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I have picked myself up already. I’m months past the grieving stage, I just want her to feel confident about giving us another chance. She has told me she notices I’m more calm and that she likes that, yet I think she has been skeptical about trying again. When I think of her I don’t feel bad. I know we had something meaningful. But I don’t really know what no contact is supposed to be doing for me right now if I’ve picked myself up. I’ve made peace with whatever happens, but I want her to pick up on the newer version of me.

Alright, assuming you successfully engaged your ex boyfriend and got a decent response you can move on to this section. I’ll admit that you will have a distinct advantage here if you had a long relationship and made a lot of great memories. If your relationship was brief then this part of engaging your ex may be a little bit more challenging. However, that doesn’t mean anything bad it just means you might have to get more creative.

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The EBP requirements serve as a guideline but are not set in stone since every relationship situation is different. Currently, if you want a relationship where how you feel is accepted, and a partner who isn’t naive, you’ll have better luck in walking away and finding someone who fits that. If you still want to continue a relationship with her, then you’re going to have to accept that being jealous and telling her off on being naive (even if you’re right) are things that would only push her away. Instead of becoming angry (again, even if you have the right to be), I suggest talking to her in a more understanding way as that might make her more receptive to what you’re saying as opposed to telling her off and she becomes defensive and justifies the other person’s actions.

Hello I’m a 21 year old and been in a relationship with a 27 year old guy for 4 years. He broke up with me about 4 months back… well he didn’t really dump me , he just told me he was having problems that i wasn’t gonna be able to stand for and he then stopped contacting me.I somehow still think he was seeing someone else.!! I begged him to talk ,left hin so many messages but he never replied to any of them. I’d call him and he wouldn’t pick up My calls.. He really hurt me, that after so many times I’ve asked him to tell me where the problem was he just didn’t wann hear anything from me. He is now starting to contact me. Asking to see me and that he nevr stopped loving me, that he was just having so much problems and he can’t live without me. He’s asking me to give us a chance. I love him so much but again I don’t wann worry every day thinking he’d have problems again and decides to leave me. I just don’t trust him anymore. What should I do ..?plz help!

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For instance, in the future when he was traveling for business and staying alone in hotels he would plan ahead what to do in the evenings: phone his wife, work on his computer, read, watch his favorite TV shows.  He would NOT go to the hotel bar. If he met people in the lobby, if the acquaintances were women he would speak with them briefly and then say goodbye.  He would go out to dinner only with men friends.  If women joined them, he would not engage in one-on-one conversations with them. Alcohol, private time with women plus loneliness and a disconnected relationship with his wife had been a dangerous combination for him. 

Hi Kevin. Ive been dating this girl for 6months everything was moving perfect for us both. She fell pregnant and i proposed to her and we were engaged. She decided to have an abortion due to finacially we both wernt stable and ready. I was abit emotionally about the abortion as she was assell experiencing a life changing procedure. Things became abit difficult both of us dealing with our emotions and feelings at the time.I made the wrong regretful decision by ending it and i unfortunately didnt show her support an comfort. Its been extremely hard an difficult dealing with this whole situation. Its nearly been 2 months we nearly been separated for now.she says i need to fix my issues and become stable and she doesnt want no relationship at this stage.. which im coming to terms of and making positive changes in my life..its been just over 2 weeks i havnt contacted her until yesterday wishing her merry Christmas but no reply.. so ive just left it.. Deep down i sincerely love this girl with my entire heart and i would appreciate advice and guidience aswell as steps to reconnect with her.kind regards.

I am deeply in love with my ex, and i know he is too. He is just like a girl tho so indecisive. doesnt know what he wants.. he does know he wants me, but he thinks that he cant tell me. he has an issue with expressing his feelings. and he has made me cry, and been a jerk sometimes… but i still love him soo much and dont know what ill do without him.

I’ve been with my children’s father for 7 years. I broke up with him 4 months ago because he is not doing what he need to do for his children and for me. I’ve spoke to him about these issues tons of times and he still did not try to fix anything. He claims he loves us but he is not showing us. We don’t go out ,he don’t come visit the kids or even ask to take them. When he has free time he don’t bother to let me know so he can spend time with us. I feel like for your family theres always time, your kids come first and he doesnt understand that. At this point I felt worthless, weak and I’m beyond hurt because at least give your children your time. I’m doing everything that I can for my children and I try to stay strong because of them. I love him and want him to realize he have something good and it seems like he doesn’t care. Even though I broke up with him,I still want him, he’s the only guy I want in my life and I know he can be better because he wasn’t this person that he is now. idk who he is, but he’s not the guy that I fell in love with. I try so hard to move on though. I’ve even ignored his texts, have not came around, even acted like idc just so he knows how it would feel to lose his family and it didn’t work at all. I feel it’s hard to move on because I have children with him,but I just need to find a way to move on. Any suggestions?

The message seems fine. And I think texting him on that particular day is fine, because ultimately you bear no ill intentions. If the relationship you shared with him was meaningful enough, he would know where you’re coming from, and that you simply wish to let him know that you’ll be there for him.

I know: I lived that life for 36 years and have b een the modeerator of an abused survivors’ and emotional abuse group for many years. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans is a book which should be required for everyone on the planet.

Yes, you should definitely have this conversation with him. I recommend that you write down the type of relationship you want in your life. Write down the 5 most important thing for you in a relationship. And after that, write down your boundaries. Write down what is non-negotiable for you. This could be things like “Cheating, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse etc.”

We are both still in love. We go to separate colleges and things got harder and now she’s depressed and feels like she doesn’t love herself anymore so we broke up so she could love herself and it was the hardest thing to let her go. I know that I want her and I want her back but she needs time.

Your articles have been a big help. I (29 years old with past relationship experiences) met an almost divorced guy on dating app who lives in a city 700 miles away. I considered the dangers but it has been a while for him, he will be finally divorced in a month. We hit it off vert well, we discussed we were going fast, and we decided to continue but very slow. We mutually decided to meet also. The travel plan was for me to fly. And we booked the tickets 10 days in advance. On the day of flight, he messages me not to come. And then adds “Don’t bother replying or calling. Have good luck.” I suffer from severe anxiety and abandonment issues. So I was shocked but I still kept my cool, and tried to talk to him, figuring out what it means. He didn’t say anything until after I cancelled my flight in the evening when he succinctly says he is sorry but it is overwhelming. Now I know it’s more about him not being ready. But I also can’t stop wondering that I could have gone more slow, and done more things to make sure he doesn’t feel overwhelmed. But nevertheless he never replied anymore and it seems we are over. I am treating it as a break up. And plan to follow your suggestion of not contacting him for at least 30 days and then texting him. I have dated and been with some good men too with whom it just didn’t work. So I know the different connections and with this man I see a future. Not in a desperate way where I will act out of fear but in a way I know it’s a rare good connection. So I want it to work. When he is ready I want him to contact me. I want him to miss me, but like I said he is divorced and exactly after a month (my 30 day) is his divorce day. Now throughout our dating, he has always talked about his hardships about the whole divorce, once he was on call with me for 7 hours, on a divorce court date. He shared when he got the final divorce date too. So my question to you is that after my 30 day of no contact, it’s that final divorce court date when he will be finally free as he puts it. Should I do my first text on that date? Or wait for a few more days? I must agree I am worried to lose him. Because I am a little odd person. It’s rare for me to find a connection. I find it with him. But I remember your article about two kinds of people. I have worked hard at being the second kind, but my fears are very strong. So I am confused as to how I should approach the whole thing! Yesterday I was good in not texting him back a lot, until it was night when I sent two long messages spaced a few hours apart. Immediately after that he went invisible on whatsapp. I know it was for me. But I haven’t messaged him at all after that and I will not. That’s where your post helped me a lot. I really struggle in these kinds of situations. I do well if communication was very straight but it is not so often. I hope you can help me.

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He left me and went back to his ex he told me he would never date anyone with kids again but he’s like a father figure to my kids.i asked him if he missed me and he said sometimes.he starts to think if things would work out if we get back together but then he remembers the bad times which he says are more than good.i don’t think it was that way but who knows he only calls once or twice a day and always asks me if I’m with someone and what I’m doing.is he really over me already..

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