Start hanging out with him a bit. Start making your relationship a bit more friendly. Move on from the casual hello to a short conversation, and then even stick around and chat with him for ten or even twenty minutes. Make sure you always say goodbye first, though, and don’t make him linger longer than he wants to. This will make him even more sad to see you go. Then, wait for him to ask you to grab a coffee, or be bold and ask him for a drink.
Hi , I’m so confused , can someone tell me what’s going on ?! , My ex girlfriend left me almost 3 weeks ago….she told me that she want to stay alone and rethink her thoughts , she’s has a huge dose of introversion since she was a child ,literally she only had me to talk with, and a firend who also has her own relationship.., a lot of problems in the family with her parents , and i was a little too pushy, i wanted to see her and stuff , and she just wanted to stay home and , do nothing, talk with no one ,she even delete her facebook account ….and i panicked and cried in front of her in the night she told me she want to break up….i guess that’s a bad move, but i couldn’t stand it….just because she promised me, she swore that she’ll never leave me and that i’m all she has , and that’s weird because a few days before she started to became …quiet i might say…she had plans with me , sleep at my place, and planning concerts in the spring break summer……i’m sooo confused …. i dont know what to do…..
Be that man your ex-girlfriend fell in love with – Think about the first time when both of you got together. What are the things about you that she specifically likes? Is it your sense of humor or sense of style? No matter what it is, bring back the love and passion in your relationship by letting your ex-girlfriend see the man that he fell in love with before.
If you’re on speaking terms, casually mention other girls. You can mention one girl a few times, leading her to wonder, “Who is this girl?” Or you can just talk about a group of girls, mentioning that you were at a party that was filled with mostly girls but that you were “okay with that.”
On the surface, everything seems to be going perfectly now for Rebecca and Josh’s wedding to be the dream she’s always envisioned, the ceremony which is taking place in a couple of days. She sees the…
I think I don’t have to mention how cheating ends the relationship. If you are the one who get cheated upon then you surely know how it feels in the chest and surely you don’t want your girlfriend to feel it.
So the evening ended with nothing much happening. She walked me to the door. We hugged one last time. I took a short elevator trip to parking lot, and as I opened my car door, I heard something behind me. She was out on her small balcony, waving to me and saying “good-bye.” I waved back, said good night, and drove back home.
I have no specific advice other than to relax, slow down, rebuild your confidence–and give him time to do the same. Also, be sure you’ve seriously learned from your prior mistakes lest you reconnect and make the same errors.
If it is not possible for you to go in depth with a woman, try out any random woman wherever you find. Tell her that I want to take a selfie with you and I want my ex-girlfriend to seriously think about me, so please make me hero in this one. It will surely do the trick.
“I’m now in a relationship with a girl I’m absolutely crazy about. I’ve used the advice you gave in regards to the rules of attraction… and everything you said was absolutely correct. I couldn’t be happier at the moment, and I owe it to you. Thank you. Keep up the wonderful work… I’m sure you’re going to help a lot of people.”
Tread lightly in the areas that you used to disagree. Whatever issues caused your break-up are likely to still be tender areas for the both of you. If you struggle with jealousy, family issues, control issues, or other particular areas, realize that those issues are going to still be there when the newness wears off of your reinstated romance.
Long story short, I met this girl and fell head over heels in love. We have been together four years. We moved in together almost two years ago. I asked her to marry me about two months later. During this time, I have stayed in contact with my ex-wife in just a friendly way, however, I kept this a secret from my fiancé. Well, she found out about six months ago and flipped out and asked me to move out. I did and begged her to take me back. After a few days or so, she agreed to start seeing me again. Now, about ten days ago, she broke up with me again and said it weighing on her mind all the time and she has thought about it and wants to break up. The difference was with the other breakup, she still texted me and said things like, “you just lost the best thing you’ll ever have”, etc. This time, I can barely get her to text me or anything. First few days she was very quiet, then she started ignoring me, then for two days she texted me like old times, then on Friday I wake up and she texts me that I am contacting her to much and she is unhappy about it. I say I won’t contact her anymore and I stopped. Well, Saturday night, she starts texting me asking me what I am doing, etc. This went on through Sunday, now here is Monday and she has gotten quiet again. I feel like I am dying. I did something stupid and nothing is working. She said, “No flowers, no cards, stop it.” Help please.
Wow that was a lot huh? I mean, we haven’t even started contacting our exes yet have we? Well, right now is when we begin that step. Are you excited? Alright, there is a lot of debate about this step. Every expert (myself included) seems to have a different opinion on the method you should use for contacting an ex. Some recommend writing a get your boyfriend back letter, some say you should give them a call and some even say you should text. So, what is the best method?
You guys weren’t together for a long time so him moving on would be dependent on how meaningful the 2 months were. Typically someone blocking you would be his way of wanting to avoid you, and this could because you were acting needy by trying to change his mind. Continue with NC but spend this time to work on your issues, and at the end of it, if he has unblocked you, you could try initiating contact to see where he stands. Bear in mind that there is a small likelihood he has moved on already due to the length of the relationship, and may have blocked you as a way of ‘indicating’ those feelings.
After saying sorry and explaing what type of relationship I really want i have done about 2 week long NC as suggested. On Christmas day to my surprise I got a Christmas greeting and my ex initianated a short conversation and this morningI got good morning greeting as it was a habit before breakup and it seems my ex wants to come over. I am very happy but my consern is that: I dont wanna be a doormat in long term. So I plan to initiate a converstation about the situation: I want to give it a try to a serious relationship with him but I dont want to be with him at any cost. Do you think it is appropriate. I mean I am happy that he comes or sg but I dont want to be just used and abused. Taking into account our past story it can be an issue.
2) A GF may be the last thing you need. Right now, with where you’re at, you need to reflect a bit and work on YOU. You’re probably still a great guy, you just need time to regroup, gain your strength, clarity and stability back – and frankly by the time you do this, you may not even want the same girl anymore. Once you do, you’ll be able to provide a girl with REAL value, and that’s like a drug to a high-quality woman!
So then I see a picture on insta of him & that girl & messaged him finding out they started dating less than a week after our last fight because “they just clicked” & right after finals he went to her house out of state & met her parents (she is rich & apparently has her own house). He said they really like each other but don’t love each other yet & isn’t even thinking about marriage. I told him it didn’t make sense why he’s with her & he said he had a change of heart/things happened fast. We had an ugly fight after that because I was so angry, it was the worst one & he said that’s why he left me. I made a lot of mistakes, really seeming needy but he’s blocked me on everything telling me he really likes her & I need to respect that. I said I did & just wanted to talk/be friends (which he said too) but he’s blocked me. I think it’s a rebound but he broke up with a girl like a month before meeting me & he says he completely shuts out exes. It doesn’t seem like they match but that he really likes her. I don’t know what to do but just really want him back since I’m committed to him but I feel like the more they’re together, they’ll fall in love & I’ve already made myself look like a fool. Help!
My ex and I broke up. I successfully did no contact for one month immediately after the break up and sent a follow-up text. In the initial first text I asked him in the message if he’d like to catch up for coffee, he said he it was too soon as he was struggling to find normality. I said I understood and we had a really good catch up chat via text. We have been texting almost everyday, good chats about friends, work, movies etc. I then asked him about a week or two later if he’d like to catch up for a drink he said he’s not ready to just hang out and it might be a while and he was sorry, but wants to stay in touch. He isn’t much of a texter even in our two year relationship. So I was a bit confused when he said no but I acted cool about it and said I understood and I’m happy to keep chatting (texting). We continued texting for about two weeks about random things and I got a fine in the mail I approached him about it cause I didn’t believe it was me driving (the fine was from a few months ago) and he said in a long message he remembered that day because I come over cooked for him and we had coffee in the park, he also joked in the message about a lunch we had made that’s still in his fridge and looks a bit dangerous lol. We sent a few more texts about our pet fishes and what not, seemed to be good. He said the suburb I was livin in now suited me 🙂 and then I said you should check it out sometime and he said yeah that would be nice :). So then a few days after that I said what is he up to this weekend and would he like to come check out my place/pool (he seemed to respond better to that then the coffee idea hence why I asked). But then he took two days to reply and said sorry he had a busy week and probably not this weekend and that he needs a pool at this place. Honestly at this point I felt confused so I replied saying ok when were you thinking to catch up as I will be away most of January? And he said he’s not in a huge rush, it’d be nice to see me but he feels he needs to find his own feet first and maybe closer to Xmas/New Years but he doesn’t know and not too rush it. I said it does suck but I understand and hope I catch you before I go :). That was our last text about 3-4 days ago and I’m not sure what to do now since I’ve asked to catch up a few times. I’m confused, I feel he’s definitely shown some positive signs, especially sending me some money for the fine even though he didn’t think it was him. My friends said I should just let him text me and not text him so I haven’t and it’s been a few days now. He was never much of a texter anyway but I’m not too sure what to do from here. Thanks 🙂
If begging worked after a breakup, no one will ever break up with anybody. They decided to leave you and they are prepared to go through your begging and pleading. Whatever the reason for breakup was, it’s not going to change with your begging. The only thing that begging will do is make you look like a weak and insecure person.
I may be too late to get an experts’ advice on this, but lemme try. My girlfriend broke up with me about three weeks ago. I text and call her for like 20 times a day since the day of the breakup. Do I still have a chance with her if I take on this advice?
Another case of her realizing that she’s ‘got you’, and that the challenge in you has been defeated. Boredom sets in for her from here and then it’s just a matter of time until you find yourself going to a search engine and typing how to get a girl back.
And like I said many times you have done nothing wrong. Having ambition to achieve your goals does not make you seem like you’re in your own bubble in fact it’s one of the things I like most about you. It shows much determination and that’s an attractive quality. And you have it wrong in the sense you would have always achieved what you have already, having someone to share it with is the bonus. Just remember your life started without me, your dreams were there before me, everything in your life was there before me. You had it all to begin with and it was complete, I’m just an add on/an option if you will but with out me you are still complete.