My ex and i got back together a week ago. It was very rough. I didnt give him enough space and he said he didnt feel comfortable seeing me after i asked if i could. This was the second time i asked. The first was to just make ammends and be friends. And it was the hardest i could do but i knew id see him at an event we were both going to and i didnt want it to be awkward. He avoided me every which way at this event even purposefully walking away with his friends in front of me. Hurting me very much. I messaged him thay day explaining im sorry if i hurt you in anyway but when i said i want to be friends i didnt mean it its too hard and i still miss everything. After a week after this horrible event i messaged him to see me. Explaining i know i pushed you away but i would rly appreciate it. He replied saying sorry but we do not need a 3 part break up and last time i saw you i didnt hear you talking but your friend..im sorry i dnt feel comfortbale seeing you again. I then blew up his phone with messages saying im me im not my friend and i wrote a letter to him spilling my whole heart (he knows i write stuff out when i rly mean something) i just wanted to give him that letter and move on. I ended up going to his house announced that same day…:/..i know it was dumb. I had to just read it tho and move on. He opened the door i read it to him and he held my hand and let me in. We sat on his balcony for 6 hrs talking. He told me he isnt going to kick me out and he wants me to stay but that nothing is going to change. Later on we talked and talked and i told him i think its time for me to leave i got up but he pulled me to him and said he rly needs someone right now too. By some miracle he said we can make this work. We kissed and he said he has missed me so much and all these nice things…only to ask me to comeover 2 days later and break up with me..again. i was by then heartbroken. He said he messed up and isnt a good person that he was worried about me and he didnt know what to do and that i stressed him out. I said im sorry and couldnt move for a little. I cried a little having a near panic attack. He wouldnt even look at me. I left. Devastated. I wrote him a mean text saying you used me and dony ever do this to any girl u love ever again bye. Only regretting it after and 2 days later sending a message saying I do not beileve you used me…i know you loved me. I wish i wouldve said that i know you need to focus on yourself and your needs and same for me. I havent messaged him since. I didnt apologize i didnt blame but i didnt want my last word for him to think what i rly didnt mean. I know i am on and off and i promise i am not bipolar or a stalker…i was so hurt i let my emotions take over. I dnt expect him to reply. And i dnt want him too. I want to move on so badly…i am now now not contacting him. Period. I know i was alot too much and pushed him away even more…but will he ever…ever talk to me again?

Remember that no contact is ultimately meant for you to pick yourself up and to create a version of yourself that would make your ex fall for you again. Whether she starts to move on or not shouldn’t matter, because she’s moving on from the image and impression she had of you before the change. As long as the relationship with her was meaningful, there’s always a strong possibility of her falling for you again if you seemed to have made significant positive changes to yourself, which captures her attention.

Me and my ex broke up 2 years ago. We didn’t have any contact with each other until one of our close friends set us up to talk in person two months ago. He apologized, for in a way “hurting my feelings” when he dumped me but I didn’t respond. After it took him a month to actually talk to me since we’re both in our last year of high school. After that he’s always found a reason to talk to me and even asked our friend for my social media but I try to stay away because I still have feelings for him, but he has a girlfriend. I don’t want to break them up because he seems so happy and in love, and it’s all I ever wanted for him, as well as it being a stupid reason to try to break them up, it’s messed up. I missed him being back in my life, but I don’t know if I want to push him away again because of my feelings, aswell as I don’t want him to feel as if I hate him or something. I want him back I really do, but I don’t wanna ruin our friendship because we did agree to stay friends. What should I do?

I am in to helping women who want a lasting relationship with their boyfriends. This may sound goofy but I like those women who so strongly believe that they are going to be together with their exes for good that they are willing to try anything.

For instance, in the future when he was traveling for business and staying alone in hotels he would plan ahead what to do in the evenings: phone his wife, work on his computer, read, watch his favorite TV shows.  He would NOT go to the hotel bar. If he met people in the lobby, if the acquaintances were women he would speak with them briefly and then say goodbye.  He would go out to dinner only with men friends.  If women joined them, he would not engage in one-on-one conversations with them. Alcohol, private time with women plus loneliness and a disconnected relationship with his wife had been a dangerous combination for him. 

“I can see now,” Peter explained to her, “that in my depression about work I became totally self-centered. I withdrew from you, so no wonder you felt angry and distanced from me. As both of us withdrew from each other we lost our sexual connection.  I felt desparate for attention.  Then I took the ultimate wrong turn by seeking sexual attention from an infidelity. Big mistake!  I’m so glad that now I’m looking for a job that will be a better fit for me. I think I’ve found one, and I’m thrilled at the prospect.”  

He does not seem emotionally capable of dealing with serious issues and would rather avoid it altogether, hence why he leaves you in a state of limbo because he himself doesn’t want to deal with it. Sometimes in this case, it would be better for you to make the choice and stick with it because he may never do it on your behalf.

I have a big gigantic crush and he used to like me and then my BEST friend told everyone in my class that I have a crush on him and everyone told him and now he hates me… no body can replace him I have nothing to do!!! can any of you help???

Well, it seems that he himself seems reluctant to meet you right now for whatever reasons. It could very well be that it’s too soon still, and you should give him more time and let him initiate on a meeting up instead. You’ve tried a couple of times and have been met with rejection so I don’t advice trying any further or you might push him away. Just take it casually, continue to focus on yourself first, and don’t let these little rejections get you down.

He doesn’t want to talk much about the breakup or the reasons, he’s never been one to open up and share his feelings, but he says there’s no going back from what happened. Yet, when I ask him if he sees a possibility of us working out in the long term, he says yes. I can’t tell if he means that or is just saying it, but what should I do to get him back in the long term? I have already broken the rule of trying to convince him and have tried remaining in contact with him, but I am going to stop contacting him completely now.

Hey Ryan! So we have continued texting after the last time I told you about (the phone call where he said he felt pressured and another time to catch up since I was going away) I text him saying I was going away and he said have a lovely trip and take some piccies(photos). He said he had a nice Xmas but is a little sunburnt. I text him a photo a few days later while I was away and he replied in 1 minute saying omg that looks amazing where are u? I didn’t reply and he then sent me a message on 1st of January saying happy new year I replied later that day saying hey! Just watched a house of cards, reminded me of you, made me smile! He replied within 2 minutes saying 🙂 too hungover to physically smile but that’s a nice thought! I had a bad experience where someone tried to break in my house so I called him early that morning then I realised I shouldn’t have done that so I sent a text saying just an update I’m safe now, at my friends place. He then replied saying glad you’re safe, you are better off calling the police if you feel unsafe. Then later that day I text him saying I’m still feeling a bit shaken by it would you be up for a phone call, he replied saying sorry I don’t feel like talking in the phone at the moment but don’t let this dampen your new year, there are plenty of jerk guys in the world, just be you and love it! I replied saying I understand and did u have a good day he replied yeah, did a lot of furniture moving and sent me a photo of what he had changed in his room. After that it was his birthday so I sent a message saying happy birthday! He replied within the hour saying 🙂 thanks lady! I didn’t reply and have started no contact as I feel when i am a bit distant he replies instantly kind of thing. I was thinking to continue no contact until around the 16th of January which would mean I haven’t texted him since the 4th of January. In my text on the 16th of January I was planning to say if he’s free to catch up for a quick cuppa sometime this week? I don’t want to do the wrong thing since I have asked before, but he is a big introvert and he rarely ever asks anyone to catch-up even friends/family. They usually ask him. My only fear is that he has said yes he’d like to catch up but wants to find his own feet first, he said this in December though. What would u recommend?

Its 16 day today and im pretty sure he is still stalking on my blog. Its really driving me crazy. I wanna know what is he thinking and how he feels about me. I tried my best to stop the crave of contacting him i really donknow whats going on.

Say “cheese!” Both men and women judge possible dates on their teeth, according to a Match.com study. If they have a good smile, that’s more important than a lot of things. But speak properly, because grammar is also important. It ranks as a close second and just ahead of a great head of hair.

Having a plan gives you a sense of direction and removes all the confusion. A plan will give you something to look forward to when you are feeling down and unsure about yourself. A plan will give you hope. This article is that plan.

I ALSO HAD A BOYFIE THAT WE WERE NO LONGER SEEING EACH OTHER FOR 13 YEAR, BUT SUDDENLY I GOT HIS NUMBER TEX HIM BACK,HE RESONDED AFTER A WEEK TELLING ME THAT HE WAS BUSY, WE SPOKE AND HE PROMISED ME TO VISIT ONE DAY, HE TOLD ME THAT HE HAS A FAMILY, AND ASK ME DO I HAVE, BUT I TOLD HIM I DO HAVE BUT WE HAVE SOME HICCUPS. I CALL HIM AGAIN AND HE SAID HE WILL CALL ME BACK, HE DIDINT, AFTER A WEEK I CALLED HIM BACK THE PHONE WAS OFF. I NEED HIM IN MY LIFE AS MY BOYFRIEND

Prior to that though, ask yourself why she didn’t show respect, it probably has got to do with the way you acted around her. If you were too needy in the previous relationship with her, you invited her to walk all over you. If that was the case, you will have to work on your masculine qualities and remove the needy behavior and instead present her with a more confident version of yourself. You should have done this work on you during the NC period.

Broke up with your boyfriend? Wondering if he still has feelings for you? Wondering if you two should get back together? What are the chances that you two can salvage the relationship and is it worth it? Remember that no situation is impossible, I know from the loads of e-mails I receive that people are getting back together every day. This ex boyfriend quiz will help you figure out how he feels.

She got a feeling that I cheated or betrayed her. But I haven’t done anything wrong or insincere to her except hiding or telling lie. But that is most important to her but its normal to me. But I’m ready to change. My company is going thru a financial struggle and I need this relationship back to set right everything. I need her back at any cost for the rest of my life. We are meeting every day at the office and having normal and official communications directly and over the phone also. But she shows no intimacy to any of these communications and she told that she is not even thinking about me when I’m away. Need your sincere help and advice to her back.

Peter and Paulette have agreed that they need still more time before they make a final split-up or re-unite decision.  Paulette is wary of false hope.  She wants to be certain that she can trust that Peter’s changes will hold, and hers as well.