It is always necessary to look fresh because your girlfriend will have to impress with your look after such a long time. I am not saying you have to completely change yourself for a woman. However, having new clothes will give you fresh look and boost your self-confidence as well.
After your isolation period of no contact, which typically lasts about 29 days (during the peak of your ex’s loneliness), you will then be able to contact your ex. However, you simply can’t text or call your ex and ask her to hang out. You have to look non-threatening. Meaning, you can’t give them the slightest indication that you actually want to get back together with her.
I dated my girlfriend for 8yrs. We broke up one year ago but kept trying to get back together. She just officially dumped me a couple of weeks ago. Her reasons were that I took too long to change my ways and that she didn’t know what she wanted right now. I still keep trying to show her that I love her more than anything. All she does all day long is work and go to college classes. I feel that there is still a small chance that it will work between us. Our past fights were always about my job, I was insensitive, too much partying, not paying attention to her needs and that she wanted me to better myself. Her birthday is coming up and I bought her a gift. Is that bad? I don’t know what I should do. I really need some help. I love this girl and I don’t want almost nine years to go down the toilet. I did change my ways by the way. I’m also applying for a good job. Hopefully I get it. We lived together and now I live with my sister for the time being. So I say again what advise do u give me.
Avoid using the word “but.” “I am sorry, but…” means “I am not sorry.” Also, do not say “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry if you were offended.” This makes it seem like you are blaming the other person, and is not a real apology.
Look, I’m not asking you to commit to anything. All I ask is that you hear me out. If after going through this course you decide it can’t help you repair your relationship, I’ll give you your money back… ALL OF IT, no questions asked. And you get to keep everything just for giving this a shot.
Me and my ex were together for 4 and a half months. She mentioned a while ago when a guy messaged her that they had a thing before me and her but she assured me that it was the past. Apparently not. She broke up with me because I don’t have a job and I’m apparently lazy. I smoke cigarettes and weed and I am forcing myself to quit these things and I feel like its the only chance of getting her back. Ive also been looking suuuper hard.for a job, but it isnt easy when youre17. This guy that she had a thing with before us is now going all out to try and snatch her up. She broke up with me a week ago and I got information from her friend that she has already gone out on 2 dates with him… that hit me like a train. As soon as I heard that I bursted into tears. She seems like the type to come back after a while but im just not sure because she mentioned that she just doesnt feel the same way about me as she did before, the “butterflies” are missing. I will do anything in my power to get her back because what i dont think she realises is that I am the one who actually cares about her and loves her and this other guy just wants sex. I am way too attatched to this girl and she has such a huge part of my heart and its killing me that she left me so suddenly. 🙁 I REALLY need your help…
Women are attracted to men who they perceive to be at least a little higher than them in the social food chain (read: superior men). Another way of putting this is, women are attracted to men who have a higher Dating Market Value (DMV).
Focus on work- It is good to distract your mind for a while and what better way to do that than with work. Careful though, you don’t want to be one of those career first women and lose sight of your goal. Remember, focusing on work in this particular case should be used to take your mind of your ex boyfriend.
Now, I do want to mention that I don’t recommend you lead on anyone you take on a date. If your heart is with your ex girlfriend don’t be an idiot and get involved with someone new. Not only are you going to hurt your ex girlfriend by moving on so fast but you are going to hurt the new girl you date because your heart really isn’t with her.
It is important to don’t think this meet up as your date with your ex girlfriend. You only have to meet with your ex girlfriend to see where things are going. Don’t put pressure on her to commit with you.
Read the signs. If your ex wants to get back with you, you’ll know. How did you know that he wanted you the first time? It’s likely that he’ll be sending similar signals your way. If he flirts with you, tells you that you look nice, lightly touches you, or just always asks what you’re up to or if you’re seeing anyone else, then yeah, he probably wants you back.
For example, if your ex girlfriend breaks up with you then that means the “love life” aspect of your life has just taken a hit. Maybe after this happens you decide that you don’t have the drive to work hard at work anymore (wealth.) You also become very depressed and in this state of depression you pack on a few pounds (health.)
It’s been a little over three months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve completed no contact, given her space , never begged or been pushy did the right moves based on advice given on here and other places. She’s still will barely talk to me and will barely reply to text messages. Back in September I purchased a Christmas gift for her and even though we broke up I still sent it to her. She replied thank you for the gift. You didn’t need to. Merry Christmas. Attached to the gift was a clean slate letter. She made no mention of it. I told her she was welcome for the gift. I asked her if she was going to be up for talking soon to clear the air. She never replied back. She isn’t seeing anyone, nor did we have a bad breakup. Since the breakup I have found out that she is mad at me about something I said but I don’t know what I said or who I said it to and she won’t tell me. We’ve had some positive interactions as of late at work, but she’s got a wall so high up now. Where do I go from here? Three months, no contact completed, clean slate letter given, space given, showed activity on social media sites as well and not much recoconcilation has occurred. What can I do? Or is it time to accept the fact that I’m not going to get her back?
Honestly, it is hard to think of any disadvantages when using text messages. Texts are sacred, meaning that people rarely share them with anyone. Basically texting is super intimate. You can share cute pictures and do all sorts of really fun things. Not to mention it is impossible to raise your voice over a text message. However, I would say the biggest advantage to text messaging would be the fact that you can take your time and think everything through. This is something that calling on the phone won’t allow you.
Alright, so the biggest thing I want you to focus on for the no contact period is the fact that you are using this month to become the best version of yourself that you have ever been. There is a 100% chance, especially if you are ignoring him, that your ex is going to check up on you during this period and instead of sulking around feeling sorry for yourself he is going to see a strong, sexy, fun-having woman!
Seriously?? That’s actually what I was kinda thinking!my girlfriend left me last November and i really want her back still!!she blocked me on facebook not long ago it couldn’t of been but maybe a few days if that!until I noticed I wasn’t blocked anymore!i only message her about once every week or two!i can see that she reads them but I never get a reply!i just know that I was messing up a lot…not cheating but…anyways I also finally started a very good new job I hope this will help?
Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.
I was with my ex for 9 years off and on. We broke up a lot. I was immature. Shes older. She told me I was her soul mate. I felt the same but couldnt show it. I would text her amazing words but when she would see me I couldnt back thenlm up or say them in person. I was depressed and lacked confidence. She finally had enough and told me she was done and I should move on. She has blocked me to and called me a stalker once or twice. Ive never even drove by her house or wrote her a letter. We were together 9 years! How can she call me a stalker? Because I love her and am trying to show her? Well, I realized in the last 3 months that I didnt appreciate her when I had the chance and I hurt her. I never gave her time or space enough to heal and so she took it. Now I dont think she has forgiven me for not giving her that space. I dont know. Fact is bro that women are capable of pure evil when they are hurt by the man they truly loved. When they stop talking all together its because they killed that amazing love they once cherished.
I’m definitely NOT saying you should have been looking to have a kid with her recently – not at all. I’m just saying that the relationship should have been very gradually progressing into more and more serious territory. Women need to notice this kind of progress because it shows them that eventually the relationship could lead to them delivering what nature intended – kids.
Only once, about 40 days in did we text for more than 5 minutes. She told me our relationship never had the “depth” she was looking for and she had found someone else that supports her in ways I didn’t. She said she was sorry for dragging me along when she really knew she didn’t want me anymore for a little bit of time.
Quick Note: If you’re serious about getting your ex back, then I would highly recommend you watch this video to the end. Although the tips below work, this video has advanced techniques that a friend of mine developed which apparently work like CRAZY.
The thing I want to point out here is that you don’t need to be Brad Pitt to get your ex girlfriend back. I was walking around the mall the other day and I happened to see one of the most beautiful women there walking with a total dork.
This is the part where most people screw up. No contact will be of no use unless you try to make a positive change in your life during this time. If you just want to stay at home and just be miserable for the next one month, things are not going to change even after no contact period. Yes, you need to grieve after a breakup and yes, there’s some benefit in spending some time alone, grieving and analyzing your relationship. But at some point, you have to go out there and do something with your life.
MY REPLY: “I don’t believe that your mum questioned you about going on a holiday with me at all. I recall you being very excited that we were going together. Now you’re implying that you were never in love with me and that your love for me needed convincing. If you weren’t in love with me, you would have never made me that Valentines Day Collage with photos of us with so much love put into it!!! I love that collage you gave me so much and it meant so much to me and it still does!!! I never tried to convince you of anything other than that I love you with all my heart and soul more than anything, and that I want to spend the rest of my life with you!!! If you love me, then don’t leave me baby!!! You can’t recall telling me that you want to spend the rest of your life with me, yet you wrote it in one of my birthday cards (Take a look at the picture I’ve sent, your words clear as anything), and have said it to me more than a few times ever since. Especially when I have told you that I want to spend the rest of my life with you and you said that you do too!!! So how could it be foreign to you.
What to say to her when she calls you — what you should talk about and which subject you should avoid like the plague (not only that, but you’ll discover the exact attitude that plays a HUGE role in winning her back). This is a crucial make-or-break strategy.
#14 Don’t beg if she doesn’t want you back. If you then ask them to get back together with you and they say no, don’t beg. Whatever you do, don’t beg. You tried and you ended up becoming a better person out of it, but if she doesn’t want to get back together with you, leave it.
A lot of times this can be happening but you won’t have any clue. Men aren’t the best communicators especially when it comes to breaking bad news. The last thing they want is to hurt you so they will just break up with you and give you some general reason. Luckily again this can be addressed!
The ULTIMATE goal here is to have sex with your ex again. You should be having sex with your ex girlfriend as soon as possible. In order for you to get to that point, you really need to know how to FLIRT with your ex girlfriend. Again, if you really want to learn how to flirt with your ex, head on over to my website http://www.breakupbrad.com/
Prioritize yourself – This is the perfect time to prioritize yourself. Start hanging out with your friends once again. Focus on your career or do some extra-curricular activities, particularly those that you have been longing to do. Never appear too needy. Make your ex miss you more and do the things that you have once only dreamed of doing. This is the key to regaining back your self-worth and sense of self, allowing you to recover fast and find out whether you still really love her.
According to research, the number one cause of the breakup of romantic relationships is failure to communicate. If your relationship was otherwise happy, this problem can often be fixed by setting clear expectations and openly discussing frustrations before things explode in a big fight. Other issues can be harder to overcome, like infidelity or jealousy; but with work and counseling, even these types of issues are possible to work through.
Winning an ex girlfriend back is all about projecting this “alpha male” type of persona. Well, nothing kills that persona more than a guy who constantly texts and leaves himself too available for a woman.