause his pride n ways he had.but she said she told him text r call me.his rely u know that grl don’t want to talk to me..lol she says u never know u had a good woman n she say she walked off,n he looks askn fareal she ain’t mention me lol this was a few weeks ago at a gathering for his brother birthday party.also a convo between him n guys at her house she told me he was talking abt me,they were outside having a discussion on women n she was doing her curtains n they were sitting under her car port but her walls thin,u can here everything said she wasn’t bn noisy but she heard him talkn of me.n later one the guys came in her house n said ur cousin was really in love with me,n he told him just to own up to his mistakes cause we all do.that was last month.we haven’t bn talkn r communicating at all.but just Friday night I got a inbox text from his brother inbox.it was hilarious, I thought it was his brother,cause it was from his page inbox n asked was I’m in his town,n he seen me over his aunty house.I text said i do brothers n he should b ashamed cause he got a woman he with.and I’m done in boxing,so he tct back said holla at you later u getting ghost.few mins later he text my phone from his number asking me were I’m at.I new it was him on his brother phone cause he blocks me from his page.he used the inbox as excuse to see will I reply.so finally he text me after few months.even text me pass Saturday to.say he working on his self n don’t want to hurt anybody.I told him I respect it like I did before. I just don’t know if he really into me like that but then I thank he is just scared he b hurt again r something.he didn’t want his family in our bidnes say they noisey n he didn’t want me really around some of them,must b a conflict with SME if them.can u give SME advice? I’m not rushing nothing I’m just tryn get myself healthy n recovery but I do miss him but he don’t need know that from txtn cause he reached out to me lol I never text him first n it was 2 months we stopped all communication. I think it’s worth saving.plze give me feed bk
Having said that, though, both partners can certainly contribute to infidelity. It’s like, if you’re happy with your job, and a headhunter calls, you don’t even talk to them…but if you’re unhappy, the stage is set for talking and walking.
It would depend on your knowledge regarding what she seeks for in life. If the financial security it something more important to her, then you might want to consider walking away as it will be hard to compete with her boss on this aspect. If you know that she may be going through a tough time, and merely needs momentary financial support desperately that you cannot provide, then you could consider a second shot if given the chance. However, do bear in mind that she walked away from you once already, and if you get back with her, she may do the same again if ever she needs something you cannot provide.
GO OUT. I don’t care if it takes all of the strength that you have to get out of that onesie of yours, put the Netflix and the Nutella and the phone away, take a f-ing baby wipe shower if you’re too depressed to shower (yes, I’ve been there) and drag your baby-wiped butt out into the fresh air, get out and BREATHE.
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I have foung your website very useful. I am approaching the end of NC that is at the same time as Xmas and my ex’a b-day and also the start of a 2-3 week holiday he is spending with his family he barely sees the whole year.
So my ex boyfriend and I were together for a year and 4 months. Honestly he was obsessed and so was I but i became too comfortable. He was my world and I never thought he would leave me. He would always chase after me and showering me with love and it made me the happiest person alive. One day he got tired of fighting with me and he dumped. told me he didnt want me anymore. I looked like a fool, i begged i cried i ran after him but he just walked away with his head up. it was so painfully. he blocked me on everything so i dont have contact but if i text him he will usually unblock to read my messages. it hurts so bad and as messed up as it is i still want him. I want him back so badly it kills.
I’ve been on both ends of this. The stringer and the stringee. Your ex may send you mixed signals or keep being undecided about what he wants. And you and your heart get bounced around like a ping-pong ball. Truth: Your ex may very well be confused, but he’s also getting his ego rubbed by you sticking around pining for him while he figures out if he wants to be with you or not. If the person stringing you along isn’t at least 99.9% sure he wants to be with you, leave his ass. He may be a master at giving you one glimmer of hope that sooner or later he’ll want to be with you, but in the meantime it’s your heart that is being abused, neglected and disrespected. Total dealbreaker.
By understanding the situation, yourself and your ex, you’re already in a much better position to rebuild your relationship than most people would be. But that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. Plenty of couples jump back into a relationship, only to have the same fights and another breakup as a result.
You need to make him feel terrible for breaking up with you. He should feel like a dumbass for letting you go. That’s what you need to make him feel like if you want to get him back. You won’t get him back by spying and stalking him (stop checking his Facebook every 2 minutes), but by making him remember all the great times you had together, and making him imagine how nicer life could be if you were still together.
I have a very good feeling that if we can get to a point where we can talk openly and he isn’t feeling pressured to get back together, we will have an excellent chance to make it work. I want to work to make big changes to make our sex life better and I know if I can show this to him, he will definitely want to reconsider. He is also young like me and very impulsive. We had a great relationship other than this issue.
And after the break up my ex husband indicated he wanted me back (we have two kids) but I refused because I want someone better. Also, interestingly right after the break-up my former neighbour asked me out for a drink through facebook. But I did not want to play with others since I am into my ex boyfriend. So I refused especially because I know that my neighbour would be serious about the relationship. He was trying with me previously, confessed his feelings but he is too simple for me: I mean he is not interested in deeper things and I am. So I refused him previously as well. And I am chatting with a guy who is quite interested in me. So as you can see I dont have to feel that I would not have any other chance. I am on dating sites. I am friendly and quite ok for my age. Also, i have 4 degrees. So I am not absolutely stupid. Men are attracted to me. And I am 38. I am after a 20 year long marriage so obviously I know my feelings for this guy wont last forever. I am not that naive. The main point is that: I would like one more chance with this guy because maybe we would get on very well if I try seriously. And since I realized that I need not only sex but someone who loves me and who I can love, at the end of the day I have to change my approach/behaviour anyway. So why not now and why not with this guy. It is not that easy to find someone who is interested in deep-speaking and still sober enough and who behaves in a loving way towards me. Also we were perfectly in synch in sex. So what else would I want? Of course maybe it wont work. I am realistic. I know this guy only for 3 months and we had fights. I am nornmally not an agressive type but I was the one who started the fight, he remained polite while I was swearing. This shows that I tried to protect myself from emotions. He realized that it is my fear but i did not want to realize. And you know I want this only if it works well. Basically I dont want this guy at any cost but I wanna see where it goes if I really try without fears. Maybe he is the right person for me.
Girls need that element of challenge in their guy…she needs to feel that she won you, but not 100% yet, and to keep her on her toes/from getting bored, you should never let it quite reach 100% in her mind.
The reason may be any, but the point is that like for any of the individuals to come closer to each other there is a reason, similarly there is also a reason for the break up. Here you don’t need to ask two questions in those desperate times from your own self and those are:
It also helps to have a role model or mentor, someone who you admire as a person. This could be someone who’s also gone through a breakup and can give you some guidance as you’re dealing with your feelings. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
If you are not interested in dating others or leading them on, meet up with groups for movie night or spend time with a friend of the opposite sex. Just being around others who are single might be enough to make your ex a bit jealous.
A first out-of-bounds behavior is one thing. If the mistake is corrected and not repeated ever again that is a positive development and can result in continuation of a better-than-ever marriage. Continued deal-breaker behaviors however, I agree, are invitations to divorce.
My ex and I broke up four months ago after a two year relationship. I found out I was suffering from bipolar disorder and I guess lack of maturity for being four years younger than him and I could tell I was really starting to hurt him. We both agreed that we should break up so I could get better and so could he. I’ve talked to him maybe once a week ever since the breakup to check in on him, but he always says he resents me, though he still has some good memories about me and wants me to stop bothering him so he won’t lose those. I just found out yesterday that he has been dating someone for about six weeks and my heart fell to my stomach. I can’t help but wonder if he loves her or thinks she is better than me. I also wonder if, since I have to move to the same city that he lives in in a year, he would see me more grown up, stable, and successful and want me back. He says his girlfriend is dealing with her ex as well, so I wonder if their relationship would even last too long, both of them coming out of long term relationships.
Yes, I know you’re miserable now because you’re going through a breakup, but in general is your life how you want it to be? Do you have good friends, hobbies, passions, a sense of purpose and meaning? Do you realize that you are valuable and significant and worthy of having an amazing relationship? Really think about that last one. The answer might hurt, it may even make you cry, but you need to feel it, you need to get in touch with your true self and you need to nurture that part of you.
I’ve had one woman for 23 years, two kids, I cannot introduce another woman to complicated things for the new woman, for my ex wife, for my children who cannot conceive of me moving on. Financially I gave away a substantial amount to my ex because I felt she needed support as a woman, I still do give to her charitably even though she wanted out of the relationship. I don’t have room for another person. I still love my ex even though she treats me like shit and her ex boss has just left his wife within two months… Read more »
You let your ex walk all over you. You become a doormat. You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. But your instincts tell you, it’s OK. Because having your ex in your life is the only thing that matters.