I do still have strong feelings for him and there are so many things that I want to tell him. But you said the best thing is to keep things light and emotion-free. He mentions in his email that he misses my friendship and wants to be friends. What exactly does he mean by that? And should I stay friend with him even though I want him back? I have already composed a reply to send to him which i based off of the magic letter guidelines:
A lot of times guys will point to one blow up conversation that ended things. They got in a big fight. They said some stupid things. If only they had chosen their words differently, they’d still be together with this girl.
Girls cling to feelings a lot longer than men do, and your ex’s emotional ties to you are still very strong. The problem right now is that your girlfriend is trying to bury her feelings for you rather than actually face them.
Why? Because women despise needy guys. They will not be pressured, persuaded, tricked, or manipulated into getting back into a relationship. What they’re looking for is a man who understands their innermost desires — they’re desperate to be understood on that level.
Show him that you are fine without him. It will be clear to him that you aren’t an obsessed ex girlfriend, but it will also show him that you’re having fun without him, which may result in him missing you more.
That said, you really need to examine your own emotions before making the final decision of winning your ex-girlfriend. Find out if you truly love her and if your happiness will only become genuine if she is with you.
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Hi my name is Jade I am a guy and I dated a girl for 6 months I know it’s kinda short but I still fell in love with her and she’s still in love with me. She found a rebound guy and he is nothing like her. It’s really scary but I try to just let her do what she wants and make cute little remarks like you look fantastic today to her and things like that. But she is starting to like this guy and keeps telling me that she feels like she has to pick between us. I don’t really think that this is the right thing to do but I sit around and hope she comes back even though I doubt it will happen, she still tells me she loves me and talks to me very often. She even gave ma a kiss the other day and then walked away. I’m confused. Does she really truly want me back or is she trying to play games with my head.
The ULTIMATE goal here is to have sex with your ex again. You should be having sex with your ex girlfriend as soon as possible. In order for you to get to that point, you really need to know how to FLIRT with your ex girlfriend. Again, if you really want to learn how to flirt with your ex, head on over to my website http://www.breakupbrad.com/
Now, before I really dive in I want to make something clear. If you have committed any of the “sins” I am about here this doesn’t mean that you have no chance of getting her back. It just means you have a little extra work ahead of you.
Take things slow, and don’t pressure her to get back together if she isn’t ready. Work on your issues and prove to her that you can be the man she wants you to be and things would probably work itself out from there.
Basically, by not “pushing” at all for a month they have no reason to keep “pulling back.” In fact, by not being around them at all the gap that was created by all the pushing and pulling that happened in the past may start to close.
This might mean dedicating yourself to the gym, signing up for a martial art, enrolling in an improv comedy class, playing a musical instrument at an open mic night. It might mean completing the 21 day no complaint challenge or even quitting your job and starting a business you love. In addition to honing your social skills, I recommend doing at least one thing in all these areas
Ok, I just added this section in from my own personal experiences from dating girls. One of the things I enjoy most is when they are the ones to text me first afterwards. I love it when they text me something like:
It’s obvious that if you’re going to see through this breakup you need all the help you can get. You need an insider with a clear perspective on your situation to take you by the hand and spoon-feed you the information to guide you through this.
Hi thanks for the great advice! Also it’s hard with the NC rule due to we work together. Just today I talked with her for the first time in 4 days only because I have to at work. Although I said hello and merry Christmas, it was still strictly only work related . She was very dry with me even though it was only work related.
I researched a lot on this section and discovered there are two types of very different methods to making this important phone call. The first method is the “I was in the neighborhood” and the second is the “week in advance.” I don’t have any bias towards either method so I leave the choice on which one to use entirely up to you.
Once you finish writing, now you should find a private and quiet place where no one can disturb you. Start reading each reason one by one and feel each emotion that comes to you. Don’t feel ashamed by reading these reasons. These are the reasons that making you angry and this doesn’t make you a bad person.