I will say, it sounds like the bridge has been burned between you and your ex. Things won’t improve by spending more time chasing her. You truly have to step back and work on yourself. It’s like the what your hear on the airplane: get your oxygen mask on before assisting others. You can’t salvage the relationship until you are in a place of high self esteem and non-neediness.

There is one very crucial thing that most men don’t want to accept. We are slowly getting into feminine role and women are getting into masculine role. It doesn’t matter how far we as society has progressed, women still and always attract by dominant man that showed them attractive traits that we discussed above.

It’s important to have a plan to follow, because after a breakup you are hurt, emotionally drained and most of all, confused. And during this state of confusion, you are bound to make a lot of mistakes that will actually hurt your chances of getting back together.

On the surface, everything seems to be going perfectly now for Rebecca and Josh’s wedding to be the dream she’s always envisioned, the ceremony which is taking place in a couple of days. She sees the…

Hi ive been dating my partner for 6 months now. Everything was going perfect for us both.she fell pregnant and i proposed and we got engaged what we both wanted we were both so happy.she decided to have an abortion due to we both wernt financially stable and didnt plan the pregnancy.its was an emotional time for both of us individually. I unfortunately didnt show her support or comfort her during this life changing experience and i made a regretful unmeanful decision and broke up with her.we have been separated for 2 months now and we meet up a month ago caught up for 2 days she mentioned her feelings we still there altho she doesnt want any comments on a relationship at this stage. Until i become more stable and fix some issues i have in my life.I have acknowledged my behavior as i was expressing my hurt emotions and feelings towards her and i begged alittle and didny get me anywhere.. she isnt respondingto my messages or call I’ve respect our situation and havnt its been bit over 2 weeks ive made no contact,until Christmas day i wished her a merry Christmas i didnt get a reply. Im making positive changes in my life and improving my issues. I need some professional guidance and advice aswell as steps to reconnect with my ex.. I sincerely appreciate your understanding and support. Regards Theo

There are many ways you can approach this conversation, but one safe way is to say something like, “I’ve been wanting to talk to you about our relationship and see how you have been.” Express regret things didn’t work out between you and ask if you can talk about it now that you have some perspective.

It isn’t always hard. Plenty of people get back together every day. But I’ll be writing this for the hard cases – the ones where she isn’t already knocking down your door for another try. So I’ll be giving you some stuff that’s tried and tested, that I’ve used myself multiple times, and that I’ve watched friends and students and mentees use effectively again and again.

hello charlie,my girlfriend doesn’t want to date me again and has told me to move on cos she has move on with her life now and is now and is now dating some else. All because my blood brother and one of my friends told her that i have been sharing with them what i do with her in private. She says they told her that i told them she begs me for sex and also to suck me. She got so much upset. I have apologize to her that i didn’t do it but she doesn’t believe me . I have done everything a guy will do show i still love but still she doesn’t want to get back to me. Is been close to 5months but she still doesn’t want us to get together, i love her so much that i can’t see her go. Am short of ideas i need ur help. Thanks

I know I probably shouldn’t say this because it will just make things hard for you and me both. But I’m always here for you as a friend Ivan, I care about you and want what’s best for you, that’s the only thing that makes this whole process doable. I’m sorry Ivan I really am.”

Your ex doesn’t need to hear all this right now. It’s only going to make them put their defenses up. Your ex has decided to breakup with you for a reason and every time you express your infinite love for them, you are making them think of that reason in their mind.

After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.

I need help! My boyfriend and I just broke up 4 days ago and we were together for 4 months but I’ve known him since we were in 6th grade (I’m a freshman now) and since then, he has liked me. So, a month ago I found out that he liked my best friend and I broke up with him. A week later, we started dating again. The problem is that I’m bipolar and I get jealous really easy, especially when he’s around the girls that he use to like. When we started dating again, we decided to be honest to each other no matter how bad it was and I did my job, from the beginning of our relationship, I told him I still had little feelings for my ex but it didn’t matter because he goes to another school. We promised each other that I wasn’t going to text my ex anymore and he wasn’t going to talk to my friend or even get near her. 4 days ago, my best friend and other 2 girls were in a group and I guess he was waiting for his friend but I didn’t care, I wanted him away from her. I told him to move and he kept saying he was waiting for his friend. I started counting till 5 and I turned around and left. He followed me but I ignored him. I knew that if I talked to him, I was going to break up with him and I didn’t want that, so I left. I texted him 30 minutes later explaining why I was mad and why I ignored him, I even apologized and all I got was “…. I dunno…” At that moment, I knew it was over. I begged him not to break up but he wouldn’t take me back. The next day I talked to him, I had to. I told him that… I might be pregnant. I told my mom and she was not okay, I lost all her trust. He also told his mom and she said if I was pregnant, she was going to support him but since I’m not, she doesn’t want us back together. I know he still loves me but I don’t know what to do anymore. Today I found out that he started talking to his ex, so I did the same. This is really affecting me. I did not go to one of my classes today because he has the same class, I also left school early because I couldn’t take the pain anymore. I feel like this is slowly killing me. I feel like I need him! :'( Can someone help me?

If there was no instigating argument or issues that could have potentially made her feel that way, perhaps there could have been other more personal reasons for wanting to end things. You might have to mentally prepare that there was someone else, and if you’re entirely sure it wasn’t, you could always ask her what made her feel inadequate and toxic as a person.

This is the power of jealousy. Now, I am NOT recommending that you go out and date someone new. I am recommending that you drop certain hints in your communication with your ex boyfriend that you are out meeting new people. The key to this is that YOU CAN’T BE OBVIOUS. Do you think you will get very far if you rub the fact that you are out and about with other guys? The answer is no. There is a subtle art to incorporating jealousy texts into your conversations and I am going to teach you that art.

If you checked one or more of the above, I have some bad news for you. None — I repeat, none — of the above ploys will make your ex-girlfriend come back to you — no matter what the other so-called relationship “gurus,” books and courses tell you. 

my ex say she want to study first .. its been 2 yrs and 3month i didnt contact to her but since ,last week i text her from facebook..she leave me because she want to fokus on her study .. so how i can get her back?

Break ups are hard. No one wants to go through them, and yet millions of people are dealing with them on a regular basis. If you want to avoid the issues that are related with breaking up with someone, you are not going to be able to do it. There’s no way to avoid it. If it’s going to happen, it will, and you will be left out cold. Now, there are ways that you can change things up. In fact, you could learn how to get your ex back. This is something that a lot of people will no doubt want to chase, and it starts with changing. You will need to change a bit, or else you will not get anywhere.

Don’t be too obvious about it. Don’t say, “Don’t you see how I’m no longer jealous when you talk to other girls?” Instead, just don’t look jealous when he talks to other girls, and he’ll figure out the rest.

Chances are slim to none bro,ive did that off and on for 1 month right now until i researched about these topics,and now im getting really fit(friends judged me)and i didnt talk to my ex for the past 16 days now and still counting,shes dating someone new and it really feels like a sharp knife is poking my heart but now that im accepting the fact it doesnt even bothers me anymore.one great tip to tell you im no expert or something but just focus on yourself,i mean by going out with youre friends,finding new hobbies,gaining muscles/ripped/shredd.kill time man it works for me tho.btw i was with my ex for 3 years.

That’s the story of around 80% of the people who are desperate to get their ex back. It’s a huge mistake to text and call your ex all the time. In fact, it’s a huge mistake to call them even once. Your instincts tell you that if you stay in contact with your ex, they will not forget about you and hopefully come back.

Once you done reading from this website I recommend you to read Text Your Ex Back as well. This is because Michael Fiore has provided great insight about female mind that will stop you from getting dump. Additionally, you will find out why your ex girlfriend suddenly loss attraction from you and much more.

Would you want your ex constantly checking up on you, sending you messages and blasting notifications to your social media? Probably not. So, make sure you do your ex girlfriend the same courtesy. The best way to get over her and stop missing her is to make sure that you’re not constantly trying to get her attention.

My girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago and I am having a tough time letting it go. I know all the advice says to move on and get over it, and I almost have. I still have feelings of resentment towards her and wish to get her back.

So my ex broke up with me a little over a month ago after a 3 months relationship & several months of talking & getting to know each other really well (starting in the summer but wasn’t a fling). He is 24, I am 21, we felt serious, he would mention marriage. We had many common goals & other things & he loved that. Commitment/marriage seemed serious to him, he was all about values & didn’t like relationships where he wasn’t sure about marriage (I was a little hesitant about it). I was getting out of a breakup as well & vented to him a lot in the first 1-2 months/I mentioned the ex sometimes which he didn’t like & looking back I shouldn’t have done.

You are right, the respect thing in the relationship is a big issue and you should have a serious but calm discussion about it with her, in fact you both should let one another know what is important in order to make this new relationship a happy success for both of you. You don’t wanna run into the same mess as before.

If you know that a particular friend or family member dislikes your ex, ask to sit down and discuss why. Find out if it is based on how the ex treats you or others, knowledge your friend may have that you don’t, or other evidence that might be meaningful.

My girlfriend just broke up with me tonight and I have never felt worse. She is already seeing other people. I really want her back and had no idea what to do until I came here. I don’t think I want the slut back now. What am I saying hell yes I do. I feel so confused would making her jealous help or maybe the new guy needs a fist to the mouth even though that would not help. I might do it anyways.

I understand it can be hard if you have to see your ex at work on a daily basis, however just proceed normally with your life as you normally would and avoid her unless necessary. It’s unavoidable to have to come into contact and continue to talk to her about work related topics, but since she is acting dry, do not engage in any small talk beyond that. [otp_overlay]