Finally, it’s important to minimize the amount of time with your ex. In particular, try to avoid is doing attachment-related things together, which is anything where emotions run particularly high or low. You’ve had a crappy day and need to vent? Don’t call your ex. Something amazing just happened and you can’t wait to share it with someone? Don’t call your ex! Try to find other people who can fill that space in your life instead, and it will really help you to move on emotionally.

1) Because he does suffer from a bit of clinical depression and I’m the only one he’s talked to about with without dismissing it, I’m the only one he really feels confortable with talking to about it. I hate the idea of letting him try to struggle through this on his own.

So it’s been a couple months since the last time I wrote on here. The good news is that I’m succeeding with becoming the Ungettable Girl and… well my friend Linda (who is also friends with my ex) gave my ex my phone number (he never had it before as we were just long distance friends) last month without telling me and he texted me around midnight “hey. This is *Paul”

My bf broke up with me 1 week and a day ago and I miss him a lot and idk if he still loves me because last year he LOVED me we dated an entire summer then he broke up with me and I want to know why but we never even talk at ALL any more I need help with this problem give me some advice pls

I met a guy whilst on holiday in Egypt. He seemed really lovely and we saw each other every day and eventually went to his flat ad stayed there at night with him so we were spending 24 hours a day together. Hr said he loves me and wants to marry me I didn’t take it too serious but then I found I had called for him. On my last day he gave me his number and Facebook. When I got back to England I looked at his Facebook it was all women tourists which he has commented on their wall my love habibi and sending hearts to them. The two profiles I could see were a year ago these comments were made but I would not have gone there at all of I had of seen this to start with. He also had one for Arab friends. I went to finish it because I am 43 and he is 26 and I can’t be doing with the drama of Facebook. He never added me but said he would delete his facebooks it took him a couple of weeks but he did it. I said messenger as well because of all these women he had contact with. He said he would and he did. We have spoken everyday and night then hr started no messaging me at night his cousin told me he takes women out shopping at night for money so when he wasn’t messaging me he was doing that and he was saying no women. I made a fake profile of a woman who was gorgeous and he added her on messenger before he deleted it.It came to a massive argument he said I was jealous etc and he said he wanted to finish it. I did a terrible thing and emailed his work and told them he was taking women outside the hotel (they aren’t supposed to) and he got fired. When I got a response from the hotel they said this isn’t the first or last time it will happen that’s why he got fired. We still were speaker he was still telling me he loved me and messaging me but he was sad about loosing his job and I feel so guilty I just got sick of the lies (if they are lies) I was to meet his family and then we were planning to get married. I forgave him for all that because I know I can be jealous. I don’t know if it because I wouldn’t act like this when I have a boyfriend. Anyway a week ago he sent me a message saying I will need forgive you for loosing my job no work etc. Although I had sent money equilvilent to his monthly salary that he lost and said I would do it every month till he gets a job because his family rely on HIM for money. We had a n arguement he blocked me off wats app downloaded messenger again. I downloaded viber a day later and said I loved him he said he loved me and missed me and hr wasnt going to delete messenger although he says he wants this to speak to his family he has gone to see his family so I wander is he speaking to the women he had on Facebook? He hadn’t initially told his mom about me sending and email to his work bit has now told her she says I am bad and he isn’t to marry me he said loves me still I said I will leave him till he has got rid off messenger. He said OK I love you and that was three days ago. I read this article and feel better but I do miss him but do wander is it worth all the bother with this silly apps x

Before you should do something to win the heart of your ex-boyfriend, you need to spend time and exert some effort towards improving yourself. Make sure that you build your confidence and self-esteem, too.

So, her estimation is that if a relationship lasted 6 months it would take 6 months to get over it. I am not sure I agree with this formula. Lets take a couple who dated for 8 years. You are telling me that for the next 8 years after that relationship ended the girl wouldn’t date anyone? She wouldn’t be ready? EIGHT YEARS REALLY?

The main thing is to try not to reminisce too much on previous times, for this could make the breakup a lot more difficult. Instead, visit friends or family who can help you forget until you can completely forget about him all on your own. Life is much more than boys, it’s about you and your happiness.

We didn’t make rules or set a time period. He needed his attention for work and I moved back in with my parents to get my life together in January. We still met up sometimes to do something fun or romantic untill the end of February. At some point I started to have some doubts about some girls working on his projects. He said it was nothing and just my negativity playing tricks on me. A couple of days later I received some screenshots of a friend he was begging to have a one night stand with. I was broken. When I texted him he was distant and blaming it on being busy with his projects. After two weeks I waited at our house and confronted him about the screenshots. His facebook page was open on his computer and I saw conversations with dozend of girls, any girls, just copy/paste sweet messages to get their attention. He said he liked the fake attention and didn’t care about them, just wanted to use them and that was his reason why he acted that way to them instead of me. Still claimen I needed to take my time to heal and telling me how busy he was, how much pressure was on him etc. Etc.

.. That Just Shook Me Like I Was Half Dead… But Then I asked Him That If Career Is The Reason.. This Is Not A Valid Reason For A Break Up.. But I Understood What It Was.. It Was The Things I Reminded Him Of Past & That Made Him Upset But Due To His Job He Didnt Replied Me Much On My Msgs about the past.. So Right Now He Is Totally Out Of My World, Love For ame & etc.. but my main prob is also that one of my friend when i was crying Took his no. From my cellphone and messaged him about why was he firm fr the break up and why didnt he think of me.. so here my friend didnt know a single bit of our story ..(still dnt knw) .. she just msged a long lecture kind of paragraph to make him realise how much i loved him.. and she also wrote that a guy shouldnt play game or shouldnt use a girl like this..  just a relationship of 3 months is not done.. so he is now upset with me for this thing that y my friend said so when nothing such happened between us.. as it was long distanced.. and thus.. since then arguments ended.. and now i am in the ‘no contact’ with him right now.. 

I may start an internship at the grocery store that our mutual friend owns and it is a close to Starbucks where he works. I had to text him about it as he may get confused if we will meet up more often. Texting went well..really well.  I kept it neutral. We ended up texting 15 or more messages both. He was lovely himself like he was a few months ago. He said as soon as he has time, we can go for a coffee. I was really surprise him saying that. I am going to visit at that grocery store on Saturday and told about it. He said I should stop by at Starbucks and he’ll make me a latte. I am so confused but I am taking it slowly. I tried to end texting at high point twice but he kept texting and asking questions. On the 3rd time I got to end it.

Sara you’ve hit the nail on the head! I too am going through the process in an almost identical way. There was no hate, no wrongdoing, just apparent fear on her part. I respect and appreciate her choice to bow out before moving in with one another and attempting to move forward but the pain is there all the same. How do you get over someone who loves you so dearly as you do them? I’ve never doubted her love and she’s never doubted mine. I never knew myself to be such a hopeless romantic until meeting her (she has been by first relationship and we met when I was 28!). Yet, I cannot stop hoping for a happy ending. I believe the sentence that hit me hardest in this passage was having to realize that “love is not enough.”