About four months ago, my current girlfriend found out that I had been to see my ex and we were on the verge of breaking up. I tried to put things right with her and it has been a very difficult and dark few months. She has forgiven me to an extent, but I still haven’t been able to let go of my ex.
Hence, why I don’t believe she’ll be coming back this time. My problem is, even though she displays signs of insecurity and can be down right nasty sometimes, deep down I love and miss her like she’s still a part of my life. I understand that I need to heal, for myself more than anything, and also, for the 1% chance that she may come back one day. I told her that I wouldn’t want to start where we left off, that relationship would be dead, and we would have to start again. The only way to do that is to get over the old relationship. I think it may take some time for her to do that, but I will not be waiting around for that to happen. She told me clearly that she was going to move on and I will be doing the same. I’ve actually started reading “you can heal your life” by Louise Hay which has been great for lifting my spirits, and loving myself again. Anyone feeling the effects of a relationship breakdown and the low self esteem should definitely invest in this book.
Because he was feeling so much better about himself with his new problem-solving and listening habits, Peter was able to talk with his wife in the playful and engaging mode that had attracted her when they had first met. Paulette was delightfully surprised. She appreciated his clarity about the mistaken roads he had taken. She liked his vision of the new Peter. She especially like the many ways that already he was acting in the new ways. She felt for the first time in years that Peter was actually seeing and listening to her instead of locked in a narcissistic bubble.
Hey 2 months ago I said my ex broke up with me because of long distance and I was moving back to her hometown because I wanted to move there for a job offer and you told me keep doing no contact until you arrive there. I just moved here 2 days ago and she keeps liking my posts on social media even the one where I took a pic of the back yard of my house and said a paragraph about that j moved here and I’m blessed. She saw that post but hasn’t messeged me or anything shes not dating anyone. What should I do I texted her 2 months ago but she seemed uninterested but she still sees my stuff??
I believe very strongly that outside influences have some bearing on the breakups. For example money problems, problems at work , health problems, etc. I believe these contribute to the breakdown of the relationship. If we don’t deliberately pay attention and put your loved one first. Then your are heading down a real steep hill and soon you will fall off the cliff.
When it comes to relationship advice and psychology of breakup then you should be careful in receiving advice because there are many clueless people who don’t know anything about relationship. After breakup your friend or family member surely gave you advice something like,
Alright so this one is a little messed up. About 6 months ago I traveled to Europe and met this girl in my home country. Things were great you know … we were both interested in each other and it really felt like things had fallen into place spontaneously like they should .. naturally. After a month, I had to leave and go back to school. 3 days later, her dad was hit by a car and was killed.
Girlfriend of 6 years left me a little over 3 months ago. Our last year had been a little rough as we had become too comfortable, lost a lot of excitement and stopped challenging ourselves to be better.
There’s no such thing as ‘being friends’ with your ex… especially if you still want her back. This is a myth, perpetuated by bad movies and people who are desperately trying to transition from being friends back to lovers again.
Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal.
You let your ex walk all over you. You become a doormat. You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. But your instincts tell you, it’s OK. Because having your ex in your life is the only thing that matters.
The 5th Step is very important because you will get a PDF that contains a complete roadmap for getting your ex back. This roadmap will show you every step that will bring your ex in your life. However, it is important to don’t skip of any the step mentioned in this PDF.
I now find myself wondering what the best way forward is, although he has given me some hope by saying that he still wants to date and try and rekindle the spark he has also crushed any hope I have by moving further away from me and saying that ok ye we’ll date but it might not actually lead to our relationship being given another go. I now find myself in this weird limbo where I don’t really know what to do and crying on a daily basis! I have read your article and have found it very helpful. Could you advice what you think would be best to do? Thanks.
3rd broke up(while improving on myself(not doing enough), we were chatting about things i did in the past, cant exactly remember if i confess everything in a proper manner to her, being not wanting to hide anything from her, i gave her a recap and told her everything, the very next day, she left)
Make a game plan for addressing the problem. Before you can make a move and start talking to your ex again, you have to think of a way to address the problem. Once you’ve figured out what it was, you can think about all the things you can do to fix it. If it’s relatively simple, then great, but be aware that some problems take a long time to fix.
It could be that there were things he didn’t feel okay about but never shared with you, or it could have been completely for no reason and he started taking the relationship for granted (hence the lack of effort), which is common for many relationships that have gotten too comfortable. If you really want to know, I suggest speaking to him and asking him to be honest.
it sounds like she’s avoiding talking to you because she thinks you haven’t moved on… because if she’s angry about something, she would be frustrated about it and then she would confront you.. but it looks like she’s irritated…
At the start, it might be better to avoid him so that you don’t have to deal with the negative emotions. Continue with no contact and even if you do see him, you could acknowledge him, but do not engage in small talk for the time being.
My ex and I split up about a week ago and I also moved out of the country we were living in together. It was a mutual split up, we had huge highs and a loving relationship but we just kept arguing a lot and couldn’t seem to fix this dynamic even thought we loved each otehr a lot. I now think we made a big mistake. Should I follow the NC zone rule or just get in touch now? ALso it is xmas coming up…
After breakup you have wonderful opportunity to re-discover the love, passion and emotions that you had once before getting into your previous relationship. Here I want to point out that you just can’t get your ex back by just searching about how to get your ex back or by reading hundreds of books on getting ex back. You have to make your efforts if you want to get into relationship once again with your ex.
If you behaved in 3+ of the above ways during the latter stages of your relationship with your ex, then the reason you lost her is because her attraction for you faded out. She will likely have told you some other bullsh*t reason for the break up, but the fact that you answered yes to the questions above, coupled with the amount of sense that the explanations I gave make, shows that dying attraction is unmistakably the cause.
hi kelvin, I broke with my boyfriend before six months after long relationship means five years he is 27 and am 28. we live in distant to work and only met to holiday and to break.we had no any sex history during those years I said to him sex must be after marriage and he said ok .before a year I said to him i don’t want him anymore but not from my bottom but the reason was we were in distant specially I was working in harsh environment plus and community and i was always want him in my side means I was always waiting my boyfriend to visit me but he was always busy this was the reason. and his friend call me and ask why i became like this and i understood my fault and I was calling to him but he was ignoring me and one day he was picking my calls and we were talk and regret each other and i back to my family to searching job and within two months we dated only two days but I need more date with him but he was busy and I was going to his work place and asking him why ignoring my calls and he said that he need clear cut I said why and we’re plan to date and to talk about it but we didn’t met. As he said now he was waiting my calls first but I was trying but he ignoring me after that I always messaged to him but no respond and again I was going to his work place with gifts he was surprised and dated to the next day and we did and I was asking why he was ignoring my calls he said he don’t want me any more he need freedom without stress and expose him self new hobbies like smoking cigarette ,drunk alcohol and chewing stimulate plants and i did no contact to 30 days and i did text to him no respond and what can I do next
#1 Who ended the relationship? If you ended the relationship but now you realize you made a huge mistake, that’s going to be a hard one to rectify. However, if she dumped you, you have a better chance of getting her back. [Read: Are you still in love with your ex?]
Correct bad habits. Now is the time to scrutinize your behaviors that led to the breakup and to try to self-improve. For example, if you feel that you and your ex broke up because you are too jealous or argumentative, try being more conscious of these behaviors and stopping them in their tracks.
Be the person your ex fell in love with. Try to think back to when the two of you first got together. What about you did he or she love? Was it your quirky jokes, or maybe your amazing sense of style. Whatever it may be, try to rekindle the fire the same way the flame was started before.
If you find yourself thinking things like “she might be the one,” or constantly talking about her to everyone within earshot, you’re probably in too deep – especially if it’s only been a few weeks or months. Take a step back and make sure you’re actually happy with yourself in general, and not just with the fact that you’ve managed to get a new girlfriend. Girlfriends aren’t just tools for validating your life.
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It is tempting to offload the burden of losing the girl to a single, out-of-character interaction. The answer is a cosmetic fix. Send a text. Apologize profusely. Stay the same and she’ll see it was all just a fluke.
Right now, you’re probably feeling and acting quite differently than what you’re typically accustomed to. You might even be giving off some negative energy to the people around you. I can tell you confidently that if you want your ex back, you need to put an end to the negative image you’re giving off.
With over 7 million women just like you coming to this site ever year, I’ve seen about every situation you could imagine. Most of the time, I can just ask a few questions about your situation and know in seconds the chances that you have of getting back together with him. I’ve compressed all of that wisdom into a single calculator ‘What Are Your Chances of Getting Your ExBoyfriend Back’.
so, I told her again today in a video recording(with a cover of a song) that i was sorry i hadn’t responded on her messages, but i was trying to move on and respect her decision of breaking up. which she again replied on with, she understands more than i know and she thinks of me more than i know. and she was sorry she spammed me and that she didnt think it through.
Hey guys i really need help. Me and our gf have gone through a breakup its not the first time this would be the third time. But i do not know if this one is serious. She said shes too young for a relationship she just wants to be single an live life. She does not want a bf. weve been together for 2 and a half years. I took her birginity and she took mine. But i dont want to lose her im desperate to have her back. I waited a couple of weeks then started speaking to her again. We caught up a couple of times just as friends. But even then she doesnt txt me unless i txt her. And when she replies its only short words. She actually got angry coz i went out with a few mates drinking and she asked if i hooked up with another girl. So that msg to me feels like she still cares for me but doesnt want a relationship. I snapped last night and txtd her and askes if she ever misses us. She said i dont think it can work anymore i just want to live life on my own. People are saying find someone new she was your first love. But the thing is i dont want to. We shared so many good times together. It was always me and her. She was me to a tea i couldnt see myself with anyone else but her. Shes the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. I need this girl back so bad its not funny.
If you still have any of the items that she gave you as gifts before, such as a jewelry, then make it a point to wear it when you’re planning to meet up. Such will send a clear signal that you are still not over her and you want her to be back in your life.