If it’s a true emergency, you can respond – but keep the conversation centered around the emergency and nothing else. No personal questions, no relationship questions, nothing about either of your lives. Stay focused on only the emergency that he contacted you about.
At the very least, you’ll be so booked up with first dates at wine bars and coffee shops that you’ll hardly have any free time to sit at home and cry to John Legend songs while you think about your ex.
Hi I been with my ex for 4 years I caught him cheating but forgive him but it’s so hard to not see him or move on bc we have two boys together. I want him so bad but his talking to this other chick and she would send me video of them kissing and all that bs. Then try to come to my house to sleep with me or cuddle with me. I feel like his using me but he keeps saying he loves me so much. He just want me to feel the pain I cause him bc I was still friend with my ex and hang out with him wen nothing happens bc we been friend since we was 9 years old. So I want him back badly but idk what to do bc I kicked him out the house. I have to see him everyday bc he comes pick the kids. What should I do
Thank you.. now i guess u can analyse my story more.. I Know U can help me because guys can never forget their girl & his was true love for me Inspite right of him blocked with all feelings for me.. ? ?
My boyfriend broke with me 2 weeks ago after a years. Said he had issues he needed to work on and focus on his kids and work. One week after not texting he finally did asking if we could talk. He told me he loved me and hated he was hurting me. I told him I thought our relationship was worth it and would give him time. Since then he has been out of town for work and has text and face timed me non stop. He actuallycalled me last night to ask if I had talked to any guys since he broke up with me. I want him back , what do I do
We were about to get married, I was getting the stone shaped for the ring, then she broke up with me. I’m not sure what exactly the reason is, because there are many. I’m a jealous person, and I will not apologize for being one, her attitude has always pushed me to say unnecessary things, like another guy hugs/kisses her and so on, I’m pretty sure that most men are like me, I am not OK with my women sharing her body with another even if she thinks it’s innocent. Few days before we breakup, she went on a trip with her sister and friends and there was a guy with his gf Who used to live with her sister and her sister’s husband, that guy has crossed the line many times, I always warned her about him and she felt upset when I talked like that about him and always defended him and justified his actions. Eventually, he started going in the hot tub while she was their with his gf and he sat next to her!!!!. He joined them and started touching her while knows that she’s shy. I got mad at my fiancee and said unnecessary things. It made her so mad and she went in her room in the hotel and cried, then he followed her and saw her crying and hugged her. Then, she vented with him and he told her to breakup with me and she did!!!!!!!! This stranger we barely know did this to me!!! I’ve done so many stupid things to change her mind, even I was so close to hurt myself, you know. Anyways, we stopped talking for couple days then she contacted me while she was in the hot tub with her sister, him, his gf. But, all the sudden she freaked out because he touched her Va****… And yet, she justified for him and said it was an accident. I tried to act cool about it but I was burning inside. Now she doesn’t wanna get back at all and admits that she has some feelings, yet, still saying it’s impossible to get back together and it is over… I really don’t know what to do, we broke up more than 2 weeks ago and we both are miserable. I followed your EBP tips and started no contact but she kept contacting and I fail and talk to her. I’m writing this long comment after I did what I think is a huge mistake, I sent her “I love you” and a kiss emoji on whatsapp. I guess she saw it and pretending like she didn’t. I see nothing in this god damn planet but being together again and continue our beautiful dream. I can’t move on, can’t stop thinking, I failed to fulfill the EBP requirements, should I start over?? WHAT SHOULD I DO??!!!
I wish that I had your knack for being able to remain in touch and on good terms with exs. It is incredibly hurtful to me when an ex goes “no contact” after we have been close emotionally and physically. It feels very punishing to me, and I don’t know what I could be doing to make sure that if things end, they end kindly and with better understanding. Advice warmly invited!!
“When I found out my ex of two and a half years was cheating on me, I was completely done with him, but it took me a while to get over the betrayal. I could hear myself annoying my friends and even the new guys I was seeing by talking about it all the time. In the year after our breakup, I dated more people than I ever had, which put more distance between me and that sucky dude. Plus, after realizing that everyone was sick of hearing me talk about my ex, I made it a goal to not bring it up and forget about it. It worked!” —Ashley O.
Hi Lumos1225, Mahirap yang set-up nyo na open relationship. Kasi pag sinabi nating open relationship talagang wala kang assurance kasi hindi naman kayo exclusive. It is not fair to you kasi you have feelings for her. In an open relationship kasi, dapat di ka masyadong ma-attach sa tao kasi ikaw ang matatalo eh. In my opinion, kelangan mo tlgang pilitin ang sarili mo na magmove on. Wag mong ikulong ang sarili mo sa kanya kasi you have the freedom to do what you want. pero wag kang magexpect. Yan ang number one rule ng open relationship. No attachments, no assumptions, no expectations, no exclusivity and no conflict.
I just to ask i need my boy friend back he is very nice actully he loves me a lot but i dont know why he left me alone i want him back at any cost cause my life means nothing without him he is my best friend i dont have any friend i had very bad past but he expect me as i am loves me like a baby care like a parent hold me like god he is my everything actully were living near a place but now am far from that place so when i start living in far place i did not get that much to talk that much so our missunderstanding are becoming more and more day by day one he said i m furstred with u and dont want to talk to u i said ok really l will not call you then at night i was very much anger and use abuse word to him that was why he is not talking to me please help me i am stupid mad u can any thing but i want him back i love him very much i really need him please help please
You and your boyfriend just split up and you are hurting. You might be tempted to dive into the carton of ice cream in your freezer, or you could find yourself clicking on his Facebook or Twitter feeds. You need healthy ways of moving past this breakup so you can put yourself into a new and happier place. Hovering over his social network sites won’t help — it’ll make your eventual recovery harder.
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Be there to support him. No matter how much the break-up hurt you, you can make a powerful impression on your guy by putting past feelings aside at critical moments and stepping up as a supportive friend. But also make him realize that support is more limited now that he’s just a friend. Try to be the one to end phone conversations, for example. Let him fondly recall the times when he enjoyed your limitless support.
It is possible you may want to know from where this panic comes from. In simple words, I can explain when you get immediate loss of control it triggers panic. When you are in relationship you smile, enjoy and argue with your ex boyfriend because you know you can control your relationship but when breakup occurs you lost control and enters into world of unknown feelings that trigger panic. This make you dunk dial to your ex and say everything that only make things worst.
It sounds like a man only wants a woman who never feels anything other than shiny happy perfect. She can never be anxious, worried, upset, hurt, pessimistic, negative, angry etc because it’s simply too much for a guy to deal with. A robot lady with no soul will do just fine. Great advice guys.
“At first it was difficult because I was so crushed by the break-up,” Erin says. “Eventually, I knew I had to quit torturing and ‘testing’ myself to see how I was doing. I blocked my ex on Facebook, made a separate file in my computer for old photos of us, put reminders of him in a box under my bed and deleted his number from my phone. I didn’t have the heart to throw all my memories away but I needed it all out of sight to help my heart heal.”
Going for lunch or coffee date is a great idea to restart your relationship. Make sure you don’t spend too much time talking about things that don’t make sense. Keep enough distance to make your ex comfortable with you. Spend around thirty to sixty minutes in your first ‘FIXIT’ date.
hi kelvin, I broke with my boyfriend before six months after long relationship means five years he is 27 and am 28. we live in distant to work and only met to holiday and to break.we had no any sex history during those years I said to him sex must be after marriage and he said ok .before a year I said to him i don’t want him anymore but not from my bottom but the reason was we were in distant specially I was working in harsh environment plus and community and i was always want him in my side means I was always waiting my boyfriend to visit me but he was always busy this was the reason. and his friend call me and ask why i became like this and i understood my fault and I was calling to him but he was ignoring me and one day he was picking my calls and we were talk and regret each other and i back to my family to searching job and within two months we dated only two days but I need more date with him but he was busy and I was going to his work place and asking him why ignoring my calls and he said that he need clear cut I said why and we’re plan to date and to talk about it but we didn’t met. As he said now he was waiting my calls first but I was trying but he ignoring me after that I always messaged to him but no respond and again I was going to his work place with gifts he was surprised and dated to the next day and we did and I was asking why he was ignoring my calls he said he don’t want me any more he need freedom without stress and expose him self new hobbies like smoking cigarette ,drunk alcohol and chewing stimulate plants and i did no contact to 30 days and i did text to him no respond and what can I do next
Shoot for about 10 minutes and then end the conversation with him. The goal is to be upbeat, positive, and give the impression that you’re fine, everything in your life is good, and you’re feeling happy. Showing bitterness or resentment is only going to drive him further away from you.
This quick video shows how one simple trick can change the way he currently sees you. Learn how to reverse your ex boyfriend’s negative thinking and get him to see you the way he did before, back when everything was magical and he couldn’t wait to be with you. Don’t miss this one!
Did you know people in successful relationships spend 5 hours or more each week talking? It’s common for breakups to happen because of issues with communication. And once the breakup occurs, communication may come to a complete halt.
WOW I don’t “KNOW” you…But I really like you! ?You are HILARIOUS and REAL and it’s clear that you’ve truly been “there” before by the things that you say. It’s like your taking these feelings and thoughts straight from MY mind and typing them out. I LOVE what you stand for (and what you don’t stand for). Well my question is in the last paragraph from what’s above, when you say something like : after getting your ex back he will eventually SHOW you (if we took your advice about showing we’re not putting up with the bs) that the break-up was a good thing.- Are you saying you feel they’ll still be the same way they were BEFORE the breakup (a f*cktard?) or they will possibly have changed for the better due to us setting those “what’s not acceptable” boundaries? And do you always feel that they would ONLY want you back due to a wanting to be in control thing not ever because they actually love you? Just wondering
You need to show discipline and give him some space so he can take in everything. Even if he’s hitting you up, show a bit of self control before responding to his texts. Right now is not about convincing him to come back to you, it’s about him making the decision on his own to want to be with you again.
Each piece of this guide is written from a male perspective, with no pulled punches and brutal honesty as to how a man thinks, acts, and feels. The stark truth of some articles may actually hurt a little, but it’ll also be of invaluable help in understanding exactly how you can nudge and influence your ex-boyfriend’s thoughts or feelings in the direction of wanting you back.
Be Very Nice To Him And His New Girlfriend- If you are on good terms with your ex or you have tested the waters via text messages and gotten a positive response be very wary about trashing his new girlfriend. It may be tempting but however strong that temptation is you are going to have to avoid it.
In regards to #3 above, sleeping with my ex-booty call only reminded me I wasn’t over my ex-booty call (I’ve told you before how I managed to care about him more than I should have over the year and a half we were together).
Those who’s love is relatively intact, will love and once that connection is made, it cannot break. While those who have experienced a great deal of developmental fear at the hands of their first emotional attachment are dominated by fear. Love can never truly be allowed dominance and no true attachment will ever be possible while that fear is allowed to rule, for love itself is perceived as a threat by fear and it is blocked from ever growing.
I broke into tears when I read your words…I am struggling with this myself, I feel I gave all my love to him and I have no more to give and don’t want to give anyone else it even though I want to want to be able to as otherwise I could be alone forever.
If you notice that he doesn’t want to reestablish the relationship, don’t force it. You can’t make someone love you, or care about you by force. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be. By forcing it, you can only push him further from you.