He won’t notice the hole that you left in his life unless you let him. So if you’re still in contact with him, he won’t get lonely. If you’re still having sex with him, he won’t miss the sex and companionship. If you’re still emotionally engaging with him, he won’t miss the love and satisfaction of being with you.
Not even 6mos later I got pregnant. He was STILL treating me like shit. I told him an stated “we gotta do something here. We need to really get it together..” of coarse he replied “ok”… 4wks later. I left him again. He had done something just terrible. Out of pure spite. Oh it hurt. I went to see shrinks for almost a year in the mean time. Went through alot. I was pregnant an emotional. He treated me like shit the whole time. Just angry. Finally the baby was born. He never left my side. When she was 4mos old. We moved in together along w/my other daughter. This time I was so fresh an a year of counseling an womens groups. Religously!! Every week.. I just knew itd work. Uuh, no. Mr Douche got back on his ass hole box. So I asked again. Can we plsssssssss work on this. Can I help you w/ur issues. Nope, nope, nope.. He’d agree to get help to get me to shut up. I left after 5mos in this house. Lived together for another 7mos. Same bed. No sex. Yet he an I are stubborn as an ox. That bedtime was when we seem to be peaceful. So confused of everything. But no one is exchanging feelings. I feel he wont care an he never expresses his feelings. But it just felt right. Every night was nice. I loved it. But HATED how he treated me otherwise.
If you think this is one of those times then you are in the right place. This guide is all about getting that one last chance to make things right. This guide will give you the knowledge that you need to get your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend back and keep them. If your relationship still doesn’t work, then you can rest assured that this relationship wasn’t meant to be. But if it works, you will be glad that you took the time to read these 3 steps.
While you do not want to change who you are in order to get your ex back (because eventually they would leave again, since the real you has to return at some point), it is always helpful to be the best you can be. Your ex was attracted to you and you can try to regain that attraction.
This is one of the worst things you can do – because all that does is signal to him that he’s in control and that you’re not going anywhere – which means there’s no reason for him to get back together with you.
Hi Ryan, dude where are you? I really need your help. I’m really trying to not a mistake here man. It’s been maybe half a month since the NC.. it’s been working like a charm.. couples days ago my ex sees me at work and days I looked good and like I’ve changed..also that I was happy. She text me that same day saying how much she missed my presence in her life, how she missed her best friend. I didn’t respond and then she text me a photo saying remember the good times.. also said she was going thru her phone deleting pics of us and didn’t know which to keep. I then replied I miss you too. We started chatting back in forth and remembering all the good things. She texted me all night. Then the next day says she loves me and misses.. I tell her too. We talked a lot about how much we loved one another. Don’t know if that was a right move ..yesterday she sends me a message at work that was a song. “Baby while were young , let’s do what we want, I want you, you’re mine and I don’t care who’s know it, I’m down for you” just a few things she sent me! I’m confused because after work I waited to talk with her but she ran out quickly and I’m sure when went to meet up with someone else. She didn’t go home last night. She also didn’t text me anymore.. so confusing what’s going on.. not sure what to do or expect! Please help dude! I really want her back and I can’t tell if I messed up the NC rule. She definitely has been seeing someone else lately. Please write me back soon.. she wants to me up tonight to go eat. Don’t know if I should go
When you first start no contact, you are going to grieve a lot. You are going to feel all the emotions that people going through grief feel. You will feel denial, anger, depression, confusion and obsession.
So my ex texted me last night & we’ve been broken up for about 4 days now, I didn’t send him any messages like I usually do while he’s at work & today he asked me if I needed a ride to school (probably making up excuses to talk to me or see me bc he rarely ever took me to school while we were together) & I replied back & we were talking for a while but since it’s flooded right now around the Phoenix area in Arizona i told him I can’t go to school & now he isn’t talking to me. Did I mess up my chances by replying back to him ?
You have to realize that after a breakup, you are bound to experience a plethora of emotions. You will be obsessing over your ex; you will be angry, sad, resentful, guilty, and sometimes even in disbelief.
And so I got ready while he was checking his email on the computer, pretending that I was going out and he ask if I’m going some where and I said yes. And then I tease him a bit about his hair since he havnt. After that he said I looked happy and I said I am, that stuff got shift these pass weeks. And when he came out the gate walking on the road he said it again that I looked happy and I said I am. And so since he doesn’t have FB I texted him suggesting he get a fb account and add me, personally it would have been good if he saw some stuff I posted. Anyway he respond and said ”U look happy and like u trying to take care of yourself that’s good. And no thanks i don’t like fb. I forgot to ask does my friend mother still have that place for rent?” “I hate being by the apartment feel like a kid there. i just need a place and some time to myself to let out my rage and sadness the way i want I’ve been holding back since they in the house all the time ” I did something stupid, so my cousin and been searching net and she found something called the Second chance letter and so I wrote one and gave him when he came to pick up some of his clothing. I wrote it just as explained, saw a sample and did it that way, In the beginning I put that I accepted the break up and then apologize that I didn’t showed that I appreciated him and then the part stating that good things been happening and someday would like to tell him about it but right now we both still needing space. The next day in the morning, he texted and said he read it and doesn’t mind sitting down and talking someday. Then in the night he sent a text asking me if he can ask me something and I said okay sure. “Why do u want me back? What is it about me that u love so much? and he feels like he wasn’t doesn’t his best as a partner as well. I respond to him that it would be best to talk in person about it when he is ready and then I g…
Nor did she admit any mistakes. Nor did she take time to ‘find herself’. She has not been single since the age of 15 (had relationship from 15-17, 17-22, 22-25 with me, and now with someone else). I feel so blinded that this girl can jump so quickly after being with me for 2.5 years and hinting at an engagement ring 4 months prior to our breakup.