Knowing whether or not your ex still has feelings for you is an important part of staying strong. And because that strength eventually translates into confidence, this is one of the biggest motivating factors in making an ex see you as valuable again.
This relationship test is inspired by the list of 20 questions included in Dr Carver’s famous article “Are You Dating a Loser? Identifying Losers, Controllers and Abusers” and has been co-authored by Dr Carver. It is not a diagnostic test and is intended solely to help you identify aspects of your relationship experience which Dr Carver has associated with hurtful relationships and potentially, at particularly high levels, with the types of abuse sometimes linked to personality disorders.
Then she say she dont want to and 1 week after my sister bday i ask her sister where she could be ? Because my sister invited her to my sister birthday party and she dont even reply it. Then suddenly at night she texted me that why you texted my family. Now everybody know and she tell me that she cant be with me anymore because we keep arguing and stuff. And she say for now she cant be in a relationship kind of thing.
Only once, about 40 days in did we text for more than 5 minutes. She told me our relationship never had the “depth” she was looking for and she had found someone else that supports her in ways I didn’t. She said she was sorry for dragging me along when she really knew she didn’t want me anymore for a little bit of time.
I know my ex loves me. He broke up with me and said he does t want to date me because I have kids. He tells his friends and family it will never be again and if he dates anyone again it will not be anyone who had kids but tells me when he does date again that it would be me. He jokes with me sometimes and flirts but says I should move on. He then seems hesitate when someone asked me out. Does he love and refuses to embrace it because family or has he realized he doesn’t love me at all
“You were right too about how much I coddled my children’s mother. The reality is that I was afraid of her. Just like when we were married I was always trying to keep her from getting mad at me. When I was depressed I had no spine for anything. That era is over as well. Now when she calls, I get the facts of who to pick up when and where, and that’s it.”
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You could text him on that day, wishing him all the best and a comforting text, which may help break the ice and ease on the emotions he may be feeling. See how it works out from there, and continue accordingly.
The “True Love or True Loser?” relationship test was developed by Dr Greg Mulhauser and Dr Joseph Carver. This quiz is not intended in any way as a third-party diagnostic tool for you to make a second-party diagnosis of personality disorder or other mental disorder in your partner.
Worldwide leaders in research and couples therapy, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have found that one of the most important characteristics of successful relationships is the quality of the friendship between partners.
A link to your quiz results report will be emailed to you immediately. This results report will include your score and a detailed breakdown of where you stand with your ex and what your next steps should be.
Its been 2 weeks ive started the no contact rule. I broke it once on Christmas day wishing her a merry Christmas. She didn’t reply ive left it alone. Just wondering how long untill i make contact with her again and ive make successful changes and avhieved my goals I’ve made.. just want to know how to approach and what to say to her.. Regards Theo Thanks.
After saying sorry and explaing what type of relationship I really want i have done about 2 week long NC as suggested. On Christmas day to my surprise I got a Christmas greeting and my ex initianated a short conversation and this morningI got good morning greeting as it was a habit before breakup and it seems my ex wants to come over. I am very happy but my consern is that: I dont wanna be a doormat in long term. So I plan to initiate a converstation about the situation: I want to give it a try to a serious relationship with him but I dont want to be with him at any cost. Do you think it is appropriate. I mean I am happy that he comes or sg but I dont want to be just used and abused. Taking into account our past story it can be an issue.
“Human experience has not yet devised anything,” Peter wrote on an early email, “that can shield us from the pain of a broken love, the pain of feeling thrown out of your own world and out into the cold. Same as being born: I huddled in a very cosy place that was my natural place to be, then all of a sudden I am ejected into a new and hostile place, one that’s not where I felt at home. And there is nothing the baby can do but scream and cry and feel terrible.”
Unfortunately, even if he does propose at this time, there isn’t much you can do about it since they are together now and it’s his given right. You’ll just have to have faith that your relationship did mean something to her and she would have the logical sense to say no.
If I had it my way we wouldn’t have broken up in the first place and would have instead tried to work through the issues but up until now every decision has been made for me which has been incredibly hard.
Several studies found that men are quicker to feel they’re in love than women. One survey found that most men know if it’s love after just 1 date, the rest know within 3. Women, on the other hand, wait at least a month before making up their minds. Men, too, are usually the first to say “I love you.”
Some people say that time heals all…or if not all, at least calms folks down so that they have a shot of enjoying pleasant interactions again. If you’ve been apart only two weeks, it might be a good idea to relax and rejuvenate for a while before you try to reconnect.
Afterwards I texted him again: it was an analysis about our problems objectively. It was not read for 2 days. I expected it wont be read never ever. But then yes: it was displayed as read. Maybe it is crazy but I want him back. I want to take it seriously and wanna work on it and on myself but only if he wants to work on it too with me.
And then he jumped into another relationship 6 days later after we broke up. But I didn’t know until I changed my mind gave up the work oppotunity and back from oversea. I was pretty upset and stop talking to him. Nearly two months later, he messaged me asked me how have I been and we had a short personal conversation. And then he contacted me pretty much every month while he still in the new relationship. I stalked his instagram and noticed he broke up with his new girlfriend at the beginning of September but I didn’t react to it.Two weeks later, his band annouced they have a gig soon. I wanted to go but I couldn’t decide go or not. A few days later he messaged me again , we had a short conversation and I asked him can I go to the gig or not. he said yes. Two days before the gig he messaged me said he could send me home after the gig although it was late but I rejected. I end up stayed at his house. I have feelings for him again so I messaged him for hungout again two weeks later and we spend the whole weekend together.
Over the past two months, I’ve made a lot of personal strides and feel better about myself and not nearly as sad as I once was. I still have moments where I break down because I truly loved the girl, and the breakup came out of nowhere. Jan. 30 is fast approaching, and that marks two years since we first met (I’m currently a senior in college, she’s a junior). February marks a lot of what would be two-year anniversaries and I know it’s going to be a tough month. I’ve received a lot of advice, had multiple deep conversations with my support group, but I truly want my ex back (different from needing her). How should I go about reaching out to her, as I was planning on it around the end of January. (I wrote her a handwritten letter at the end of September and the day after my birthday she sent me an email telling me she wanted to quit contact. I’ve had one outburst since then Halloween weekend.)
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As far as etiquette goes, the one who does the asking should do they paying, Lizzie Post of the Emily Post Institute says. Stay smooth by working out who pays ahead of time rather than waiting for the bill to arrive.
my boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago. although it was a break up, he also said he just wants time and space to think about things and he would consider getting back together if major things changed, but he’s not sure if that’s possible. we had a really great relationship full of respect and trust, we just started to argue more and more and i think we need some time apart for him to realize the problems can be fixed and are not worth throwing out an amazing relationship over. we’re both in college and on winter break, so i’m planning on reaching out when we both get back. i’m in the middle of no contact, but should i text him on christmas or new years? does this sound like a relationship that can be fixed?
The quiz is based on relationship science, using a series of questions to identify various factors that have been proven to influence the likelihood of getting back together with an ex. A mathematical algorithm analyzes your answers and calculates your odds of repairing your relationship.
Hi! Thank you for reply. Few days ago we had short conversation,he said again that he cant effort marriage and etc. I asked him directly without any rudeness,did you found someone else? He said ” no, I dont have GF and i dont want. Then I asked him I am not yours anymore? And he said ” I dont know its complicated and dont want discuss this topic again” He always do it, keep silence and when Im asking broke up or what?? He always cant tell exactly, sometimes I even think better if he will tell me YES we broke up, I will suffer but anyway I will let go to everything and will try to focus on my life, but I will never break up with him first, and its not about I can or cant, its because I will regret then all my life, dont want remorse later. I dont understand his logic, I know he has money issues now and job not good, but also his silence and ignoring annoying me! And when Im asking does he want to break up and I will not bother him , he just replying dont know …
It’s been a little over three months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve completed no contact, given her space , never begged or been pushy did the right moves based on advice given on here and other places. She’s still will barely talk to me (we work together) and will barely reply to text messages. Back in September I purchased a Christmas gift for her and even though we broke up I still sent it to her on Friday. She replied thank you for the gift. You didn’t need to. Merry Christmas! Attached to the gift was a clean slate letter. She made no mention of it. I told her she was welcome for the gift. I asked her if she was going to be up for talking soon to clear the air. She never replied back. She isn’t seeing anyone, nor did we have a bad breakup. Since the breakup I have found out that she is mad at me about something I said but I don’t know what I said or who I said it to and she won’t tell me. We’ve had some positive interactions as of late at work, but she’s got a wall so high up now. Where do I go from here? Three months, no contact completed, clean slate letter given, space given, showed activity on social media sites as well and not much recoconcilation has occurred. What can I do? Or is it time to accept the fact that I’m not going to get her back?
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Hello, this is very sad, but you’ll be making a huge mistake by asking him to get back with you, if I were you, I would ignore him as long as possible, make him miss me and then, when he comes begging, I’ll give him a hard time at first to know my true value for him. Don’t rush things, he’ll go bored of you quickly!
I am concerned that he might got scared or started to keep distance because in the last 2 conversation I started to try to build up attraction. As he knows all my lady charm tricks, I think he figured out what I am trying to do… I feel the need of a break, so I have decided to give myself 2 weeks of free time, as I don’t want to end up again desperate and needy, and I feel like these 2 weeks would be enough time for him to finish the exams and to get used again to the school life.
Ouch, I know this one must definitely sting to hear but it is a legitimate REAL reason for why he may have broken up with you. This is a common complaint among men who are dating someone who let themselves go a little bit in the relationship. You may have to put in some extra work here but trust me when I say that your physical appearance is easier to improve than your personality so don’t let his thoughts get to you.
So, the big take away that I want you to get from this section is that your ultimate goal assuming this process works for you is that you are discarding your old relationship and creating a new one that is stronger.
One additional thought. You might want to check out my post on infusing your interactions with positivity. It’s not just moths that are drawn to light. See http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201207/10-ways-radiate-positivity-and-be-attractive. Maximize the positives in your interactions, delete the negatives like criticism or irritated emotions, and the odds will be likely to shift in your favor.
Carrie Cole, M.Ed., LPC, master certified trainer and director of research at the Gottman Institute, tells Cosmopolitan.com that a couple’s mutual well-being is rooted in trust, shared goals and interests, an ability to have fun together, and a willingness to address differences of opinion gently.
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