Don’t discount his hurt and his concerns and issues. Too often we just dismiss what our significant other says as being not the way things are, not reality. But every thought and especially every emotion has a basis and a personal truth. To him these things are worth addressing and are bothersome and if you truly love him you should be ready to listen, process and react to what he says when he is coming from an emotionally open and honest place. It’s hard for anyone to speak from those personal places and every effort should be commended as such.

If you can’t trust her right now, and there are major issues with the relationship, even chasing her and getting her back now would yield the same result as the previous time (in August). If you get back together with her, ideally you want the relationship to be better than before, not the same or what’s the point? THIS is why you should leave it alone for now and disregard whatever your instincts are telling you because it isn’t the way to win her back or sustain a lasting relationship. Work on your issues first and complete NC, then win her back with the changed you.

No matter how miserable you are, you absolutely have to get out of the house. If you stay inside, with all those memories and all those reminders, you’ll only make yourself feel worse. Even if you feel like crawling in bed for yet another week…don’t.

Don’t blame him for the breakup. Acceptance is the key to peace of mind and moving on. When you blame, you will never get out of the self-destructive cycles and patterns that hold you back. Have faith that everything will be fine eventually. When the universe throws you a lemon, turn it into lemonade. 

He told his best friend’s girlfriend i smothered him which I was never home I worked, ran errands alone watched t.v alone at times and hung out with friend’s. He told his sister we bickered and that’s why…now I know I need to step away from his family, but I was told by his sister he is content, he misses me and is sad ,but he is OK with being alone. He just doesn’t want to be responsible for someone else right now…he told his sister not to tell him if I find anyone and he “says” he doesn’t want to date anyone for a while…all he has is his sister really his dad really just works and stays in his room.

You do not need to find out right away, and you definitely should not send friends to do your investigative work for you. Do not pursue your ex for at least a month after the breakup; instead, look for subtle hints when you run into him or her at school or work, social media posts, or comments that your mutual friends make unsolicited.

My ex broke up with me in Febuary this year while I was at overseas. We were together for 8 months. I was planned to work at overseas for 6 months from January. we didn’t talk much during that period of time because I know he work really hard and long hours( at least 8 hours a day sometimes 12 hours),I texted him every 2 days or 3 days and he barely replied. He broke up with me said because of a lack of common interest and culture crash. we were in a really long distance relationship.

Words and perception are important. As an example, this plan can give you a word by word line which will make your ex jump up and down with curiosity for you. Your ex will desperately desire to speak to you again even if they were avoiding you until now.  And so much more…..

Go ahead and press the block button right now. Come on, give it a try. You’ll suddenly feel a whole lot lighter in your gut when you find yourself with the urge to spend 30 minutes stalking every single person who liked your ex’s latest post-breakup gym selfie and you remember you can’t.

And I don’t care what road kill he starts hanging out with. Do not for any reason whatsoever appear to be jealous, hateful or spiteful. Any chick he turns to is a non-entity in your life. Do not deliberately run into him, but if you happen to see him, be cool. Be sweet as pie and busy enough to cut the convo, asap.

You’ll never win your ex back while his opinion of you is negative. Only by turning things around and putting yourself back in a positive light will he finally see you as someone he wants to be with again.

He doesn’t want a relationship with me, and I don’t either at this point in my life. We are both young adults and have never been alone until now, so we both want to experience things without thinking about a person in the back of our minds.