The best, most effective way to let go of negative emotions is to point blank accept the fact that the relationship is over. It’s not something to pine over, something to hope for, something to obsess over – it’s gone.

Q: I had an amazing relationship with someone who actually lived far away. It was a long distance relationship but it really seemed to work. We would hook up at least once every month or two and everytime was amazing. Other than that we would communicate constantly through the week.

Up to now the steps will have re-established the attraction with your ex-GF. At this point you’ve got to make her want to go exclusive with you again. And while that may SOUND like the most difficult part, it’s actually by far the easiest.

One guy I spoke to tried to get his ex-girlfriend back by talking to her about all the wonderful times they’d had together. After a breakup, it’s all too easy to just rant and rave and focus on what went wrong (and how unfairly you feel you’ve been treated). This just reinforces in your ex’s mind why the breakup had to happen. Re-evoking the good times might well do the opposite.

Hi, my ex broke up with me a while ago. We went full no contact for about 8 weeks and then he finally texted me to catch up. We talked for about a month, hooked up a couple times, and he was treating/talking to me as if we were a couple. I want to get back together. So I’ve told him I still have feelings for him and eventually want to get back together. I know he still has feelings for me but he says he doesn’t know what he wants (We’re also doing long distance so this is a big reason of why he doesn’t know). I told him a week ago I can’t be just friends anymore so I went into no contact again. Was this the right move? I want him to realize he does want to get back together and be more that friends. Should I have just stayed friends and waited? Or was it smart to go no contact again!!

What we prone is a philosophy, one that pushes you to challenge your preconceived beliefs about your relationship and to find the right balance in order to enable love to flourish; and sometimes it requires you to shift the balance of power in your favor in order to get your ex back!

“If I just keep in touch with her; everything will go back to normal. If I don’t let her forget me; she will realize how much she loves me and wants to be with me. I just need to stay in touch with her.”

I talked on the phone to her last night, and she said this me we cant be together, you don’t handle situations well, and at times I am like a child. And that she has chosen the new guy, as he was excused to break up with me, then move into it as or just after we break up. She also said to me that why keep trying and pulling back to you, can you give up.

Once you finish writing, now you should find a private and quiet place where no one can disturb you. Start reading each reason one by one and feel each emotion that comes to you. Don’t feel ashamed by reading these reasons. These are the reasons that making you angry and this doesn’t make you a bad person.

You may find that you’re simply looking for any solution to the pain you feel right now. Or you could truly believe that you and your ex are right for each other. You need to distinguish between whether you’re missing your ex or the feeling of being in a relationship, and that all comes from understanding yourself.

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This tactic is a little like flirting. The key to compliments are to work them in during your conversation over text. Knowing when to slip them in will depend on your gut feeling and the context of the conversation you are having. Here is a good example of a great compliment:

Get in shape- There is no argument that you can make to me to say that this isn’t a good idea. This is especially true if (no offense) you are a little overweight. However, even if you are a workout fanatic don’t let your breakup change that side of you.

Open, honest communication. For so many people, “to communicate” means to speak and to explain a viewpoint in an attempt to share something important. That’s partially correct. But to ensure things are discussed in a productive way, and to avoid miscommunication that can lead to future resentment and problems, listening is far more important than speaking.

2. I didn’t know about the other guy. Even if I felt infuriated in my mind that she chose to withhold this from me for over a month eventhough it’s clear now she knew him before the breakup, if she would have told me then at that day at the restaurant I would have never pursued her and little by little changed her perspective about me. She now truly believes I love her although she’s not convinced I’ve changed or can change and chose to stick with the other guy.

That sucks. You don’t have to move back to where you’re from. But you must learn to live your life without her. You should do no contact until you learn to live without her. And contact her when you are ready.

This is the part where most people screw up. No contact will be of no use unless you try to make a positive change in your life during this time. If you just want to stay at home and just be miserable for the next one month, things are not going to change even after no contact period. Yes, you need to grieve after a breakup and yes, there’s some benefit in spending some time alone, grieving and analyzing your relationship. But at some point, you have to go out there and do something with your life.

In addition, giving in to him and giving him everything he wants shows him desperation. It makes your vibe desperate, which turns him off consciously and unconsciously and ruins your chances with him.

Lean on family and friends. Break ups can be very difficult emotionally and mentally, so it is important that you reach out and lean on your support systems. Contact your family and close friends, and explain the situation to them. Try to find someone close to you that you can talk to and that you know is a good listener. Often, it is helpful to verbalize your feelings of anger, pain, hurt, or shame to a sympathetic listener.[3]

If that’s you, you need to understand that your priority during no contact is to heal and become a better version of yourself. If you try to play this game of social media jealousy with her, you will lose.

Since you already told him that you will be there for him, then you can reply to him when he contacts you. However, if him contacting you is slowing your progress, then you will have to eventually tell him to give you some time and space.

In such situations, you have to keep your contact with your ex-girlfriend at very minimum. If you are living together, make sure you spend a lot of time with your friends. However, don’t bring any woman into the house to make your ex girlfriend jealous. Your ex-girlfriend will also bring a new guy at home, and it will hurt you only.

Newsfeeds will be full of picture perfect couples – getting engaged, flashing new jewelry, bouquets of flowers, etc. And I think it’s great that these men and women get to bask in the romantic glow of their partner’s loving attention on this special day.

I am completely devastated, hurt, lost and just want her back. I love her completely. We had a few discussions before she left about trying to work things out, and she felt I took her for granted…I had stopped treating her with appreciation and love. I agreed that I have to be more romantic and be an equal partner in the relationship. Over the course of the following days I showed her love and appreciation, treated her like I had done in the past however she still wanted out. She said she needed time and space to figure out what she wants. I told her I would not give up on us but I would give her space that she wanted. She said she still loved me and care a lot about me but was just hurting. [otp_overlay]