Honestly, this is tough for me to give advice on. You were faithful but he was not. I would say think very carefully if this person is worth getting in a relationship with again. Personally, cheating to me is a big no no and I don’t think I could forgive that so easily. But hey, that’s me.
If you have the patience and emotionally capacity, I would suggest waiting it out and staying with friends with him first and see if their relationship lasts. If not, it would be a better idea cutting him out completely since it’s only fair to yourself.
A huge misconception out there is that because you did the dumping it is a lot easier to get back with your ex. This is completely NOT TRUE. Trust me, your going to have to do a lot of work, perhaps more than the women who were dumped.
The higher the percentage score on a scale of 10% to 100% of your quiz results, the higher the chance that the situation is good for your ex to come back to you or if you can get your ex back. If your score seems low, that does NOT mean that it is impossible for your ex to come back or for you to get your ex back. I’ve seen situations that seemed impossible lead to an ex sending a text or reaching out in another way and the two of them getting back together. Setting up a coaching call with me will, to say the least, maximize your chances of getting your ex back. With the emotional state that you are in, it is next to impossible for you to think rationally or logically and that is why it is important to involve a neutral third party. If that third party is an experienced expert like me, you’re helping yourself get your ex back.
“I can see now,” Peter explained to her, “that in my depression about work I became totally self-centered. I withdrew from you, so no wonder you felt angry and distanced from me. As both of us withdrew from each other we lost our sexual connection. I felt desparate for attention. Then I took the ultimate wrong turn by seeking sexual attention from an infidelity. Big mistake! I’m so glad that now I’m looking for a job that will be a better fit for me. I think I’ve found one, and I’m thrilled at the prospect.”
Alright, so the biggest thing I want you to focus on for the no contact period is the fact that you are using this month to become the best version of yourself that you have ever been. There is a 100% chance, especially if you are ignoring him, that your ex is going to check up on you during this period and instead of sulking around feeling sorry for yourself he is going to see a strong, sexy, fun-having woman!
I talked on the phone to her last night, and she said this me we cant be together, you don’t handle situations well, and at times I am like a child. And that she has chosen the new guy, as he was excused to break up with me, then move into it as or just after we break up. She also said to me that why keep trying and pulling back to you, can you give up.
the next day she uploads a picture we took of her and said thanx bae for picking out my dress. I asked her who she was calling bae, and she said a friend of hers , he calls her bae but they are just friends.
I’ve been with my children’s father for 7 years. I broke up with him 4 months ago because he is not doing what he need to do for his children and for me. I’ve spoke to him about these issues tons of times and he still did not try to fix anything. He claims he loves us but he is not showing us. We don’t go out ,he don’t come visit the kids or even ask to take them. When he has free time he don’t bother to let me know so he can spend time with us. I feel like for your family theres always time, your kids come first and he doesnt understand that. At this point I felt worthless, weak and I’m beyond hurt because at least give your children your time. I’m doing everything that I can for my children and I try to stay strong because of them. I love him and want him to realize he have something good and it seems like he doesn’t care. Even though I broke up with him,I still want him, he’s the only guy I want in my life and I know he can be better because he wasn’t this person that he is now. idk who he is, but he’s not the guy that I fell in love with. I try so hard to move on though. I’ve even ignored his texts, have not came around, even acted like idc just so he knows how it would feel to lose his family and it didn’t work at all. I feel it’s hard to move on because I have children with him,but I just need to find a way to move on. Any suggestions?
Peter’s young wife Paulette had said to him, “That’s it. You’ve betrayed my trust one time too many. You are far too nice when you talk on the phone to the mother of your daughter, and by contrast you show no love toward me. All you do with me is avoid me or get mad. I’ve had it. Please, leave the house.”
You are right that you may not be able to use the good memories from your past relationship in rebuilding attraction with him. But that is only a small part of the plan. The biggest thing that attracts an ex back is the changes you make in yourself. If you can show him that you have truly changed and are a new person after you have finished no contact, you can definitely attract him back. Read this article for more info on what to do after no contact.