Well that last section was long wasn’t it? I promise you that this one will be shorter. So, all of the information from this point on will be aimed at giving you a strategy to getting over your ex while still remaining friends with him. I really included this section because I know there are a lot of moms out there that can’t just cut their ex out of their lives forever (because of their children.) In addition to that there will always be women who want to remain friends with their ex because it is the right thing to do.
If you’re a woman trying to get your ex back, you’ve likely taken the “desperate times call for desperate measures” approach, causing you to do all kinds of unfortunate things, including “the walk of shame” and the dreaded “drunk dial.” These unflattering behaviors will hardly win his affection back after a breakup. Your antics make you look like a doormat, and will ultimately push him away.
If you are successful in your move to take him back, then make sure that both of you have the commitment to make your relationship work this time around. Make sure that it is not manipulative nor abusive.
My first time ever asking for advice but here goes, I was with my ex bf for 2 1/2 years plus we did live together. We were a bit of opposites attract but I really loved him and he treated me well. We did once breakup while only dating for 3 months when the puppy love phase settled down and we really started to get to know each other. Somehow we gave it another shot because he’s like my best friend and when we had good time we really had good times, plus him and I were less selfish as well. But then hitting our 2 years we hit a bump in the relationship. He wanted to change his career from an office job to become a firefighter, which I totally supported him on this. He was working 2 jobs his 9 to 5 and then bouncing at a nightclub. It was rather tough cuz we barely spent time together, then he got another 2 job instead of bouncing which wasn’t bad cuz we did spent time together. He did have an issue with me about trying to better my career choice and that I should go to school again, I do want to be in the beauty industry and he supports it, but cosmetology school is very expensive at where I live. Times I’ve had arguments because he hated that I kept doubting myself, plus he did not get along with my father at all. My fathers a tough man to deal with but it had a bit of strain on our relationship. Now he’s been traveling allot for taking written and physical exams for the fire depart. He’s going to school to get his EMT certification and he let go of his 2 job. Problems arose when I lost my job and I was waitressing at the time, so we then had financial issues. I did get a job but the hours were not that great so with my part time gig and his office job income, we didn’t do much of dating like we did before we were on a tight budget, and arguments always arose from this, but we somehow try to make it work. Then what was worse my sister knew I was having problems with my bf so she’s close friends with one of my past ex bf , well he wanted to get me back. I did have love for him and I got attention from him that my bf wasn’t giving me, so I’d press my bf with arguments about when I’d be engaged, finances, my current situation with my job, if I wanted to go to school or not.. 3 months of arguing 1 to 2 days of the week was daring plus I did not want to cheat on him with my other ex bf. we kept trying to make it work but he came to the conclusion that it was best to part ways, he felt that as a bf he wasn’t doing his job to give me that attention and that at the moment I’m 2 priority in his life, I just simply agreed like ok fine no problem, things happen for a reason. We ended amicable, but because I was gonna be with another man. Worst mistake I’ve done in my life to go from one relationship to another! I still loved my bf and the new guy I was getting nothing but irritated so I left him for good. I called my ex trying to get back with him, he said look I love you but we are in diffrent paths of our lives right now, and my priority is to get my career straight, I won’t have time for you or another woman for that matter, it’s better this way. I felt soo down and I’m just really down about this situation. Only time he last spoke to me was to say happy thanksgiving after that I haven’t heard from him since. 3 days then I sent a pic of our dog and he said thank you and that’s all. I want him back I want to make it work but I don’t know if I should fully do the no contact for maybe 3 or 4 months and then get in touch? How do I try to rekindle our relationship back?
Take it slow. Don’t assume you should pick up where you left off in your previous relationship, for example, sleeping together and saying “I love you,” which should not come into play until you’ve rebuilt your trust.
Since you work together, it would be good to show him how well you’re doing and how happy you are whenever he sees you. This is similar to displaying it on social media during the no contact period of the changes you’ve made to yourself except in real life.
You’re on a rebound, even though your heart isn’t in it. Dating and experiencing transitional “relationships” are vital to your healing. But don’t get too hot and heavy, because you’re not ready for anything serious. Make sure the guys you’re involved with are on the same page regarding speed. Go out and have fun with these gentlemen.
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Answer: It’s obviously going to be a bit trickier, but possible nonetheless. First do no harm. Meaning, don’t do something stupid that you will regret. Something like acting out in rage or having an emotional breakdown thinking all hope is lost. It’s not.
I loved her, it was after her coming back for the 2nd time which triggered me to do all the critical thinking, and rebuild what im supposed to be doing. 6 months on, that little conversation, in addition to me still playing games(cut down alot, also been saving up,no infidelity) made her left me for the 3rd time.
I googled this and found zero! My ex-husband continues to reach out to befriend by ex-boyfriends. I know it has no impact on my life, but me and my children find it to be very odd, especially because when I was dating my boyfriend(s), he talked bad about them. ?? Someone please explain…
Pick ONE friend that you trust or better yet, stop yapping to your friends. Comment on here. You never know which “friend” will go tell the wrong “friend” of his that you’re struggling. No dramatic, long, drawn out depression and good-byes. Let him wonder what in the hell you are avoiding him for.
I wish that I could elaborate further and answer your questions, but I have too much to say to type it all out not enough hands to type or hours in the day. I would also need more details. This is why I cannot give advice in the comments section.
I’m just going to be straight with you: Just leave him be. Take a lot of time for yourself to better yourself and don’t have any contact with him. Start a new hobby, make yourself feel good by being sociable, getting plenty of exercise and just loving life as a single Pringle! I appreciate what you’re saying and how hurt you must be feeling but try to channel that into making your life without him better. I totally empathise with you as you must be hurting so much but this is ok. You’re human and deserve to be happy. Use this experience to reflect on what went wrong in the relationship and afterwards. Try your very hardest to not over Annalise things like him not replying to you or him being online and not talking to you because it will make your head spin and just wind you up even more.
Sometime it happens when cutting off all connection with him is just not possible for example if you both work together or you take same classes or on the vacation trip with your mutual friends. In this situation don’t get angry and never try to avoid him. If you get angry then your ex boyfriend may feel you can’t able to remove him from your heart and you wanted to get him back. On other hand, if you completely avoid him then he may feel you are immature and can’t able to live without him.