Me and my ex fiance were together for 2 years and we recently broke up about 3 weeks ago. Idk what to do to get her back, I tried telling her how much I missed her and love her but she doesn’t want to talk to me when. I’ve bought her flowers and gifts and left them at her doorstep, I freak out because she’s seeing other guys. When we were together she might have cheated on me early in the relationship which I found hard to get over so there were trust issues, and she also said she stopped loving me because I didn’t move by her instead of the 30 minutes that I lived from her since she wouldn’t move out of her grandpa’s house. Does this mean I should up and move down there? She wanted to be friends but I couldn’t do it, is this a good thing? I just now talked her into adding me back on Facebook as a friend and convinced her to unblock my number, does this mean I should try to talk to her as a friend then work my way back in? She says she wants to talk to me but doesn’t want to see me anymore, would it be bad just to talk for awhile then try to get her to hang out with me? There was always some issues and stuff. Does this mean I should stop smoking for her even though it’s over? I don’t think she’s seeing anyone right now, any advise would be nice.
Hey I need help! So me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. I tried to get her back at first but stopped after I saw it wasn’t working. I just started the no contact phase and am giving her time it’s been 3 days no contact. I’m fine with the no contact but here’s the tricky part, shes getting surgery Tuesday(4 days from now) and is really nervous. When we were together I was a jerk and didn’t make a big deal about it and it hurt her. So now what Idk is should I text her the night before and say something about it like goodluck don’t be nervo use it’ll be okay, just good luck or nothing at all? Help please!!
Men usually attract with the physical beauty of the women but women usually attract with traits. Some traits attract them and some traits repel them. Initially, your attractive traits bring your girlfriend closer to you but as relationship progress you start showing some unattractive traits that push her far from you.
Notice how I didn’t specify if this friend was a male or female. You just planted a seed of doubt in your ex boyfriends head and now he is going to wonder if you saw a romantic movie with a friend or with a date.
Another way is to travel. Yes, that’s good for the enjoyment and letting go off your worries as well as the understanding the women. Different women personalities are found around the globe. Try to learn their body language, there energy level and their eye contact. It is very important part of a relationship to think of these 3 points since you only get into real act with the understanding of body movement.
You will need to begin by sorting your thoughts out. Even if there’s a chance, some distance is first required before re-initiating contact with your ex. Distance does not mean time frame of the breakup but rather, the amount of contact made during the particular time frame, and the changes you’ve made to impress her. Right now, she needs to deal with the emotional trauma of losing a child. She is pushing you away probably because you are unable to provide the emotional support she requires, and by constantly pestering her, you lower your own chances because she will eventually lose respect and feelings for you. I would still recommend no contact first, and to figure out where you need to grow as a person, before thinking about winning her back.
It is natural to feel scared about going up to someone who has rejected you. You may be worried that he won’t talk to you, won’t be friendly and perhaps won’t answer any questions you may have. All of this is natural and normal. If you really want to approach him to ask him something, consider going with a friend you can rely on and perhaps having them doing some of the talking on your behalf. Choose somewhere neutral and calm, and have a good excuse to leave quickly if things seem too awkward for you, such as “Thanks for the quick chat, I have to get to an appointment now”. Most of all, realize that if you don’t get the answers or discussion you’d hoped for, that it’s not a reflection on you, as you’ve shown much courage, but is about your ex-boyfriend’s method of dealing with the situation in his own way and isn’t a slur on you.
You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.(Read more about having the right mindset after no contact is over)
The 5th Step is very important because you will get a PDF that contains a complete roadmap for getting your ex back. This roadmap will show you every step that will bring your ex in your life. However, it is important to don’t skip of any the step mentioned in this PDF.
I always take my bf back because of pity and feeling sorry for him. I’m not happy and I want to run as far as I can from him. I am not into him anymore. He disgusts me and anytime I want to go he follows me like a dog…he is too needy and I cannot stand him. I want to be with my ex so bad, he is all I need. Distance has separated us but I am back and back to fight for him but it’s hard to get him to leave his girlfriend he lives with. He says he wants to and he is not in love with her but he just cannot pack up and leave. Why can’t he?
So I have a problem with this girl that is sort of similar and I am wondering if anyone can help me. I met this girl 6 months ago. She had just broken up with her boyfriend who she had been dating for 3 years and was engaged to. We hit is off and started hanging out together and spent a good deal of time together. One night when I was drunk I ran into her and she took me back to her place where we hooked up, no sex though. Needles to say I woke up the next morning some what confused and it was a fairly awkward morning after. We parted ways after that and didn’t really spend much time together after that. However I decided to reignite several weeks later and it worked. We started hanging out a lot and I could tell that she really fell for me. However what she didn’t tell me was that she had gotten back together with her boyfriend. This proved to be difficult because when I started to push for us to get closer, more physical, perhaps be in a relationship ourselves, she told me she had a boyfriend and declined. All the while though, she was getting closer to me and we began to get physical. She started to call me her “boyfriend” and would get jealous if I “checked out” other girls. Eventually, SHE brought up sex while we hooking up one night, and I declined several times, telling her no, not while you have a boyfriend. One night she got really drunk (it was both my birthday and her anniversary with her boyfriend). She fought with him, told me she needed me, and other things of this nature. It was a terrible night, but eventually she left with him. The next day she came back to my place and we had sex. But following this, our semester ended and we haven’t seen each other in 2 months. At first she continued to be interested in me, trying to set up times to hang out, constantly telling me how much she missed me and such. But now she tries to tell me that she never had any feelings for me, that I pressured her to do things she didn’t want to. That she only wants to be friends, that she never wanted to date me and other bullshit. I know its all a lie, I think the distance we have right now is putting a strain on things because she can easily see her “boyfriend” but not me. I tried a variant of the Zebra boyfriend destroyer to bring up some of the emotions that she felt before, and I think it worked fairly well, but I still think that she is drifting away from me. I know its not really pick up to try and sustain a relationship, but I am wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to reignite those feelings again, to break away the walls she puts up, such as the “I only want to be friends” “I never really wanted to be in a relationship with you” and especially how she denies all the times when she absolutely wanted me. I also was wondering if anyone has any ideas of how to get rid of her boyfriend. He is a loser, and I know she has been reevaluating her relationship with him lately. My plan right now is to give her time to cool off, then when we get back to school and start seeing each other everyday to lay it on hard, tell her that Im not interested in being friends. I know she values me in her life, and I think presenting her with the very real possibility of losing me might do the trick. Im not sure if this is the best strategy though. Any tips at all would be appreciated, Im really drawing a blank as to what my next immediate move should be. thanks in advance for your help
When the woman I love broke up with me, my world fell apart. I had gone to several casters and I got no results or insufficient ones. I found help and gave another try to retrieve my lover and restore the passionate relationship I had with her. I’m so glad I did and trusted him. he performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies and cast a love spell. After 2days, the woman I missed dearly started to call me and told me few days ago that she still loves me and wants to try again. Thank you
I guess my question is during this NO-Contact rule, is it ok to meet up with her possibly next week and if so is a gift ok to give? Right now, I am so emotionally torn and I don’t know what to do. I’ve just bought your books and this is a time for me to continue to develop my maturity and really reflect on what I want in a relationship but I am scared that by not giving her space to herself as suggested by the NO-Contact Rule (14-30 days) that this is a bad decision to possible meet up with her next week.
Sometimes your girlfriend starts dating again before you can get her back. Rather than giving up however, there are ways of snapping her out of this rebound relationship and bringing her right back to you.
Somewhere out there is a winning combination of just the right moves and actions that will put your ex girlfriend back in your arms. Getting her back is all about finding this path and then following it.
Your best bet here is to take out a sheet of paper and write down all of the things that you have ever appreciated about your ex so you have an inventory to dive in. Oh, and don’t write down just general things. Be as specific as possible.
Now to deal with your girlfriend, it is important to understand the women nature as well. And it is important to note that women tend to have greater diversity in nature as compared to men. For example, one of the woman may be shy, the next one bold, the third one aggressive and the last one may even take your life. So inorder to understand that point start getting around different women. Not with the thinking of starting arelationship, but to have a greater understanding.
I went through a terrible break up with my boyfriend. But he told me it was because we could never be together and there was someone else. My friends tell me to move on, but he’s always on my mind. I’ll daydream (I never do) and I wont be able to stop until I’m distracted, then the pain comes back. I’m lost and confused; I feel lied to and betrayed. Is this how it always feels?
My girlfriend and I were together for a year and 2 months and she kept repeating, daily, that this is the best thing in her life, and we’re meant together. We are very close. I’ve personally never known a person I want to be with more than her, and she expressed the same in visits, writing letters, and texts. Around Christmas, while she was staying with her family (she lives in the adjacent country but we travel constantly to see each other), and after a small discussion about where she might get a job and where we would live together, she turned completely and said (on new year’s eve) she can’t do a relationship anymore, she wants to be alone, that she’s a toxic person to me (she isn’t), and never wants a relationship again, ever, with anyone. She did not explain the details why making such a heavy decision, she said she feels inadequate, and that I shouldn’t contact her any more if I want her to stay. I am very confused. Now it’s been twenty days since we last had any contact and it’s killing me, I miss her and I wish we could talk. I have no idea what to do.
Explain things to your mutual friends. They’ll have heard her side of the story by now, but that’s not terribly important. What matters is briefly explaining how you feel to the friends that you both share. Ask them to be careful about not inviting you over when your ex is there, and vice versa.
Texting, calling, emailing, or otherwise trying to insert yourself into her life soon after the breakup is not only irritating, it comes across as desperate. Nothing is more likely to persuade her the breakup was the right decision than your being clingy and immature by not backing off.
There are unique methods and techniques you can use to not only blast her back to the past, but to make your girlfriend come RUNNING back to you in an effort to recapture that magical time she once shared with you.
Note that most issues in a relationship do not just come up unexpectedly. They actually build up overtime. There is a chance that the problem is not just one-sided. Both of you played a role in the break-up. In fact, you will realize that there were actually signs that showed up before that the break-up was imminent.
Look at it like this, every relationship has problems, fights, and disagreements. But if you two broke up, then there was something very wrong with your relationship. You need to analyze what went wrong and realize whether or not it’s a good idea to get back together.
Examine how your values have shifted. Having gone through a breakup with one type of woman, you probably have a good idea of the things you didn’t like about her personality. This means you’re probably eying women who have a different personality in that regard, which in turn means that you’ve learned from your past – a sure sign of personal growth.
At this point, you might start wondering how no contact is going to effect your ex and what you should do about it. This section covers most of the doubts you may have regarding no contact. If you still need more information, read this article.
You could text him on that day, wishing him all the best and a comforting text, which may help break the ice and ease on the emotions he may be feeling. See how it works out from there, and continue accordingly.
And when I’m getting upset or anxiety driven moments how do you suggest channeling them so I don’t act out? Normally I’m mild tempered but with her I love her so much that emotion can take over and I don’t want to ruin my shot. She’s a Work in progress herself but I knew from the day I met her that I’d marry her one day. Through some tradegys that I faced this year I lost myself and her as well.
Hello, my ex girlfriend of just over two years just broke up with me over the phone a week ago, to me this was completely out of the blue, but she said she had been mulling it over for a month or so. Her explanation was a couple things. One was that she felt I deserved better than her because I was such an awesome person and that I put in 110% into the relationship and she did not. Which is not true because I could not ask for any more than what she was. The second was that she felt there was pressure to “put a ring on it” which is also not true. Not saying I wouldn’t like to spend the rest of life with her, just that it was definitely not time at all. After asking her the next day to meet up the following day because I believe there was things still left unsaid and that it should be done face to face, we both agreed we needed some time to get our emotions straight. She reached out to me a few days later asking to meet up the next day. Following that she backed out of meeting saying there was no point and that it was just dragging things out and that it was already over. So now the next day I sat up all night with these thoughts in my head, eventually I put them down in a text and sent it explaining that She never did anything wrong, that I know this wouldn’t change her mind but it was something I had to say, how our memories together will be with me forever and that I will always love her. She responded back with saying How hard this is for her too and she didn’t want to hurt me but she didn’t want to drag me along either, she still loves and cares for me, and she will always cherish our memories together as well. I have not contacted her since but this whole thing has just left me utterly confused and heartbroken. I feel like with just a little bit of communication things could have worked out just fine. That she really does have feelings for me, but because she thought less of herself that she didn’t deserve me. [otp_overlay]