Slowly start to date again. If your ex starts to flirt with you and picks up on the fact that you want him again, he may just ask you out again if he’s feeling it too. Or if you think he’s liking hanging out with you again, you can just be bold and tell him how you feel, and then start dating him again if he feels the same way.

Why do you want to reunite? Is it mostly because he’s putting so much pressure on you? Or maybe your kids are, or your family is? This needs to be your decision, not anyone else’s. Do you truly still love him and see a future together — or are you just worried about a single income, about being lonely, or about dating again? Consider whether you’d get back together if everything else in your life was going fabulously. If not, then you probably don’t really want him, but just a relationship. Even if it’s not a good one.

At this point, he may feel confused, maybe even having lost interest in you. But he does not want to deal with the thoughts and emotions of it. That’s why he chooses to avoid this topic altogether whenever it is brought up, which may be reinforced by the fact that you do not pursue the matter whenever he says he isn’t sure. If you do not wish to walk away from this relationship, you should not allow him to give you further ‘I don’t know’s for an answer and ask him to tell you honestly how he feels.

I’ve lost about 70 lbs since me and her we’re together I’ve got a good job moving up very quickly in a new industry and we have kept contact the whole two years apart but only via text. Never ran into each other anywhere and I cut ties with all our old mutual friends.

My girl friend just broke up with me on Saturday. We were having a beautiful conversation and all of a sudden she brought my ex girl in the conversation. I got mad about it and it brought huge misunderstanding. I needed to send her my call log and noticed that her name was saved as Ahmed Gift and My ex as “So Mine”. But honestly that I thought that was normal. I have been pleading with her. She confessed she still love but I have to move on this she’s time to heal and she’s afraid of getting hurt. she said if I need her she will be there. Am seriously in pains. What do I do?

Yes, I think for a relationship like yours, it can be easily mended if both parties work at their differences together. It’s normal for relationships to reach a point where arguments happen more often due to both parties inevitably taking each other for granted (by becoming too comfortable, impatient, etc). The issue here isn’t that you guys have differences and need space to think if the relationship is worth it, but rather to both sit down together and sort your differences out.

While this change was certainly challenging, I think it was beneficial for us overall. We each had our own space in which to think. For me, I thought a lot about what kind of person I was, what kind of person I wanted for a partner, and what kind of person he was. I thought about our conflicts, unspoken problems and how we got to a point of such animosity. And to be honest, I cried; I cried a lot. But I also believe that sometimes we have to live through the bad to get to the good. I was able to take these introspections and lessons and go forward with stronger steps about who I was and what I wanted.

Then you need to set checkpoints by taking a goal minded approach in your daily life. Set goals on a daily, weekly and even monthly basis in order to have a bird’s eye view of where you are and where you need to go.

A first out-of-bounds behavior is one thing. If the mistake is corrected and not repeated ever again that is a positive development and can result in continuation of a better-than-ever marriage. Continued deal-breaker behaviors however, I agree, are invitations to divorce.

Commit to having a better relationship. If your ex-boyfriend takes you back, you both need to take steps to make sure that the same problems that caused your last breakup will not interfere with your relationship again. Talk to each other about what kinds of conflicts you have had in the past and how you could deal with them more appropriately going forward.[9]

First of all be prepared for the worst. I know you love him and you want him back, but there is a chance he might never come back and you have to be prepared to be a single Mom and take care of the kids by yourself. In your case, no contact will be a little tricky but the easiest way to do so will be to tell him that you need some time and space and you will appreciate it if he can give it to you. Tell him that you will keep him updates on the kids if there is something important. If he wants to see his son, make arrangements for him. Don’t ever talk to him about anything other than the kids. It’s sort of limited contact, but it still works just as well as no contact.

You should also listen to your ex-partner as they speak as a way to tell if they are interested in getting back together. If they use terms like “we” or “us”, they may be open to entering back into the relationship. Your ex-partner may also discuss how they feel, using “I” statements, and be willing to discuss your issues without judgement and with honesty.

For instance, in the future when he was traveling for business and staying alone in hotels he would plan ahead what to do in the evenings: phone his wife, work on his computer, read, watch his favorite TV shows.  He would NOT go to the hotel bar. If he met people in the lobby, if the acquaintances were women he would speak with them briefly and then say goodbye.  He would go out to dinner only with men friends.  If women joined them, he would not engage in one-on-one conversations with them. Alcohol, private time with women plus loneliness and a disconnected relationship with his wife had been a dangerous combination for him. 

You have the quality to attract women as you attract your ex girlfriend first time. You are in state of mind where you don’t want to try. Instead of searching about how to win her back, just give a try and you will surely feel good.

My partner walked out on me about three weeks ago. I came home form work to find a note. We have been having a tough time financially as I was out of work for a while. This did cause arguments but it didnt stop me loving him. The last three months I have been working flat out to get the money in to get us back on track. he then started complaining that I was always tired and didnt spend enough time talking or cuddling him. I kept saying that by the end of feb we would be back on track and I can pull back on the over time. He has walked out on me fair few times before but always has come back after a week. This time he has found somewhere else to live. I have tried to talk to him rationally about things but he just shouts and screams at me and says he doesnt love me any more. He isnt the same man I met. I love him so much and I know he has his problems. I have had mine but I am currently getting counseling for them.

Remember that every single breakup is caused by one thing — a loss of attraction. If your ex gave you reasons for the breakup, I’m sorry to the say that they were probably lying. They probably just didn’t want to hurt your feelings. This loss of attraction could have been caused by you displaying unattractive characteristics like laziness, cheating, complacency, etc. That, or you probably failed to continue displaying the attractive characteristics.

As he sees you apologizing, he will at the very least understand that you care about the relationship, and he will then also be more likely to take responsibility for whatever his role was in the breakup.

“You were right too about how much I coddled my children’s mother. The reality is that I was afraid of her.  Just like when we were married I was always trying to keep her from getting mad at me. When I was depressed I had no spine for anything.  That era is over as well.  Now when she calls, I get the facts of who to pick up when and where, and that’s it.”

When you pick her call, number one rule is, don’t be angry, depress or rude to her. If she calls you or visits your workplace, then make sure to act happy and cheerful. Acting this way will demonstrate your higher value. Again, this will increase her ‘fear of loss’ feeling and make you look like you have moved on.

2. Ask yourself, “Do I really want this person back?” If you’re not sure, make a pros and cons list. Then, throw away the cons list. That’s what we call, “harnessing the power of positive thinking.” You’re welcome.

Nevertheless, if category B fits your situation, then you have a really great chance of getting your ex back so long as you play your cards right from here. Move onto the next step and I will help you and show you how to get your girl back!

Hi there my bf broke up with me after 2 years of relationship..we were fighting too much..why I was fighting? Because I was just sitting at home and we never go out like a couple. I had loads of problem but he was never here to help. So today he brought all my stuff to my apartment and he said to me if ever I need something I know where to find him. he never accept his own fault..he never says sorry…he always wanted to get rid of me I always beg him not to go..but am tired of licking ass every time. Can you help me to win him back?

Begin the dialogue slowly and carefully. Once you make the first contact with your ex-partner, do not try to push the dialogue further or put pressure on your ex-partner to talk to you. Instead, remain casual about keeping the lines of communication open and try to space out your conversations via text message, email, or phone. It may take time for your ex-partner to feel comfortable enough to spend time in person with you or to have longer conversations with you. Be patient and do not bully or nag your ex-partner as you try to re establish a connection with them.

There’s a million different ways for you to showcase that you have evolved positively or to do something that they would never expect you to do in a million years. Think about criticisms that your ex used to voice in your regard and start to put specific actions in place that will enable you to overcome some of your short comings.

This depends on the couple. If two people are willing to work hard, forgive and nurture their relationship, then it definitely can work. Both partners need to be completely on the same page and the lines of communication need to be well and truly open.

Im a 35 female and was dating a 36 Year guy for three months. We met through a dating app. We had previously dated 2 years ago for a few months but things fizzled out. He lives an hour and a half away from me, We were in contact daily via texts and saw each other approx once every 7-10 days.

Thank you for your share. I know how difficult it can be when trying to get back with an ex after years apart. You mentioned school. How old are the two of you? I would continue with the distance, as it’ll show her what she’s losing. We as humans have a tendency to really want things once they’re taken away from us. I know it’s hard, but it can make all the difference.

Since it has been 6 months, he may have gotten used to the idea of life without you. That doesn’t mean however that he’s moved on. It isn’t hopeless but if you really do want him back, you would have to re-create the spark with him so that he would fall for you once more.

If you pushed your partner away from a place of fear or anxiety, you may still be just as compatible as a couple as you ever were. As with point #3, you’ll have to communicate to them what you realized you did, and see if you can earn their trust back over time.

2nd – It will create ‘fear of loss’ in your ex girlfriend’s mind. Your girlfriend will start thinking why he is not contacting me. She may start giving second-guessing to her decision for not contacting you and once she gets these feelings you will get good chance to get her back.

I have come to find out the man she replaced me with is her boss (46-2 kids, previously married)…which I am crushed by. In a way Im glad its not the hot guy at the bar I would compare myself to and wonder what he does better than me. I know her boss has money, has known for her for a year and probably knows where my support lacked and where she needed more. He’s not attractive in my or my friends eyes but this really breaks my heart. [otp_overlay]