After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.
The first step for how to get your ex back is understanding your mistakes. Look I don’t know you and I also don’t know why your relationship ended. If you make big mistake or your ex left you for unknown reason. But, one thing I can surely say to you is that your relationship comes to an end because of one of these 5 reasons:
Working on your issues with a good therapist will also show your ex-partner that you are willing to acknowledge any mistakes you made in the relationship and that you are focusing on cleaning up your act. This is particularly important if the relationship ended due to infidelity, boredom, sexual issues, mental health issues, or even communication issues.
My girlfriend broke up with me after 4 years due to me being controlling and clingy. Told me the night of the breakup that she loved me, but wasn’t in love with me anymore. We talked every so often afterwards until I figured out I was actually making things worse and proceeded with NC for 25 days. We’re long distance so it’s a bit easier than others. We had plans to meet up when I came home to visit family for thanksgiving and talk, and we did meet up but we hardly talked. She said it was too soon and didn’t want our emotions to get the better of us. I was a bit mad, because I waited almost an hour. We spoke on the phone afterwards and got into an argument about what happened and both said some mean things.
This crisis may have gotten your attention, but it is God’s intention that He have your whole heart. That’s really what your wife needs anyway – a man who stands strong, who loves God with all his heart, and walks in humility and compassion.
Don’t blame him for the breakup. Acceptance is the key to peace of mind and moving on. When you blame, you will never get out of the self-destructive cycles and patterns that hold you back. Have faith that everything will be fine eventually. When the universe throws you a lemon, turn it into lemonade.
Ok. When I started with this whole dating thing, I have decided: I wanted only sex. I missed sex since I have not had any for 2 years after breakup with my husband. Right? But I did not want to lose my independence just because my body needed sex. That was the starting point. I had more dates but I selected this guy because kissing was the best with him. We had chemistry. We have not had sex only on the 3rd date. Basically we were speaking about philosophical questions and everything. I found him interesting as a person. He was a kinda weirdo like myself. I told him I wanted only kinda special frienship but he wanted something more. He left some of his stuff at my house, cooked for me, stayed over the weekend and started to repair my boiler. Even mentioned that I should have reareanged my room. These things terrified me so I started fight. We had great sex and then loads of fights. In the meantime I realized I might needed something more than sex. We had fight about Fraud and these things. In this respect the relationship was not swallow.
I recently met an awesome guy & finally convinced that i should b moving on from a breakup I just cant figure out how. but now i came across this article, im starting 2think twice. should i even try to get back w/ my ex? im torn! 🙁
By not contacting your ex, you are giving them time to forget all those negative qualities about you and think about the good qualities in you. And the best part of no-contact is that when you stop contacting your ex, you automatically become “not needy” in their mind. (sometimes, this is enough for them to want to get back together.)
We met as broken people and all we did was fight cuz I pointed out everything he did wrong ( I was scared cuz I felt he reminded me of my ex and he was still hung up on his) and he said I was a nag, till one day I woke up and felt nothing for him after great sex, but decided to just hang in there. Not sure what he felt that morning but he started pulling away, so I left him, till I contacted him one day and he said he was on a date. I completely lost all control and sanity and it was an entire weekend of fighting via text messages cuz he wouldn’t talk to me over the phone, hurt even more cuz the ex I was broken from got married that weekend. He finally called when the weekend was over but by then I was over it and didn’t pick up or read his last text message.
If you’ve been answering yes to lots of questions above, then it’s likely that you will answer yes to this one too. Why? Because believing that your girlfriend is the best chick you can realistically get, creates a scarcity mindset which brings out all the desperate and try-hard (i.e. unattractive) behaviors that we discussed above.
Another than this, I recommend you to read Brad Browning’s The Ex Factor Guide because it is one of the powerful guides ever written on ex back topic. It will show you why your relationship goes south and how you can bring your ex girlfriend back with the help of text messages.
Hi I was with my ex for 15 years. We were going through a few problems but I knew he would never cheat on me. However he took a woman 25 years his junior. I believe it is a mid life crisis. They are still together after a year and a half. He was so hurtful too me and blamed me for everything. There are other things he has done so out of character. I still love him dearly and forgive him as I know without his problems he really would never have done this too me. We were not married but were near as anyone could be without the certificate. Have I got a chance of a new beginning with him. I can not give up if there is a chance. X
i did no contact rules 3 weeks ago now he is the one chasing me like crazy but am not planning to text him yet yes i miss him alot but i have to finish no contact rules everytime i get bored i read this artcle just to be busy thank u
I was blindsided by our break up and he now has a new girlfriend after just a couple weeks. We had one small tiff and he said I was over thinking things and he was feeling freaked out. We took a break then he claimed we were just a hook up, but we weren’t.I know the difference 🙂 I feel like a lot of our breakup was just circumstantial and we weren’t in the right place to be together, but I honestly believe he is the one for me. I would love to make positive changes and win him back.