Hi Lauren! I am from the Philippines and I bumped on this site trying to find out advises for my current relationship. My story will be a bit long and I hope you may find time reading it. I have been in a relationship for 8months now. Our relationship started in a most undesirable way. First, let me tell you the romantic background of the guy whom I decided to be with. His first girlfriend was way back in his High School years. They were together for four years. The girl has a “childhood friend” who was a Filipino Australian citizen (A Filipino who migrated in AU and became a citizen), eventually, the fall of the relationship was when the girl thought that the relationship was going nowhere and decided to cheat when that “childhood friend” went back to the Philippines. When he learned the thing, of course his heart got broken and had a hard time moving on. After a year, he had his second girl who was his college junior (they were both studying Nursing) and all went fine, he shared with me that he gave all the girl’s wants and needs but in the end he was made aware that the girl is cheating and that she is dating another man when they are still together and the mother of the girl belittled him for being “just a nurse”. They broke up and he did all to win the gilr back but nothing happened. After a year, when he learned that the girl became available “again”, he started courting her “again” to win her back, of course the girl chose a different man instead of him and that’s when he decided to move on. On the other hand, we were officemates, I am a Human Resource Officer and he’s a Company Nurse, at first, I did not like him for he’s just not my type. Until the tables turned. I love talking to him and I enjoy his company, I told him that I like him and he said it was okay. Eventually I fell in love and confessed, he told me he’s not ready and can’t reciprocate my love, as well, he d…

Do you think you should text your ex, or do you think it might make you seem needy? Read this article to discover what you should know about texting your ex..>>http://www.howtowinbackyourex.org/should-i-text-my-ex/<< 2. Ask yourself, “Do I really want this person back?” If you’re not sure, make a pros and cons list. Then, throw away the cons list. That’s what we call, “harnessing the power of positive thinking.” You’re welcome. Some experts recommend that you go out for a beer or something like that. Personally I am not against that I would just recommend not to drink too much. The last thing you want is to creep your ex boyfriend out by confessing your undying love. The key is to just do something that the two of you will both enjoy where you can have fun and talk. It was good, but the toxic feelings from the first breakup followed us wherever we went. Mary had let go of that fun-in-the-sun, summer-fling, freewheelin’ attitude I had desperately tried and failed to bring to our last relationship. She had made new friends and learned valuable lessons since our breakup, the biggest one being that guys who try to hold on to their high school ex-girlfriends are as dumb as they are stupid. I know it’s really difficult when a relationship ends, but that’s exactly why it’s time to focus on yourself and build the lifestyle you really want. Build your confidence back up, socialize, make new friends, pick up a cool new hobby, join a Meetup group, or take a trip. Do whatever you need to get yourself back out there. 2nd Step: Now delete her from all messaging service such as WhatsApp, Viber etc. The only exception is don’t delete her from your Facebook but don’t view her profile. You can also temporary shutdown notification from her in your Facebook profile. Unlike you, dear reader, I don’t have any ex-girlfriends. But if I did have an ex-girlfriend to get back with, I imagine I’d do so because it would feel easy. I imagine it would be like settling into an old groove in an old record that I hadn’t heard in a long time. I imagine it would be a very bad idea. But what if it wasn’t? What if it was exactly the right thing to do? Because there are different kinds of exes, is the whole thing. Plus, it gives you the time to get past the initial unbearable phase of missing him and into a more even-tempered, secure mentality. Instead of trying to figure out signs your ex still loves you, you’ll be working on yourself and getting yourself into a better mindset. It gives you the space to say, “I don’t need him to be happy – I can be happy all on my own”. I don’t know about you but if I got a letter out of the blue from an ex girlfriend I might be a little creeped out. The last thing you want to be is perceived as creepy or stalkerish and writing a letter the wrong way can definitely hurt you. It is easy to get caught up in the passing of time. Most relationships that continue to repeat the cycle (breakup, get back together, break up again). They do so because time allows them to forget about the things that went wrong and hold on to the things that went right. The problem with falling victim to time is that you will realize shortly after getting back together that you are still the same people with the same issues. And now all you have is time wasted.  The problem with this for you has been that your nice behavior has prevented your woman from seeing you as a superior man, for the reason I outlined above (approval seeking). And of course if your girl doesn’t see you as superior, she then loses attraction for you. This is when thoughts of ending the relationship enter her head. Once you are done, open your eyes and find the list you made in Anger Exercise above. Hold the envelope in your hand and feel how light it is. Things that putting the burden of tension on you is, as small and light as a feather. I write here today, after 25 days of not having seeing her. I dont know when she herself decided to call it quits, hence cant say how long it has been since the breakup. Yes it is living nightmare that she didnt even want to talk, leave alone meeting me for clearing out the things. The story began about 10 months ago wherein we connected via socia media platform and within a month we involved the family and decided to be along together. We had been knowing a little bit since bachelors, as we were together for 4 years…no friends but more of collegues. Both had feelings at that time…and hence 2 years later we connected on social media. Spent 8 months in long distance, with her studying in another country and me as well. We engaged in our home country..and things were going well kinda. We had our share of fights and misunderstandings, but I was less expressive of my discontent or anger as I didnt want to get her hurt. She was able to notice this. Let me tell you that this connect was, is and will remain soulful as I dont want to have anyone else than her. Now due to a major fight, the families got invilved and seperated us. I tried to reach her out through the friends and in the process ended up opening the things…our fights and the things I felt where I was wrong, and where she was…it was an attempt to reach out to her and make someone exolain her that I am going to be there for her always. This now, she misunderstands as my means of defaming her, breaking her trust and being immature to such an extent that she broke the relationship herself with less than a month of engagement…I know that its wrong of me to have taken other routes, but I myself was forbidden to reach directly…by her and my family…which she thinks now as my means of excuse. 2 days ago when after lot of discussions with her father, he let me have a word with her. Till now I believed that it would be some sort of family intervention that led to breakup…but it was her completely. With every word on the phone, she butchered my heart…telling me to move on, as she has already and what not…I did everything…begged her for fogiveness…begged to be in touch…but in vain……and in the end even as she said a formal good night…I told her..that I love her… no means of literature would ever convince me to move past her and dive into vast ocean…and have go with another girl. I have loved her and soulfully I have dedicated myself to her…a life will be short to seperate us…in good times, we said that to each other. I want to know, how much time should I take before approaching her again? What would bury the burns of this despair between us? Would she ever realise that breaking up over such a thing is just destructive? I have, I do and I will love her for and beyond this life… When a girl feels disconnected from her boyfriend due to his lack of emotional availability/ overdone badboyness, she’ll think he isn’t interested in her enough to make a reliable partner. She feels like she can’t really ‘get close’ to him, which is something she needs in a relationship because closeness shows her that he won’t just up and leave her. Girls do dump guys for this. In this case, should i inform her that I would not contact her for a while, or still answer her calls but keep the conversation to general topics and avoid getting to serious topics? Or should I just ignore her (and might push her more away)? My boyfriend and I got into a fight. He got arrested and charged. I understand that he’s very upset about that. I’m upset about it too. He moved some of his stuff out and staying at his mom’s house. He has depression really bad and now his even more depressed. I didn’t want him home until I knew it was safe for him to come home. We both said we are together but just taking a breather. He is so depressed that he quit his job, drinking and being neglectful. We will text great one day and talked about our issues. Everything seems great then the next day nothing. I picked him up one night he was shaking and have lost a lot of weight (it’s only been 2 weeks). We had a great night. The next more he got upset thinking that my kids didn’t want him around they are happy without him. My kids are really confused right now. I got him to eat and shower ect. Took him back to his mom ( not wanting to). We texted and I admit to my faults and mean it. He said he forgives me bit I broke him for what I said when I was angry and I said the same to him. But deep down I knew he was only mad but longer he stays away I’m starting to believe what he says. Now the next day no answer.. I know he has low self esteem issues and depression. He won’t take his name of the lease agreement and tells me he’s coming back. I’m starting to believe he’s playing games even though he’s not the type but being around his family he might have changed.. How long should I wait before shutting his phone off and car insurance. I’m not sure if he wants to be together or not. HELP PLEASE!!! Make a game plan for how to deal with unmet expectations. For example, if you broke up with your ex because he or she spent too much time with friends, talk openly about how much time is reasonable and how you will negotiate with one another if you need more time with friends.[17] By understanding this four-step approach to rebuilding a relationship, you can improve the odds that you get back together with your ex and that you two have an even stronger relationship than ever before. Let’s start off with something that will get you the strongest results with the least amount of effort. A charming and extremely smart old friend of mine taught me a simple trick which drove my ex-girlfriend CRAZY for me, and it took 2 minutes to do whilst I was sat at my computer. To win a girl back, it’s crucial. Click on the image just below to go to the video-presentation now. People don’t change overnight. It takes more than a meager week or even months for someone to truly change their habits and attitudes. Make sure you move slowly to give yourself time to assess your ex and the situation because most people are always on their best behavior in the beginning of a new relationship or when renewing an old one. It’s easy to get caught up in the familiar comfort of a former love, but you need to take baby steps to determine if the changes will last. “You need to be open enough or brave enough to keep looking,” says Dr. Davila. “The mindset is, ‘I am going to continue to assess this relationship and if at any point I see that things are not going to change I can stop this relationship.’” I know this can be incredibly difficult. I advise you to reset this relationship completely. You will need to show your ex that you have taken some time to reflect and change some things that happened in the relationship that set the two of you apart. I believe this may help with your situation. https://www.withmyexagain.com/audio-ressources/ Fiore just released a revised and expanded package of his influential mind techniques. It is the perfect solution for anyone who is stuck on what to say and do to spark the romance back after a breakup. Why it works is simple...when you follow Michael's tutorials you'll steadily rebuild your ex's attraction to you. After you reach the passion point, they'll no longer care about the all the old problems in your relationship. Their entire focus will be on reconnecting with you! b.  Appearing to treat his wife as a second-rate citizen by ignoring her much of the time and by disagreeing with whatever she would say when they did talk.  His kindly telephone conversations, by contrast, with his ex-wife added fuel to her fire. She seems to be going out drinking 2-4 times a week at night and posting it on her snap chat story, I had heard she was dating a guy but when she and I had talked about the comedians show she said she had planned on maybe asking her brother to go with her cuz she had no one else to go with so I don’t know the next day she uploads a picture we took of her and said thanx bae for picking out my dress. I asked her who she was calling bae, and she said a friend of hers , he calls her bae but they are just friends. The main reason for writing this guide is to help you only. I didn’t write this guide to gain fame or fortune. I want to help men in fixing their relationship problems and cure their broken heart. I am tired of seeing bulk of new emails everyday from men asking how they can get their ex girlfriend back. This guide provides cure to fix relationship and help you in winning your ex back. When you guys meet up for dinner/coffee, whatever, don’t talk about the past , why you broke up and stuff like that. Ask him what’s new in his life, how he’s doing, maybe remind him of something nice that only you know about him that you can both laugh about it. Keep the conversation light. Super-emotional, could-a, would-a, should-a stuff will just bring you back to where you were. [otp_overlay]