In this case, should i inform her that I would not contact her for a while, or still answer her calls but keep the conversation to general topics and avoid getting to serious topics? Or should I just ignore her (and might push her more away)?

Sure, both of those relationships happen to be with the same person, but the last relationship wasn’t working for you as a couple, so why would you want to resurrect that one? Your history together won’t just disappear, but the point is that now you’re beginning a new partnership with new and healthier emotional habits.

To keep it short, I randomly discovered his ex-wife’s FB, posting past wedding photos and still with the profile picture of them up. But he denied he’s got married before but only engaged. Then he broke up with me-a non breakup breakup actually. Few days later, I found his ex has blocked my faebook, but I know she hasn’t taken down the profile picture. Obviously they’re still in contact.

By taking into account each other’s romantic past, childhood, education, fears, insecurities, dreams and aspirations; you will put yourself in the best possible position to understand what went wrong and what your ex’s real and hidden expectations are; even when they cannot voice it themselves!

Why is this the easiest? Well it’s not as hard as other circumstances, like for instance getting a girl back from another guy. You only broke up due to distance, meaning that the attraction she feels for you is still present. In fact it might even have increased, since women get off on desiring what they can’t have (you). Even if it seems impossible, it can be done.

Thank you Ryan. There was a discussion, when I was expressing worries about how negative she sounded and her repeating how bad she is which I strongly disagreed with, and a discussion about where to live together that she started, which was all strange. I asked her what made her feel inadequate and she repeated that it’s just how a relationship makes her feel, and that she can’t have this discussion, and basically broke contact. Very sudden, very extreme, and very bizarre and I’m left with questions and I feel very confused. I asked her if this is about someone else, she strongly denied it, and I hope she speaks the truth, because I trusted her completely, and this would be a major disappointment in her and in people in general…I wish she could tell me what this is really about.

So the one I love just stopped contacting and stopped taking my calls all of a sudden and everything was perfect the day before…but when there’s a call with another line,the dude picks up….do you really think the no contact rule will work in this case?….Please help

If you are not interested in dating others or leading them on, meet up with groups for movie night or spend time with a friend of the opposite sex. Just being around others who are single might be enough to make your ex a bit jealous.[11]

Accept the break up and move on. If none of the steps above have worked for you, and/or if you have assessed the situation and decided it is not healthy or wise to continue trying to get your ex back, be sure that you take time for yourself emotionally to recover from your broken heart.

Figuring out how to win back your ex wife wont be an easy endeavor. Get ready because you’re going to have to be smoother than you’ve ever been in life. You’ve heard the saying “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”. If she’s your ex wife, she’s probably scorned. Winning your ex wife back will involve some deep emotional maneuvering on your part. You’re going to have to make the negative aspects of your former relationship disappear while playing up the positive if you want to have any hope of winning back you ex wife. Here’s the best way to attempt to win back your ex wife.

            A woman’s heart can grow so hard that she will mistrust everything about her abandoned husband. If he confesses his failings to her she will perceive him as self-absorbed. If he talks of his painful loneliness and begs her to restore the marriage, it will prove to her that he has no clue how much he has hurt her. If he explains why he has done what he has done, she becomes more convinced of his self-absorption and more confident that she has made the right decision. Her mistrust grows so strong that if he says black she will say white. To her he has almost become Darth Vader. A hardhearted wife will want nothing to do with the one who caused he so much pain.  

My suggestion is to complete 30 days of No Contact and spend this time to focus on all these things you’ve mentioned. Once you’ve picked yourself up from this and think you’ve at least improved from the last time she saw you, then you could contact her again if you really want her back.

If your ex broke up with you because your relationship in the beginning with her was bad, BUT eventually you started to love her more and more (from cold hearted to warm hearted), the fact that she couldnt erase the past bad things youve done, she broke up with you. Do you think i still have a chance to get back with her? i mean, ive changed to become a better person during the relationship.

For example, even if your relationship with your ex was abusive, you might want to rekindle it just because you are missing them. Our mind often confuses the act of missing someone with “love”. It’s normal to miss someone after you’ve been with them for a long time. But it doesn’t necessarily mean you still love them.

A classic tell that you were way more involved in the relationship than she was. Why? Because in a photo like that,you’re fixed on her, but she’s not the same towards you. It’s obvious. And if she knew you were more serious about her than she was about you (she knew – women have a 6th sense for this sh*t), she’d soon have been bored from the lack of challenge you gave. She’d have thought, “If I can get him devoted to me THIS much, then perhaps I can do better”.

Take it slow. Don’t assume you should pick up where you left off in your previous relationship, for example, sleeping together and saying “I love you,” which should not come into play until you’ve rebuilt your trust.[18]

Broke up with the love of my life after a huge fight. He said he would never take me back again after I ended things with him numerous times. I only realized that he was the love of my life after I lost him. I want him back but I also don’t want to hurt him again. Not sure how I can even get him back, seems like he is moving on with his life.

Hi Lauren, i had recently bought the book men are from mars and women are from Venus, it has brought me to try and discover more wonderful information on your page. My boyfriend of three years had recently just left me about a month an a half ago, we had just moved in together and were only living at our apartment for 2 months before he decided to lay the break up on me. He says he needs to find himself and his happiness, this term is still so confusing for me when things for the past three years were going so well. and just 2 weeks before he broke up with me he had talked about marrying me wanting to spend the rest of his life with me. as soon as he left the apartment and packed his things he doesn’t want to see me or doesn’t really talk to me and whenever we do talk it always ends up in the both of breaking down crying because its so sad. he has told me that he still loves me deeply and cares about me but doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. I have no idea really what to take from all this, i know that i may have smothered him to much in the relationship but at the time i did not know what i had been doing i do know that i some how contributed to this traumatic event. but he is making it seem like its totally over and he is just cutting things cold turkey. i never seen this break up coming and he said to me that it just happened and he didn’t even realize he was going to do it. after three years of being together hes acting as if he doesn’t even know me. i just need some advice of insight on what might be happening to him or me right now for this to take place? …

If you didn’t realize it by now, your instincts and your mind go into panic mode when you find out your ex is dating someone new. In most cases, you freak out and make all the mistakes mentioned above.

Don’t forget to be yourself. It’s important to work on yourself to improve your relationship as long as both people are doing the work. But you shouldn’t change yourself completely just to fit some image of what your ex wanted from you. You should only change if you want to change, not just for him. Remember that he liked you for a reason originally, so if you change too much, he may not be able to recognize the girl he fell for.

Now you no longer feel anger with the reasons that make you angry before. You have forgiven everything that you or your ex did in the heat of an argument, and now you are ready to move towards new and brighter future.

last paragraph about having the time to get perspective on how we are together and what do we mean to each other. And that it has shown me I like the simplest of things between us and I want us to have a second chance. I like how everyday was little better sharing it with him. Few things like I like to hear him giggle, or tell him about my dreams/jokes and him making fun of it, or discussing cricket or a movie or some random thing in the world or hear him talk passionaltely about his nephew or a theory he has or some political party’s agenda. That I missed him. That I want him.