And How To Stop Your Wife From Leaving You
We all know that, statistically, marriage success is about 50%. What seems more surprising is that – despite all the bad rap men get – women are far more likely to ask for divorce than men!
Certainly society has changed and more women are able to provide for themselves such that they are not “trapped” in a marriage simply out of necessity. Yet why are women so willing to walk away from a marriage that was supposed to be a lifelong commitment? Chances are, the woman put more time into writing the wedding vows than the man did.
Why women leave marriage is the topic of much speculation, and a lot of it is just that – speculation. Certain issues, though, are known to be a catalyst for such an extreme act in one’s life.
Let’s discuss a few of the most common reasons women see as just cause to ask for divorce.
A Husband Caught Cheating
If you are a faithful husband who has not cheated on his wife then not only are congratulations in order, you are beating out many of your peers, but this is one cause for a woman to leave a marriage that should not be a concern for you.
On the contrary, if you have cheated, know that many women will try to work things out initially if they still love their husband but they do have trouble moving on past this. Forgetting an anniversary will probably always be remembered, you think she will forget she caught you cheating?
Fortunately, not all marriages end in divorce, and there can be many reasons why a man will cheat on his wife that have nothing to do with the affair person being more attractive than his wife – we discussed this back here.
When men find their wife cheating they are unhappy, for sure, but they often want to keep her all the more (maybe even just to prove they are BETTER than he is!). Women, though, see this as more of a betrayal and may not be able to overcome it.
Matters Of Money & Finance
Let no one tell you that the Bible calls money the root of all evil, that is simply untrue. The Bible calls the LOVE of money the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10).
Money and financial matters is, though, the number one cause of divorce and breakups worldwide.
Whether or not a woman has a job and contributes significantly to the finances of the marriage, women want security in their lives. It’s not always a matter of men not making enough money, but may very directly be related to how you spend and/or save money. What she might refer to as an investment, like jewelry for her (purchased at 100% – 200% markup to true value) might be seen as an extravagant expenditure to you.
Similarly, she might think a day at the spa every few weeks is “normal” because all of her friends do it whereas you might think that is a special treat, something you might even give her as a gift.
Over time, these differences of opinion become constant sources of irritation and eventually division.
Physical and Emotional Needs Not Met at Home
Women are not typically going outside of the marriage for sex because they are not getting enough at home, though that can be the case. The issue is more the emotional side of the equation that goes along with the physical aspect that women see men falling short on.
Not fully meeting these needs at home is a primary reason women cheat in the first place and one of the big contributing factors to a woman seeking divorce. Unfortunately men are often blindsided on this because women are not likely to tell you what those needs are and how to meet them.
Women think these needs should be as obvious to you as they are to her, even though – in groups – women will often deride the male gender for not having a clue. So she thinks you should somehow know what her needs are and is not only upset, but often even hurt, that you aren’t meeting them.
The key for you here is to find out what her needs are. Ask her if you must!
Then make sure you are meeting those needs at every opportunity to do so – and not just once in a while but constantly.
The Reality Of Married Life Does Not Live Up To Her Expectations
Men have have two strikes against them on this. During the courtship phase (or “dating”), you work hard to woo this woman to become your wife. You are always doing little things in an effort to get her attention and make her see you as the man she must have.
Once she’s your wife, you often stop aiming to please in many ways. She’s grown to expect those things from you and you’ve stopped delivering. Oh, this is not one-sided, though. This is the same level of disappointment you feel when she stops working so hard to stroke your ego. Real life usually comes in and all expectations of what married life “should” be get exposed for the sham that they were; often picked up from cheap novels or soap operas (where they always get divorced anyway…).
Understanding why women leave their marriage can help you take the necessary steps now – hopefully BEFORE it is too late – to prevent your wife from asking for a divorce.
Take action PROMPTLY so you can save your marriage, save the life you hoped for and keep the woman you love. If you fear it may already be too late, then perhaps you should continue on to here and watch the (free) video.