But you must not sacrifice who you are or put your decisions in her hands. You must not give up all you are in order to get your ex-girlfriend back because she would be getting back a shell of a man who doesn’t even interest her anymore.

One more thing I am actually living at her aunty’s house whereas she’s leaving in our old house as she didn’t wanted to move in with her aunty. Do I need to move out of that house to let things work or I can still get things worked by living in that house.

If you’re out in a big group, let her see you talking to other girls — just enough to make her a little bit jealous. Just don’t overdo it! You don’t want her to think that you’ve completely moved on.

Aside from the many tips already mentioned in this book, it is also crucial for you to apologize. Do a deep reflection and analysis on your contribution to the failed relationship before you meet up with her for the serious and deep talk. Avoid blaming her.

If you do succeed in getting back together, don’t dwell on past wrongs or spend time blaming each other for what went wrong. Instead, focus on discussing what each of you needs from the relationship and discuss how to help each other get it. Focus on what you want moving forward rather than on what you did or didn’t do in the past. For example, you might explain, “I felt like you got annoyed with me when I went out with my friends, and I think it might have been because I didn’t let you know about my plans far enough in advance. Is that right?” Then suggest ways of resolving the problem going forward, like agreeing to give at least 5 hours notice before going out on weeknights, etc.

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You see, getting your ex-girlfriend back is clearly a matter of knowing what she wants… and giving it to her. Now here’s where things gets messy: most men don’t have a clue what that is. What’s worse is that most women don’t either… and the one’s that do — simply won’t tell you. They’d rather eat dirt than hand over the combination to their hearts.

If you’ve been searching about breakups and getting your ex back online, you’d know that there is a thing called no contact rule. It’s simple and very effective. All you have to do is stop all the communication with your ex for a short period of time. This includes

But this book — aside from being based on my personal experiences — is also based on the experiences of over 1,200 other men. Because after it’s initial release I personally consulted with more than a twelve-hundred readers. Then I updated the course to include every possible breakup situation (and it’s solution) imaginable.

So I have been following every step and it is an amazing feeling… I’ve never felt less at war with myself blaming myself that she left. It’s been months and I find myself thinking of her little and little. And start thinking of finding my happiness not within another woman but something I enjoy. And I have been attending University for psychology and I’ve met this girl that is the girl I’m looking for. And as faith would have it, she was looking for me ? I thank you so much for changing not only the way I make myself feel but everything around me!

(Side Note: The system I have outlined on this page will work for teenagers in high school, married couples, people who haven’t seen each other in six months or two years and people who just got out of a long distance relationship. Basically, I am saying this system is universal!)

I’ve been around the block more than a few times myself, and I’ve noticed that when I’m in a relationship, other people seem more drawn to me, compared to when I’m feeling lonely and sad. I always think I’m doing my best to be friendly, but people can instinctively tell the difference, even if they don’t realize what it is.