That hasn’t proven true so far, which may be because, generally speaking, exes staying friends isn’t that strange of a concept for queer women. As a writer named Phoenix wrote for Autostraddle in 2012, plenty of gay women break up, spend some time apart, and then later rekindle their friendship. This is how it goes:

Although texting and talking over the computer is a common way to communicate in an established relationship, intimate discussions like this should be held in person. Invite your ex over for dinner or head out to your favorite coffee shop.

I have this vision that one day your ex runs into you at a coffee shop. You give her a charming smile and wave at her. She gives you a smile back and waves at you and then you do the inevitable, you talk.

In between she was drunk and called me up she said she loves me alot but didnt want to patch up again she started dating another guy spending lots of tym with him. Tgey are frok same office also stay near to eachotha but now she is back home I dont know how to get her back I am missing her alot. Plz try to give me some suggestion thanks

…category B here contains the exact opposite behaviors of Category A. In Category A, those behaviors are try hard (too hard). But here in B, these are the behaviors of a guy who hasn’t given enough, so the girl doesn’t consider this guy as having long-term potential either.

I will txt or call you not as a couple. Like a friendship. and she told me ‘ok’. Since that day… I have felt like living in the hell. Only crying. No eating. No work out. My recent life is full of missing her.

Before you approach your ex-girlfriend and convince her to go back to you, spend time doing some soul searching. This is important in ensuring that you won’t waste your energy and time on a relationship that will still fail.

There are also millions of women abusers and millions men victims that suffer in silence. So this post was great until the discriminative last sentence about million of abused women. Many man just dont speak about terrible repeated abuses, because man must be strong , man has to stand up…man men resist, hold on and bear abuses while women are very prone to scream and ask help at first one.

It is vital that you understand who controlled the breakup and why it happened in the first place. If it was you, and your ex was against breaking up, getting back together might be easier than if it was initiated by your ex in the first place.

The fact is, if your ex starts dating someone else soon after a breakup, then it’s definitely a rebound relationship. And rebound relationships never last. In fact, it just means that after you broke up, your ex had a huge hole in their life that they are trying to fill with someone new. In many cases, they rush into it too soon and things get too serious really fast. There is nothing to worry about as the faster it moves, the faster it will end.

Hey,my long distance boyfriend just broke up with me after an ugly fight. He is working and I am a final year student. He thinks that I am not serious about my career and so instead of being with him, I should focus on that. But I am not able to get over him. I am working pretty well in my career but he doesn’t understand. Also, he always comes up with an excuse of not having time as he is busy with his office stuff. But as I said, I love him a lot. I am going to his city next week for an interview. Please suggest me if I should meet him and fix things or not.

You are going to call him with the intention of only going out for a small get together. The key here is to be non threatening. Your ex boyfriend might not be as receptive to meeting you somewhere extravagant and out of his way.

Talking about old/new relationships takes all the tact you have inside of you and texting removes all possible tact. Don’t get in to relationship talk, please don’t do it, I think it’s a bad idea, I’m warning you right now, really I have your back on this one. Don’t do it.

If your boyfriend was physically, emotionally, or verbally abusive in any way, you should not try to get back together with him. It’s perfectly normal for you to miss him even if it was an unhealthy relationship, but it’s important to remind yourself that you can do better.

Note also that therapy is virtually always more potent if the couple goes together for some of the sessions. Paulette, after initial reluctance, decided to schedule sessions with Peter’s therapist as well.  They sometimes saw the therapist separately, and sometimes together which helped them to recognize and rectify the problematic patterns in their prior interactions.  When both partners participate in a process of growth, the odds zoom up that the outcome will be positive for both of them.