There’s a reason he’s your ex-boyfriend, and your job is to erase that reason out of his memory – forever. He’s out there, dating other women with more or less success. Is he still thinking about you, does he still love you; does he also want to get back together?
In regards to #3 above, sleeping with my ex-booty call only reminded me I wasn’t over my ex-booty call (I’ve told you before how I managed to care about him more than I should have over the year and a half we were together).
So here’s my situation. I’ve had a relationship for the past 3.5 years. For a long time prior to those years she had a huge crush on me, but i never really did anything with it. Even still we got together. During the relationship i never really felt i was truly in love with her, at least i thought so. But i also need to mention that i was smoking weed on a daily basis. (She hated that) Which resulted in me not to be able to express my feelings in the right way, or even to be having’ feelings. During this time i was unemployed and living in her house pretty much rent-free, and even still she was the sweetest girl in the world for me. (make’s me sick to my stomach even thinking about that now) I was a really selfish guy over the years, never surprised her or anything like that and have been taking’ her for granted During the entire relationship. Never really considered her feelings. (Again, sick to my stomach) So due to text messages she started building a emotionally relationship with some guy she met a bar way back before our relationship. Can’t really blame her for that giving the fact i was emotionally unavailable due to smoking weed. It always stayed with text messaging she claims and i believe her. This lasted from May to August. I forgave her. Last September we’ve been on holiday together, for here it was a sort of last attempt to save our relationship. Which i didn’t knew at the time. So i continued in my own selfish ways, and continued smoking weed. She was slipping right from under my nose and i didn’t even noticed. After the holiday we’ve stayed together until November 10th which is when she dumped me. Again, cant blame her, thinking back i am surprised she even last this long with me. Since then i have stopped smoking weed, cant even stand the smell of it, got a job, and starting to express my emotions again. Needless to say that i want her back, in fact i feel like im in love with her. She says its to late, that she really would want it but that her feelings for me has changed. However, she does keep contacting me, even send some nudes and stuff like that but still don’t want te be in a relationship anymore. Also does she really badly wants to stay friends and gets really upset if i suggest to brake contact, just because i cant handle this form of contact we are having right now, simply because i want her back so badly. Do think NC will do the trick? I’ve been trying it 2 times already but never got past 2/3 days as she keeps calling/texting me and i feel bad for her and cave. And its hard for me as well of course. Sorry for my English, im from Europe.
Avoid any behavior that can be construed as harassment, stalking, or otherwise illegal or unethical. In many places in the world, you can be put on a restraining order or even in prison if your behavior crosses the line from romantic pursuit to stalking.
In fact, that voice is precisely why you need to give your ex a bit of breathing room after a breakup. You have to get your head on straight first if you want to get your man back.You need to kick the desperation and your ex needs to have some time and space to start missing you.
Now that you have been dating the guy, you probably know the things that turn him on and feed to his secret desires. It is time to put these things into action. This lesson was best illustrated by the Duchess of Buckingham herself. During the break up from Prince Charles, she was spotted in fancy outfits, hanging out with friends and seemingly having the time of her life. Not long after, the prince came running back to her. You have to possess what he wants for him to get the desire to have you.
I did the nc rule more then one month, just because I wasn’t ready after only 30 days so i went on 50 days, after that i had send him a text messege, he responded an hour after says that he was very happy to hear from me, telling me about himself and what he’s been up to , asking me the same and at the end of his text telling me that he is still ok with the decision he took that he doesn’t want us back together.
Getting the partner to want to work at the marriage is generally one of the least effective ways to initial marriage upgrades. I like though your idea about understanding the other person better, especially if your partner is someone who doesn’t open up and talk. The more you understand your partner’s patterns and take those as given, the more you become ready for real change.
Your situation sounds fairly close to mine, except my ex is not dating anyone but I know he is talking to other girls. We broke up about 3 weeks ago. I would really love to know where you & your ex stand now & if you both are in a good place (which I hope you are). If so, would you mind telling me the steps you took?
Similar situation, Charlotte. I’ve been going through some rough anxiety and depression and have been moody a lot and he decided it is not right for him. We had planned a life together. We were so sure we were meant for each other. I am trying so hard to get back to myself with a change of medication. It’s difficult because we do work together. I’m devastated and lost.
the next day she uploads a picture we took of her and said thanx bae for picking out my dress. I asked her who she was calling bae, and she said a friend of hers , he calls her bae but they are just friends.
This also applies to your ex’s phone number. If you find yourself tempted to text or call him, but you know that’s not something that you should be doing, then deleting his contact details from your phone is an easy solution. This doesn’t work if you’ve got his number memorized, obviously, but it definitely does help if you lack self-control or you’re the type to send drunk texts when you’re emotional. You can write down your ex’s number and give it to a friend for safekeeping until you’re fully over him.
Men want to be with a woman who is happy with herself, up-beat and fun to be with. Although it is highly unlikely that you will feel like being the life of the party while you’re going through a break-up, not going to the other extreme by crying and acting desperate will definitely count in your favour when trying to get him back.
That said, you need to reflect on your actual motives and reasons for wanting him back. Your reason should not just be because you are lonely or sad or because you are single. Also, missing him does not necessarily mean that you should immediately take the necessary action to get him back.