Let yourself grieve. Trying to block legitimate feelings or make short cuts around the grieving process will only prolong your heartache in the long run. By simply burying your emotions, they’re bound to reemerge some day, only intensified. Although it can be difficult, focus on feeling every feeling and experiencing every heart pang because they’ll make you a stronger person in the long run.
If you two just broke up recently, and he was the one who ended it, best thing to do is to give him some “breathing room”. Just stay calm and give him some time. You don’t want to become his ‘crazy ex girlfriend’.
MY NAME IS FIDELIA AND AM FROM KUWAIT I WAS FORMALLY THE ASSISTANT DIRECTOR IN KUWAIT BREVEGES COMPANY(KBC), ME AND MY HUSBAND LEAVED TOGETHER HAPPILY ALTHOUGH HE WASNT AS RICH AS I WAS I LOVED HIM HE ALSO WORKED IN A CONSTRUCTION COMPANY HERE IN KUWAIT AS AN ENGINEER ALONG THE LINE SOMETHING HAPPEN THAT PUSHED ME INTO A FROLIC AND NUNCHANLANT ATTITUDE IT ALL STARTED IN 2010 WHEN I WAS STILL WORKING IN KUWAIT BREVEGES COMPANY(KBC),AN INDIAN MAN WAS ALSO ENPLOYED THERE HE ALSO SHOWED INTEREST IN ME WHICH I TURNED DOWN BECAUSE I WAS ALREADY MARRIED ALTHOUGH WE DIDNT HAVE KIDS BUT HE MADE ME UNDERSTAND THAT IF I REFUSE THAT HE WILL MAKE ME USELESS AND WORTHLESS IN THE COMPANY I TOLD HIM THAT IT WAS VERY IMPOSSIBLE SO I TOLD OUR MANAGER WHO SURMOND HIM BUT HE DENIED AND LATER I WENT TO ARREST HIM NOT KNOWING IT WAS THE GENESIS OF MY PROBLEM SO THE MATTER WAS BEEN CHARGED TO COURTH BUT HE WON, AND AFTER THEN I BEGAN TO HAVE NIGTHMARES OF MEN CHASING ME OR HAVING SEX WITH ME IN THE DREAM AFTER A YEAR IN 2011 HE WAS MADE THE MANAGER OF THE COMPANY, I NEVER ENVIED HIM BECAUSE I ALWAYS KNEW HE HAD SOME EVIL POWERS HE WAS USING IN THE COMPANY BEFORE I KNEW IT MY BANK ACCOUNT DRIED UP AND THERE WAS NO MONEY IN IT BEFORE I KNEW IT MY OWN HUSBAND WAS FIRED IN HIS COMPANY EVERY THING AROUND ME WAS UPSIDE DOWN I QUICKLY REMEMBERED WHAT MR SHERIFF (INDIAN MAN) TOLD ME, SO I WENT TO HIS OFFICE BEGGING ON MY KNEELS THAT HE SHOULD PLEASE LEAVE ME AND MY FAMILY ALONE BUT HE SAID UNLESS HE HAVE HE WAY WITH ME THAT ME AND MY FAMILY WILL NEVER BE FREE AND HE THRETHENED TO KILL MY HUSBAND WITH STROKE I WENT HOME AND I WAS LOOKING AT MY HUSBAND IN THE DINNING AND I WAS CRYING HE NEVER KNEW WHY I WAS CRYING THE NEXT DAY I WENT TO THE OFFICE AND I LET HIM HAVE WHAT HE ALWAYS WANTED, HE SLEPT WITH ME LIKE A DOG SHOULD I EVEN SAY LIKE A PRISONER WHO HAVE BEEN MISSING A WOMAN FOR YEARS AFTER SIX(6) MONTH HE RESIGNED AND INFORMATION REACHED THE COMPANY THAT HE FLEED OUT OF THE COUNTRY AS FAST AS HE RESIGNED I ALWAYS GO TO THE HOSPITAL EVERY MONTH FOR CHECKUP TO MY GREATEST SURPRISE I WAS TESTED POSITIVE OF A DEADLY DISEASE (HIVAIDS) I RAGE INTO ANGER IT SEEMS I SHOULD COMMIT MURDER I TRIED REACHING MR SHERIFF (THE IDIAN MAN) I FOUND OUT THAT HE WAS DEAD A MONTH LATER MY HUSBAND WAS DIAGNOSED WITH STROKE AND ALSO WITH THE DISEASE HIVAIDS THAT WAS HOW WE MANAGE WITH THESE SICKNESS I CRIED EVERY DAY AND NIGHT SO ONE DAY I TOOK IT TO MY SELF TO FIND THE SOLUTION TO MY PROBLEM SO I WAS GOING THROUGH A POST LIKE YOU DOING NOW AND I ALSO FIND A STORY OF HOW AN AFRICAN MAN HELPED A MAN WITH HIVAIDS SO I ALSO TOOK THE SAME STEPSAND I THANK GOD THAT MR (EGBA) CAME TO MY AID HE ONLY ASKED ME TO BUY SOME THINGS WHICH HE USED FOR WORKING AND BEFORE TWO (2) WEEKS MY HUSBAND WAS FREE AND HE ASKED ME TO GO FOR CHECK UP I WAS ALSO FREE I ALSO WENT TO AFRICA TO VISIT HIM AND HE HAVE BEEN HELPING ME I THANK GOD THAT WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME
Take things slow, and don’t pressure her to get back together if she isn’t ready. Work on your issues and prove to her that you can be the man she wants you to be and things would probably work itself out from there.
Well, I will be the first to admit that it’s not going to be as easy in your case because your ex boyfriend probably thinks he knows everything about you and part of the power of this connection method that I am talking about is when your ex learns something new about you.
I would definitely not reach out to anyone associated with him, even family. If they care about you, they will understand and respect you for it <3 There's nothing wrong with taking this time to take care for yourself, heal and deal. Read this if your haven't already: https://postmalesyndrome.com/10-ways-to-overcome-guilt-for-setting-boundaries/ Staying at home, watching TV and checking out your ex boyfriend’s Facebook profile won’t help. Distract yourself. Get out of the house as often as you can. Don’t hang out in places that remind you of him. In this section we are going to be focusing more on what YOU need to do during the year long no contact to properly get over your ex boyfriend. But first, I thought it might be interesting to show you some of the behaviors to avoid. I’m not sure if you can help me or not. So me and my ex were friends for nearly 2 years before we got together and after a discussion we decided that it would be a good idea to try dating each other (both of us had been wanting to date the other for at least 8months but hadn’t told eachother due to the friendship). Everything was going great and we made a promise that if things didn’t go to plan we’d stay friends because our friendship was important to both of us. We made it to just over 2 months and then broke up. It was a pretty easy break up, nothing too traumatic but the way he acted could perhaps been seen as a bit out of hand by some people. Though out the relationship everything was great, he treated well and with respect and he wasn’t pushy for sex. I also was respectful to him and treated him really well throughout. Everyone including myself always thought that we would last forever but I guess good things come to an end at some point. My boyfriend is 18 and I’m 16 so I guess that makes things more difficult. Anyway, we were great with eachother even up to the day of the breakup and then I found out that he had messaged his mate a week before saying he was “getting bored” of being in a realtionship with me and his mate told him to keep going on seeing how things went. Having found this out pretty late at night, I asked him as soon as I could the next morning. When I did, he agreed with what I had found out and we broke up. He told me that I had done nothing wrong and that he wanted to remain best friends as we previously were. He explained that due to me being his first girlfriend, he didn’t know what to expect in a relationship and due to this, he didn’t wanna be in a realtionship with anyone. He messaged me the next morning saying that he was sorry and felt like he had let me down. I didn’t reply. I decided to start no contact and have been doing so for the last 15 days. Before we broke up, it was planned that we would come to my school prom with me but now due to the break up and no contact this is no longer a plan that we have. I have been recently debating about whether or no I should ask him to come because even though we have broken up, I still love and feel bad because he shouldn’t have to miss out because of the breakup as he didn’t have a prom of his own and was really Looking forward to going to mine. He also organised a suit and we talked of how we were matching te dress and tie etc. I know that even if I keep up the 30 or 60 day no contact, I am still going to feel the exact same way about him as I always have and so I’m thinking of ending the no contact and asking him to prom with me, even if it just be as friends. I need to decide pretty quickly as I only have 2 days left to purchase the ticket but I’m scared that he will say no and I’ll end up hurt and I don’t know if it’s a bad idea to end no contact. I thinking that perhaps if I do ask him to prom and he says yes. I continue the no contact until the date of the prom? Do you think I should end no contact and ask him to prom with me? A week after he had sex with one of those girls. Now he has one girl who reguarly visits, works with and has sex with. She is the complete opposite of me in looks and personality. He keeps this a secret from me and I heard it from his roommate who is a close friend of mine. I don’t know if he really likes her or if she is a rebound. He doesn’t know I know this because I do no contact. Evolution and the desire to have the strongest possible offspring, dictate that your girl gets attracted to guys she sees as superior to herself. All women have this mechanism wired into their DNA in order to keep the human race strong. What kind of relationship do you imagine with him? This is important to know what you want exactly — the more detailed it is that you want, the universe will give you something that matches exactly what it is that you want. That varies from person to person. Common choice are - channeling your energy into your hubbies like painting etc; taking up a new class; spending more time with your friends; travelling solo; working on yourself; pampering yourself; hitting the gym; dating someone new; doing some volunteer work; blowing off some steam; seeing a specialist if it gets too much to bear Hang in there. Sometimes people go back to their ex because they are unable or don't want to find someone new to rebound, so they try things out again with their ex. But most likely, your ex is probably rebounding with her ex. Focus on your anxiety and calming yourself down, and just pick yourself back up, before you consider anything again in the future. When you fixate on a specific outcome with a specific person, you ruin your attractive vibe since you can’t be happy unless you have the outcome you want… and every moment you’re unhappy you push the guy further and further away. If you must remain in contact because of children or other shared obligations, know that there is a distinct difference between being friendly and being friends. True friendship means two people care about each other’s well-being and have one another’s best interest at heart. By the time many relationships end, it is often in question whether both parties can genuinely provide this kind of care and support for one another. The expectation that someone who didn’t treat you well while you were together will be capable of being a true friend afterward sets you up to continue being hurt. But choosing to be friendly means you can, without expectations, acknowledge the love you shared and honor that time in your life by treating the other person with kindness and respect. Instead, your mind stays stuck exclusively on him and how amazing he is and how much you want him back. You need to spend this time focusing on you, focusing on becoming your best self, focusing on having fun and loving your life and being selfish and doing things that make you happy. All of the crying, Instagram stalking, begging, analyzing, gossiping, playing detective, pleading and bargaining will get you nowhere and the pity and empathy that you are after will never happen. It turns men off, WAAYYYY off to know that you have such little confidence and such a minuscule life that you’re obsessed with their every move and obsessed with losing them. Men want to feel wanted, not psychotically needed. Beating yourself up is not going to help you either. Are you listening? Either make the mistakes that I’ve made in the past or wake the hell up and give this emotionally unavailable f*cktard a run for his money. It is still important to discuss with him about the past issues so you can finally ask for each other’s forgiveness but after that, the two of you should think about starting all over again while leaving all your negative issues behind. "In this part, I will need to know more about the basics of your past relationship, life and what you believe about relationships in general. This will help determine the overall category that your breakup fits in." Obviously, things probably went south toward the end, but how did you feel the rest of the time? (The beginning doesn’t count. Beginnings are always easy and idealized; they’re the filtered version of real relationships!) The thought of your ex being with someone else is a gut wrenching one. But in reality, it’s not as bad as we make it out to be. We will get into that later, but first, let’s take a look at how your instincts react when you find out your ex is dating someone else. It seems like every time you talk to this friend, they’re complaining about something that’s gone wrong in their life, or telling you about a problem that’s not their fault, or unburdening their unhappiness onto you. In my experience, professional help and self-improvement has worked wonders. I expanded my social circle a little, I got closer to my family, and I picked up new interests and hobbies to pass the time. I knew that I needed to spend as little time as possible each day thinking about various exes. Having things to do helped with that. Therapy has helped me identify my weaknesses and strengths. It takes however long it takes to get over someone. There's no timeline. You move at your own pace. Check out the app Rx Breakup. One day it'll hurt less. Just keep moving forward. So, in the meantime while you’re going through your thirty days of no contact you will need to embrace living your life as a single person for a while. Although this may sound depressing at first, this doesn’t mean becoming a recluse. So really be aware of your state of mind, emotion and attention before you pick up the phone to call him or text him. If you’re wound up, pissed off, or even in a completely opposite state of sadness and vulnerability, do yourself a HUGE favor and just give it some time until you’re more calm, cool and collected. Take some time to focus on yourself, your happiness and your future instead of dwelling on the past! Break-ups can be hard to get through, I know, but if you surround yourself with friends and good environments it'll be a bit easier for you. If you are still sure you want him back after your time reflecting, the next step will be to find out if he still has any feelings for you at all and whether there may be a chance of the two of you rekindling the flame of love. This step is crucial, so if you haven’t done so already, take the simple test now to find out if he secretly still wants you back. This is always a hard experience. The first thing you need to start doing is looking after yourself. Focus on mindfulness exercises as these will prevent your mind from running or acing back to thoughts of your ex. Don't get me wrong, it is ok to think back from time to time. But moving on is more important. I still obsess (2 months) about the relationship. I miss being a part of a family, I miss having dinner with him, the sex was mindblowing, sleeping next to him, the lazy weekends and the busy doing things together weekends, waiting for him to come home from work, I miss “our” home, his daughters, his family, Sunday afternoon cookouts at his moms…. I still have the most horrible days when I believe it was all my fault and I was just not good enough and will never be good enough for anyone. I let him do that to me. And yes, I sometimes want that back, him back… Yet, somehow I know that, eventually I will be ok, better than ever. Wish it would get here faster! First impressions are key. But you probably already knew this, didn’t you? What you wear will say a lot about this interaction so plan on wearing something informal, but also something that makes him think hard about what he’s been missing out on. Guys are simple, physical, tangible creatures who like to look and touch things they find attractive. If you look good, he’s going to remember that for a long time even after you first meet up. But he is still seeing the other women, and this is something that he has to go through. And he knows if we got back together that he would marry me and accept my family as his.( he has never been married nor does he have any children.) Never forget… after the rain, the sun always comes out. It may be raining now, so take out your umbrella, keep walking, and sooner than you know, the sun will shine brighter, and will bring a smile on your face. "After my first long-term relationship ended, I spent a little less than a year being a "serial dater." I couldn't fully move on until another solid dating prospect had shown up. When I started to get to know one guy I really liked, there was no looking back at my ex." —Sasha F. [otp_overlay]